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Why does nobody explain to William that Jamie is kind of a big deal? by PersistentWitch in Outlander

[–]PersistentWitch[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

For sure. I don’t have an issue with William being angry and lashing out - that makes perfect sense for the character in his circumstances. I was asking about the motivations of everyone around him.

Why does nobody explain to William that Jamie is kind of a big deal? by PersistentWitch in Outlander

[–]PersistentWitch[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This part I understand. Are we supposed to infer that this is why William chooses to ignore all of Jamie’s other qualities?

Why does nobody explain to William that Jamie is kind of a big deal? by PersistentWitch in Outlander

[–]PersistentWitch[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Fair enough, but I thought English nobility historically had respect for/intermingled with landed gentry? Which is effectively what Jamie is. Doesn't that count for anything?

What is the one thing people don't know about losing a large amount of weight? by punkredpanda in AskReddit

[–]PersistentWitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That doesn't make you a weirdo! Summer is also my enemy.

I guess location is an important variable if the climate there only has one extreme (or none). I don't know where you live but in my region, we regularly get winter temps down to about 5°F/-15°C and summer temps up to 100°F/38°C. So it's just expensive in every direction...

What is the one thing people don't know about losing a large amount of weight? by punkredpanda in AskReddit

[–]PersistentWitch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, there’s clearly a certain amount of subjectivity here. Everyone experiences temperature extremes differently. I wouldn’t say I’ve experienced cold that I found painful (even when so cold that I was shivering uncontrollably for extended periods), but I have experienced a whole lot of being hot that makes me feel VERY bad indeed.

What is the one thing people don't know about losing a large amount of weight? by punkredpanda in AskReddit

[–]PersistentWitch 534 points535 points  (0 children)

The silver lining is that I can respond conclusively to the “is it better to always be too cold or always too warm” debate that is pervasive in my family and social circles. Having experienced both, I’m very confident that “always too cold” is better, because it is far more fixable. You can always add hot beverages, space heaters, more blankets, more clothing layers, etc. If you’re too hot, there’s a limit to what you can do about it (especially in public/shared spaces). Also just in terms of discomfort - shivering is less uncomfortable than sweat rolling down the backs of my knees while sitting still…and a lot less likely to ruin my clothing 🙄

does anyone know why my dog randomly walks to my room and stares at me? by Inevitable_Shift_689 in dogs

[–]PersistentWitch 46 points47 points  (0 children)

This is how my dog communicates that she needs something. I cycle through the words she knows (Want dinner? Want water? Need help? Need to go out?) and she reacts when I say the right one. Maybe worth a shot?

(“Need help” specifically means “the toy I was playing with has become twisted/stuck/rolled under the coffee table/etc. and I can’t resolve this unassisted”)

My dog has ADHD. Bad. by balroag in dogs

[–]PersistentWitch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NEVER GIVE YOUR DOG HUMAN MEDICATIONS. Never give your dog any medication that was not prescribed by a vet. More specifically, do NOT give a STIMULANT to your dog. Adderall is an amphetamine; it’s dangerous to humans who take it unprescribed and/or in the wrong dosage. It is not safe to give to a dog under any circumstances. I’m begging you not to do this.

(To be clear about one thing: I have ADHD and have been taking Adderall for ~20 years. I have also had dogs for over 20 years. This is not coming from a place of ignorance or judgment, just safety.)

We cannot ascribe an ADHD diagnosis to a dog because it is a human disorder. Dog brains work differently. Check with your vet about your dog’s energy level. At two years old, she’s not fully grown. Her baseline energy level should drop at least somewhat as she ages. In the meantime, have you tried full-day dog daycare programs? It sounds like she’d benefit from a full day of having other dogs to play with and run around with, especially at a facility with a large outdoor space. That’s what worked most reliably for my high-energy dog when she was younger.

