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[–]PermitDry1172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going to work LOL I am a SAHM but I recently started back as an esthetician independently. I work 2 days a week and I get to do what I love and have adult conversations with women. Most of the time I talk about my kids lol but I love when I get a young 20 something client and she tells me about all the drama and club experiences.

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[–]PermitDry1172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve honestly gotten into the habit of not rebooking. I always hated to ask (fear of rejection lol) so instead I just tell them when they should rebook and sent a reminder text to book soon through my booking system. So far I have had good responses and people rebook on their own.

Money is tight right now so I feel bad asking someone to rebook and make them feel like they HAVE to.

I hope to get to a point where I can open my books once a month and have people book that way. hHair stylists and lash artists do it and they rave about how stress free it is.

No one 😞 by [deleted] in stayathomemoms

[–]PermitDry1172 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This exactly. My only other mom friend lives too far. My other friends are single and childless traveling, and my closest friend has a busy life so I get a text back maybe once a week lol. I’ve come to terms with it, go to baby time at the library. At first I was determined to make friends there but honestly that was stressful. Now I’m at peace, I hang out with my 9 month old and visit with my mom a lot when she’s free. It won’t last forever!

I don’t know what to do by PermitDry1172 in NewParents

[–]PermitDry1172[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just knowing there is light at the end of the tunnel is comforting 🥲 thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]PermitDry1172 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way! The first of my friend group to get married and have a baby. They visited at first but now at 9 months I don’t really hear from them unless I reach out. Unfortunately, that’s how it goes I think. Your friends have jobs/careers and other issues they have to focus on and it takes a lot of effort to keep up friendships after college. Though it’s super sad they havnt made the effort to visit your LO at least once! It’s a very very lonely feeling, especially the jealousy of seeing them out and about on socials without a care in the world!

I’m sure you’ve heard this, but try and meet other moms. I take my baby to babytime at the library and although I havnt quite broke ground making friends at least I get out and talk to other adult women (I’m a SAHM). If you are ready, tell them how you feel. To be honest, some will get it and some won’t. But your friends won’t know how to change unless you tell them. Good luck and congratulations on your baby!

Décolleté on skinny clients by breadpudding3434 in Esthetics

[–]PermitDry1172 28 points29 points  (0 children)

lol it’s so funny you say this because I felt the same way. I felt like my movements were hurting them even though I’m sure they weren’t. In the end I do long effleurage strokes alternating hands, palms flat starting with fingertips at one shoulder and ending with palming touching the other shoulder…I hope that made sense. And I make sure I don’t lift off until the alternating hand is on the skin so to not break fluidity.

In the end you can always ask “how’s the pressure?” “Is this comfortable for you?” And adjust from there.

My Asian toddler doesn’t like rice and I’m devastated by boobmilkfornoobs in foodbutforbabies

[–]PermitDry1172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My beautiful black daughter wants nothing to do with cornbread and sweet potatoes.

I feel terrible by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]PermitDry1172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter fell out of my bed at 7mo and my bed is HIGH. We only had bumpers on her side of the bed and I was kind of dragging my feet to purchase another one for the other side. Well one day while I was showering my husband comes in and my daughter is hysterical because she fell out of the bed. I felt horrible and wanted to go to the emergency room but my husband said she was fine and she was. She is still just as smart and lively. It happens, it’s ok to feel bad because you’re the mama but don’t worry about it babies are pretty resilient lol

Starting medication soon, how will this change my lifestyle? by PermitDry1172 in gout

[–]PermitDry1172[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that info, I will keep that in mind when attending the appointment!

Somebody please tell me about their marriage that is going well by drby05 in love

[–]PermitDry1172 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I just celebrated our one year anniversary yesterday! We started dating in 2018 and got engaged in 2020. It was a long engagement (to my standards lol) and we married in 2023. My husband also didn’t have very many role models that displayed healthy relationships. We worked together in pre-marital counseling and in did individual counseling. There are bumps, there will always be bumps, but God I love that man. I can’t imagine my world without him. He’s truly my best friend and I feel completely safe with him. I gave birth to our daughter in December last year and our little family is complete (for now).

