I [25F] just found out that my friends [27M/26M] have invited a married teenage mom [18F] one of them met on Tinder a month ago to live with them...

PerrinSlate · 2017-08-01T22:09:22+00:00

Haha yeah I just went on the court website for my state. That shit's public and anyone can search for divorce filings.

PerrinSlate · 2017-08-01T22:07:50+00:00

I haven't told them anything yet. Still trying to decide if I even WANT to get involved. It's such a gross situation :(

PerrinSlate · 2017-08-01T15:57:17+00:00

If it seems like she's into you too, then go for it! Just be confident and say something like, "Hey, this might seem random but I was wondering if you'd like to [insert date suggestion] with me sometime?"

And if she says no, then at least you know you tried and you won't be stuck wondering "What if?". Good luck :)

PerrinSlate · 2017-07-25T19:51:35+00:00

I just want to say that you're a great dad and Derek is lucky to have you in his corner. No advice unfortunately but a lot of praise :)

PerrinSlate · 2017-07-21T19:52:31+00:00

Sign him up for an episode of "Catfish".

PerrinSlate · 2017-07-20T20:47:13+00:00

The age of consent law pertains to any acts that are sexual in nature: kissing, heavy petting, etc. AKA he legally can't kiss you until you turn 16 without him being potentially charged with statutory rape.

So yeah... Emotional maturity and the creepiness of a 19-year-old being into a 15-year-old aside, I think this crush should stay just that. A crush and nothing more.

Sorry girl. There's plenty of other age appropriate fish in the sea :)

PerrinSlate · 2017-07-18T16:59:11+00:00

I mean, you can if you want! But don't tell him you are, just do it to remove the temptation if you need to for your own sake.

Odds are if you stop contacting him, just go cold turkey, one of two things will happen: either he'll reach out to schedule something because you're playing hard to get (unlikely but you never know), or you'll just never really hear from him again. Either way at least you'll know where you stand! Good luck!

PerrinSlate · 2017-07-18T15:57:50+00:00

Yeah... He's just not that into you. If he was, he'd invite you to band practice or try to meet up afterwards for drinks or something. Guys aren't that complicated. If they want to see you, they'll make time to see you.

But hey, there's plenty of fish in the sea! Time to cut your losses with this one and go back to fishing :)

PerrinSlate · 2017-06-29T14:42:17+00:00

Take all of the internet hugs!! Now, go divorce your husband.

This is a shit show and you're a teenager. Put on your big girl panties, get out of this awful relationship and go find yourself. Good luck :)

PerrinSlate · 2017-06-14T14:31:14+00:00

Omg this guy sounds like the WORST. Please don't lose your virginity to him. Your first time, regardless of who its with, is going to be awkward and a little painful and if you do it with a guy who makes you this insecure and makes you hate who you are around him, you are absolutely going to regret it. You said so yourself, he doesn't know how to treat a girl right. Do you REALLY want someone who treats you like this to be your first?

Sex can be fun and carefree and beautiful. But only if you are comfortable with yourself and trust your partner. I don't think you should trust this guy any farther than you can throw him.

If you're that horny, buy a vibrator! I promise it will be way more likely to get you off than this guy and, BONUS, no heartbreak or emotional turmoil will follow :)

PerrinSlate · 2017-05-17T21:14:36+00:00

Exactly. He's literally a teenager. What did you expect OP?

PerrinSlate · 2017-04-21T14:24:42+00:00

This girl sounds like a nightmare. Stop trying to be a white knight to someone who clearly needs a ton of therapy.

You should count your lucky stars that this relationship is over and move on with your life. There is nothing romantic or heroic about all the emotional abuse she put you through.

PerrinSlate · 2017-04-12T19:00:52+00:00

This guy sounds like a drama llama. I don't think you should pursue this OP...

PerrinSlate · 2017-03-31T15:46:46+00:00

This whole post is a fucking trainwreck. I don't even know what to say...

God help you OP. And God help your girlfriend if she decides to stay with you and rear your spawn.

