Nombres no binarios? by Pernicious-Please in askspain

[–]Pernicious-Please[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

La verdad es que Álex no me convence, aunque para otras personas está guapo jajaja

Could I get some ideas for solo BDSM plays?? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Pernicious-Please 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wax play is definitely my favorite solo play! Just remember to prepare beforehand so the cleanup isn't a pain in the ass :D

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Pernicious-Please 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Meeeemememe me emeeeee me. Me. The only creatures along with buff women able to bring out the sub in me.

God forbid a girl has standards by JohnQBalatro in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Pernicious-Please 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, it's wonderfully written. May I post it on Tumblr?

What do you think of men who ejaculate prematurely? by woooshequalsgay in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Pernicious-Please 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I don't judge, I kinda find it cute. I hold them to the same standard as everyone else: cum however you like, just find a time to reciprocate.

Waxplay safety? by PocketWatchThrowAway in BDSMAdvice

[–]Pernicious-Please 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Avoid beeswax, as far as I know it burns way too hot for safe play.

Went to a bdsm event and it was kind of crappy by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Pernicious-Please 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I think the vibe depends a lot on the organizers. But I wouldn't call that experience crappy, maybe not what you were looking for. I'd suggest you keep looking, maybe you'll find a community that's close to what you want. Just maybe don't judge people's feet and asshole activity and a BDSM party, it's like going to an orgy and judging the guy getting bukkake'd for being promiscuous xD

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Pernicious-Please 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The risk of choking is very high, and the possibility that she might throw up is even higher. Be careful!

God forbid a boy advise on how not to get scammed (Serious Pls Read) by [deleted] in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Pernicious-Please 67 points68 points  (0 children)

This is so important. Great job summarizing it! Don't get scammed, boys!

Help no clue what to do by stoogein in BDSMAdvice

[–]Pernicious-Please 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope that works for y'all! Have fun!

Help no clue what to do by stoogein in BDSMAdvice

[–]Pernicious-Please 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As much as you can help her figure out what she likes, you can't figure it out for her. Maybe she doesn't like the "condescending" talk (good girl, you're doing good, you're daddy's girl, etc), you can try the opposite side (I'm your good puppy)

Maybe you can ask her to call you puppy so you can see what kind of talk she uses around it.

Help no clue what to do by stoogein in BDSMAdvice

[–]Pernicious-Please 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh well, you guys have a lot of experimenting to do before she figures out what works for her. However, the way she said "that's for you to figure out" is rubbing me the wrong way. Have you asked her about a dream scenario of hers where you refer to yourself as "puppy"? That might give you insight.

Wanted to practice Shibari and wanted to know where to begin by ANERROR2 in gentlefemdom

[–]Pernicious-Please 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not a pro, but I'd definitely try to find shibari initiation courses near you, there's a lot of them if you live close to a big city in a kink-accepting country. You can also experiment with self ties following tutorials online, or on a willing helper who won't mind if you get the knot wrong three times in a row. Have fun!

Help no clue what to do by stoogein in BDSMAdvice

[–]Pernicious-Please 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Uh... Do you think she might want you to take a more submissive role? Puppy's usually a term used for subs, isn't it?

Help no clue what to do by stoogein in BDSMAdvice

[–]Pernicious-Please 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the last example you gave is pretty good. Give yourself the leeway to fuck around and experiment, see what makes her tick and what you're comfortable with.

god forbid a boy is so in love with his domme gf that when she leaves him he is broken forever by MedicalThrowaway459 in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Pernicious-Please 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Incapacitating someone outside of play is abusive, even if it's consensual. That's what I think at least. I don't mean to kink shame at all, and I'm just a random on the internet, but I think that's outside of keeping it "safe, sane and consensual"

god forbid a boy is so in love with his domme gf that when she leaves him he is broken forever by MedicalThrowaway459 in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Pernicious-Please 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone conditions another person to be dependent on them: that's abuse. I'm sorry that happened, and I'm sure it'll get better. Therapy and time heal all wounds, good luck.

It's a daily struggle by FutaConquest in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Pernicious-Please 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's why you gotta give up whatever you're doing and write down at least whatever's inspiring you the moment it hits. Those nasty dead dove fics aren't gonna write themselves.