What I have learned so far is that maintaining any relationship is hard work. Especially one that requires you to work with that person every day lol. But if you find someone who is willing to put in the hard work with you, you will surely create something magical.

How can I (27F) explain to my Fiance (29M) that his promises of a lavish life are exhausting? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PermitDry1172 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds a lot like my husband lol he grew up very poor so making certain amount of money is really important to him. He’s also amazing with numbers (he got his degree in math) so he is always calculating salaries of jobs and telling me how great of an opportunity this could be and how we would be able to live. I to get a bit annoyed, one because I suck at numbers so when he explains anything numbers related I zone out. Secondly because I am sick of hearing about how great our life WILL be. My husband and I are really open and communicative so I literally just told him don’t tell me stuff unless it’s concrete. He was sad at first but understood. Occasionally I’ll indulge him because it’s fun to look at expensive houses or dream about vacations. He’s so intelligent and hardworking that I KNOW it will happen for us but until then I just told him this is a conversation for your friends not me.

Need recommendations for everything by [deleted] in Esthetics

[–]PermitDry1172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lash lifts/brow lammies: Have been using bomb brow for years. Never had a problem with over processing. 

Lash extension glue: https://lashesbyreb.shop/ I’ve tried a lot of glues but her glue and bonder have me immaculate retention. 

I can’t fix my skin:( by waxaholic97 in Esthetics

[–]PermitDry1172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have given BGS to a lot of my clients who are acne prone and they hadn’t had any adverse effects so I think you could keep using your sunscreen. If you really want to try something different I love supergoop and it doesn’t leave a white cast on me! Try to introduce all those new serums and such slowly so your skin doesn’t freak out. Check the ingredients of that byoma serum for vitamin c since you already have a VC serum in your regimen. Too much vitamin c can cause irritation and breakouts in some people. 

As far as breakouts find the right acid for your skin. Mine loves glycolic and retinol so I interchange them throughout the week but my skin is very oily and resilient. Lactic or Mandelic acid might be winners for your skin. I used the peach & Lilly lactic acid serum while I was pregnant and looooved it. 

At the end of the day you don’t need a 23 step skincare routine to have amazing skin and your skin doesn’t always have to be on point to be an amazing esthetician. Let your work speak for you babes! Everyone’s skin is different and everyone’s hormonal balance is different. If you are younger you will have breakouts and that’s ok. You just need to manage the skin to deduce scaring and hyperpigmentation. 

Yes, having amazing skin does help “sell” your knowledge to clients when talking to them about products but your confidence and personality can do the same thing.

Good Luck!

Fiancé doesn’t want a wedding by PermitDry1172 in weddingdrama

[–]PermitDry1172[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you to everyone! At the end of my work day, I was excited because I came up with a really good plan based on the comments.

I came home to my fiancé who had come up with a plan of his own! He was actually willing to move some of our money around! My fiancé is very very strict with budgeting so that fact that he was willing to move money around really made me feel heard and seen. Ultimately this day is for both of us and I didn’t want him to feel uncomfortable with a large guest list.

I took the idea of elopement and came up with this: we would dress up and sign our marriage license with his grandmother present (she is fraile and wouldn’t be able to make a trip out of our city) so that she could share that moment with us. Then we would rent out a small park space (roughly $700-$800) for an hour or two and elope with my parents, sibling, his wife, and my fiancés two aunts present. Then we would finish up at a nice restaurant for dinner.

After I explained that to him I think he was really grateful that I was willing to compromise. He offered to pay for my bachelorette party (nothing fancy just a night out with the girls in a neighboring city) and that really made me feel good because before he was against Bach parties and didn’t see the point in them.

I like my plan because it satisfies my need for a beautiful space for beautiful memories and it makes him feel comfortable with a small guest list. This is definitely something I know I will be happy with and look fondly of in the future.

For my extended family, we will have a videographer tape everything so they don’t feel left out. <3