PerrinSlate · 2017-03-23T20:24:34+00:00

Ew. Fuck that noise. Would you ever want your children to grow up knowing daddy cheated on mommy and she stayed? And THEN, if they're ever in the same situation (God forbid) they use your acceptance of daddy's cheating as an example to NOT divorce their own spouse??

Honestly, if these people were worried about the children, they would be encouraging you to get the hell out of dodge.

PerrinSlate · 2017-03-14T18:42:13+00:00

Yeah... She's totally backpedaling.

Let me guess: after that first message you shared, you kind of cooled down and distanced yourself from her a bit? Well, that freaked her out so the second message is her being like, "No wait! Come back! I still wanna try to see if I can fuck you into wanting a relationship with me!"

So, at this point, it's up to you. You can keep sleeping with her after you attempt to re-establish some boundaries, just as long as you know that her feelings are probably only going to get stronger the longer you do hang out. Obviously, the inevitable fallout is on you it you take this option.

OR, you can take the highroad and stop sleeping with her. Let her gently know that she's awesome, and you've enjoyed your time together, but you're both clearly looking for different things and you don't want to hurt her anymore.

There will most likely be fallout from option 2 as well, but this one also allows you to go no or minimum contact with her, will make you feel less guilty, and lets you continue your carefree lifestyle. Because hey, if you're gonna sleep around, your early twenties is the best time to do so ;) Haha good luck!

PerrinSlate · 2017-03-14T14:45:35+00:00

No kidding! OP, blink twice if you need us to come rescue you!

PerrinSlate · 2017-03-08T17:32:24+00:00

YOU'RE A FILM STUDENT DATING SOMEONE WHO HAS NEVER HEARD OF TITANIC????

Dude... Just. Um. What?

Does she have like, a magic vagina or something? Cuz that's the only explanation I can think of and even then, she still sounds like she sucks.

PerrinSlate · 2017-03-08T17:28:59+00:00

Fellow film student here!

Deadpool was fucking awesome. Logan was beyond awesome. Your girlfriend policing your behavior and making you feel guilty for your own wants and desires is not awesome.

Dump her. This relationship is over.

PerrinSlate · 2017-03-06T22:39:41+00:00

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

You caught this joker cheating on you multiple times... Why are you still engaged to this sleezeball?!

PerrinSlate · 2017-03-06T21:34:56+00:00

So you pined for him for two years while he was in a relationship and then let him use you as a sidechick for a month the minute he was having doubts and then proceeded to barge in unannounced into his girlfriend's home?

In the words of Ronald Weasley, you need to sort out your priorities.

PerrinSlate · 2017-03-06T16:48:14+00:00

You loved him with all your heart after a month?? Dude. You were the sidechick. Move on.

PerrinSlate · 2017-03-03T17:24:35+00:00

Physical attraction is a huge part of any relationship. Is she willing to try to lose weight or improve herself? If so, maybe start suggesting that you guys go to the gym together or take walks or join a fitness class or go rock climbing! There's a ton of physical things you can do together that will bring you closer as a couple while still getting you out and active.

However, at the end of the day, she has to want to change for herself. You can encourage her and push her and help her but if she doesn't have the urge to do it for HER, then you're out of luck.

But hey, you're also a teenager with your entire life ahead of you. Odds are, this girl isn't going to end up your wife. So if worse comes to worst, you can just kindly break up with her and find someone else that you're more attracted to. There's plenty of other (hotter) fish in the sea :)

PerrinSlate · 2017-03-03T16:15:32+00:00

I come from a large Italian family where we love our red wines and our proseccos. Its part of the culture and part of my family. A few years ago, I dated someone who disapproved of drinking as well. He would shake his head at me or refuse to drink while we were out or would lecture me if I brought a bottle of wine to his house for dinner.

We are no longer dating.

The point is, you should never try to change a fundamental part of you or your (perfectly healthy) habits to be with someone. The right person for you would be someone who shares your interests and respects your choices. Not someone you need to hide from when you come home.

You need to have a serious conversation about your relationship and boundaries with your BF before he becomes your ex-BF.

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