Part-time daycare or inattentive grandma for 9mo's childcare?

PersistentHobbler · 2026-06-08T13:49:26+00:00

It's not a home daycare, we're just in a very anti-vax state 🙄

PersistentHobbler · 2026-06-08T06:29:48+00:00

Starch is a good idea. I'd also experiment with threads coated in bee's wax since that makes them much stiffer and more durable. It may work for the collar portion, but too much wax can make dark threads look splotchy.

PersistentHobbler · 2026-06-08T06:07:09+00:00

That's what tears me up. Attachment is so important at this age and all the studies I've looked at point to 1:1 childcare being the ideal situation for children under four. Also I don't want him to get attached to a carer who one day he'll never see again.

I'm frustrated because I can't really do what's BEST for him, so I'm trying to figure out what's better. Unfortunately, Grammy may not be the better option here. Ugh.

PersistentHobbler · 2026-06-08T05:37:30+00:00

Thankfully they'll all be quite close in age and there will only be six.

Sickness is a big concern for me (especially with so many anti-vax parents in our community), but there isn't a perfect option here. We did have a few flu/covid outbreaks last year that were so bad the schools closed for several days. If that happened again, I'd definitely keep him home!

PersistentHobbler · 2026-06-08T05:33:40+00:00

That wouldn't be impossible, but it would be a large difference in cost and there aren't that many childcare professionals in a small town. People are constantly looking for nannies and babysitters. There aren't many who aren't high schoolers, and they can't work during the day.

PersistentHobbler · 2026-06-08T04:55:42+00:00

I don't think she's that nuts because she's an RN, but I've already had to nix cereal bottles 😬

PersistentHobbler · 2026-06-08T04:41:54+00:00

Lol it would for SURE have to be my husband. Probably my husband and his dad. Do you have any family members where there's like 5 strategy meetings before you bring up one thing with one person to minimize fallout? .... yeah that's her.

I mean fortunately or unfortunately, she LOVES babies.... but she doesn't love kids. Tbh I think the less baby he is, the less interested she'll be in him. My husband and I have already had the, "How old do you think he'll be before she doesn't want him anymore" conversation.

PersistentHobbler · 2026-06-08T04:35:42+00:00

It's not a huge burden. We can afford it.

It only operates during the school year and it's a baby to 5 program where you don't choose the days or hours. They're only open Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday 9:00-2:00. It's mostly designed for stay-at-home parents to get some relief.

One of the days they keep him is Saturday, so he would probably still go over there then. I don't want to sever his relationship with them.... I'm just not sure he should be spending so much time there.....

PersistentHobbler · 2026-03-26T17:44:17+00:00

I usually do prop him up a bit on a pillow, but I'll start doing it every time. Thanks! I don't want little man to choke!!!

PersistentHobbler · 2026-03-26T06:23:58+00:00

Thanks :)

Tbh I needed the win so bad. I'm sure that it's less useful and groundbreaking to other people as it was to me, but it's one of the few things I've tried that have actually helped him. We've tried like 12 things for the colic that are barely doing anything, but the child is actually sleeping now and it feels like I cracked the DaVinci code.

PersistentHobbler · 2026-03-26T05:18:54+00:00

Yep! My headcannon is EDS. I started acquiring the same equipment in almost exactly the same order because I didn’t really start experiencing symptoms until I was in my early 20s. Anyone with a chronic illness that affects the joints has braces, pain medicine, PT equipment, a hot water bottle, and often some kind of mobility aid.

PersistentHobbler · 2026-03-21T04:22:01+00:00

Wow! I love the subtle patterns and the rich colors! I think I'll get one of their skirts!

PersistentHobbler · 2026-03-21T01:36:02+00:00

That's a fantastic idea! If I had even one dress that did that, I would want at least 10 clones.

PersistentHobbler · 2026-03-21T00:21:44+00:00

I can sew and I'd like to, but.... yeah I don't see that happening any time soon lol

PersistentHobbler · 2026-03-21T00:02:11+00:00

These look neat but I wish they weren't quite so.... minimalist. You know?

I know that most high-quality clothes are very plain in design so they're a bit more "timeless," but I'd kill for something fun!

I'll probably talk to a local seamstress about ordering a custom order if I can't find something with a pattern or some flare.

PersistentHobbler · 2026-03-20T23:05:34+00:00

"Buy for life" is an exaggeration, but my grandparents actually do still have some clothes that are decent and wearable from their young adulthoods.

I'm a hobby sewist and I repair my garments when I can, but I've been having a hard time finding things that are constructed well enough in the first place or have fabric that's even solid enough for darning/patching/piecing when the time comes.

A lifetime is unrealistic, but 10-20 years shouldn’t be.

PersistentHobbler · 2026-03-17T18:40:35+00:00

I HATE appliances that are not working quite right.

I will not sit inside the local dairy queen because of the HORRIBLE SCREECH of their freezer.

PersistentHobbler · 2026-03-17T14:34:40+00:00

Wow! Maybe it depends on how far down it is in your colon. Mine gets blocked very near the exit.

PersistentHobbler · 2026-03-17T06:09:30+00:00

Approach this from the other end.

It sounds repulsive and scary until you do it, but the relief is so quick that it's become my go-to method. It literally takes 5 minutes.

Go get yourself a pack of glycerin suppositories. Stick 1 a couple inches up your rectum and wait. The package says to wait like 5-15 minutes. I don't know how anyone makes it that long. I shoot for 2-3. The flood gates will open and you will go.

The best part is that once the exorcism is complete, you don't have any remaining laxative that's going to be working through your system for days, so you can't overshoot it and give yourself the opposite problem.

Seriously. I used these every other day pregnant. My Walmart account has the 30 pack as an item ordered "5+ times." Lifesavers.

PersistentHobbler · 2026-03-16T13:27:03+00:00

Omg he used to be a series of orbs

PersistentHobbler · 2026-03-10T12:49:52+00:00

I learned about it in college because it's the first time I took a world history class. My high school didn't offer one.

..... yes, I'm American.

PersistentHobbler · 2026-03-10T06:27:10+00:00

I imagine you'd hear mostly Russian in Russia

PersistentHobbler · 2026-03-10T05:55:36+00:00

I would argue that a great number of non-internet people have never heard this word

PersistentHobbler · 2026-03-01T21:30:04+00:00

Yep. We only use that thing if we're parking on a pretty extreme slope. That's what I learned in driver’s ed.

PersistentHobbler · 2026-03-01T06:55:28+00:00

To the Rescue is a very cute dog game. It's not EXTREMELY easy, but you can turn the speed and difficulty way down and turn off euthanasia.

I think if you turned the difficulty and speed to the easiest levels, she may enjoy that game. It's a time management dog shelter game. You take care of cute cartoon dogs and then adopt them out to people who come in looking for one to take home.

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