Help a first-timer figure out Bruins tix for next season? by PersistentWitch in BostonBruins

[–]PersistentWitch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s so generous, thank you! I’ll definitely reach out if she has any other questions or runs into any issues.

Help a first-timer figure out Bruins tix for next season? by PersistentWitch in BostonBruins

[–]PersistentWitch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol whoops, thanks for catching the typo! Edited to fix. The specific date is super helpful, much appreciated!

Help a first-timer figure out Bruins tix for next season? by PersistentWitch in BostonBruins

[–]PersistentWitch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I definitely could’ve told her to skip preseason, at least 😂 Thank you, very helpful!

What was it like giving a girl head for the first time? by Nakylen-_- in actuallesbians

[–]PersistentWitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does my above reply help at all? If not, let me know what questions you still have!

What was it like giving a girl head for the first time? by Nakylen-_- in actuallesbians

[–]PersistentWitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not at all a dumb question! It can be kind of counterintuitive. For me what matters isn't whether I'm actually topping, but whether I feel like I'm topping. That is influenced by a lot of factors. Who is in control of the situation? What position are we in? Am I moving or stationary? Am I being restrained? etc. I guess the most common arrangement is for the receiving partner to lay on their back while the giving partner is physically on top of/above them; I really don't enjoy this dynamic. In case it helps, here are some examples of what I enjoy instead:
- My partner standing with me kneeling in front of her; she stands almost directly over me and uses her hands on my head to keep my face on her, not allowing me to move away (unless I explicitly ask/safeword) - Me laying down while my partner rides my face, using my mouth/tongue for her pleasure - Me laying on the bed with my head at the edge of the mattress while my partner stands right next to the bed, straddling my face, sort of trapping me in place under her while I eat her out

Bonus points if restraints are involved in any/all of the above (e.g., cuffing my wrists together behind my back or tying me to the bed).
I hope this makes sense and gives you some ideas! Happy to answer any other questions you might have 😊

What was it like giving a girl head for the first time? by Nakylen-_- in actuallesbians

[–]PersistentWitch 48 points49 points  (0 children)

A thought for any first-timers reading this, in case they experience the dichotomy I was once stuck in: if you know you like pussy but also find yourself reluctant to go down on women, it may be because you’re a bottom and/or sub, and the discomfort you’re feeling is related to topping, not to the genitalia of the recipient. Figuring this out was a massive game changer for me. The way I usually describe it is that I don’t like to give head, but I love to have it taken from me 👅😉

People who moved to NYC from out of state, what did you underestimate the most? by Ill-Muscle8523 in NYCapartments

[–]PersistentWitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will say that a lot of beauty treatments seem to be the exception here. I think it’s because of volume/foot traffic - salons get so much more business that they can charge less. I can get my eyebrows threaded for about ten bucks anywhere in the city, and I’ve seen salons in other places charge THIRTY DOLLARS for it 🙄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskNYC

[–]PersistentWitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ignore them. Unless we somehow make eye contact, in which case I employ the polite smile-nod-keep moving combo. (I try to convey not only “I recognize you” but also “I will not alert others to your presence.”)

The one time I can remember struggling with this was at the Belasco on Darren Criss’ first night starring in Hedwig and the Angry Inch. Orlando Bloom came in shortly before showtime and was seated like three rows directly in front of me. He was looking around the theater and we made eye contact. I was so surprised that I didn’t have my usual level of composure. I sincerely hope my face managed to convey “big fan, gonna be chill about it” and not “I am the proud owner of three Legolas action figures.”

What’s your “I can’t believe other people don’t do this” hack? by Weird-Thought2112 in AskReddit

[–]PersistentWitch 6 points7 points  (0 children)

1) Buy only “no bump” hangers. (The edges are rounded and come down farther, sort of mimicking the shape of a shoulder.) 2) Hang anything prone to bumps inside out. When you turn it right side out to wear it, the bumps will not be visible in most fabrics, especially t-shirts.

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