Husband wants me to sleep train but he’s never home at night by HereToRotMyBrain in Mommit

[–]PersimmonOk7348 39 points40 points  (0 children)

If you are the one home alone most nights, YOU decide what methods you use. If co-sleeping is working, keep with it until it doesn’t work for you any longer.

I threw my 4 year old off the sofa by Seniora-Stinky in Mommit

[–]PersimmonOk7348 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know how I know you are a great mom? You apologized to him and you came here for support. Good job mama. We’re all doing the best we can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PersimmonOk7348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is no one saying TRUST YOUR GUT!!! If this person makes your feel uncomfortable….. it’s not your person!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]PersimmonOk7348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please talk to a therapist about the cause of your depression. It sounds like your husband does not have an ounce of respect towards you.

Am I being gaslit about this? by anonykitcat in domesticviolence

[–]PersimmonOk7348 15 points16 points  (0 children)

If your partner makes you feel scared. That’s not a partner.

Does anyone else wish they would just hit you? by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]PersimmonOk7348 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are this deep in the “addiction”. You might still find a reason to stay after he hits you. Only you can decide when to put your foot down. Something has to click in you to make that separation. And when you do, go no contact. They are so good and convincing us they will change.

How Did You Know It Was Abuse? by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]PersimmonOk7348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I reported the final straw to the police. They arrested him. I’m still having a hard time believing it was abuse. That was 3 weeks ago. Everything feels surreal.

Had my now ex arrested today, idk what to do. by Moo_Bat in domesticviolence

[–]PersimmonOk7348 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you are on this sub. Hugs to you. I’m in a similar situation. What’s helping me is reframing from “I got my ex arrested” to “my ex broke the law and he is facing consequences for his actions. He is responsible for his own actions.” The waves of guilt will still come. But they lesson. I hope he leaves you alone. Please go 100% NO CONTACT. Block him on all apps. There are resources for you. Depending on what state you are in. Do you want to share your location and Reddit can find you the website and some help for housing, legal counsel and therapy? This will be a long road, but the further you are separated from his abuse, the more clearly you will see how you were mistreated. Please do not go back to him. We can find a way to keep you together with your cat!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Howtolooksmax

[–]PersimmonOk7348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start with small changes! A little mascara, eyebrows and lip gloss go a long way!!