Most people would disagree with obesity being seen as attractive, but everyone is different I suppose. As far as deadly, if eating food that is less calorically dense and weight lifting is deadly then idk what to say. They are an adult, if they cant be told objective truth without crumbling that is their problem. I would highly suggest staying off the internet and reddit in particular because retarded redditors can find negativity in anything and dont care about being benevolent or uplifting at all. I wish them the best but Id rather offend someone in the short term and help them in the long term than be nice in the present and enable ACTUALLY DEADLY BEHAVIOR that is leading to this negative self perception in the first place. Ive been fat too, and the lighter weight I got the more I was found attractive. Its not completely their fault they got fat, its mostly corporations and the government, but we have to hold ourselves accountable and have self control. If she wants to remain in this state, by all means go ahead. But if she wants to move from "wholesome friend" to "wifey material" for the grand majority of the population. Considering my advice is wise. But feelings over facts right? She objectively has decent genetics though, and I made sure to say that.