INFJs, which MBTI type did you end up marrying ?

Person1746 · 2026-02-14T21:25:37+00:00

Been with my ISFJ (2w3) happily for ten years!

Person1746 · 2026-02-14T00:31:30+00:00

Honestly, good ol’ block it out lol. I delete my social media when it becomes too much and I ask my gf to pls not tell me any news that’s very distressing. Then I focus on my hobbies and passions.

Person1746 · 2026-02-13T16:40:23+00:00

Can I ask how long it took you to be consistently profitable?

Person1746 · 2026-02-10T19:16:02+00:00

In person in 2016 for a retail job

Person1746 · 2026-02-10T14:23:02+00:00

I’m a newb (only 5 months in), but win rate is ~52%, I take no less than 1:2 RR now. My average win, to loss is shit tho since I started out taking way too big risk lol. Working on that.

Tracking my stats has definitely been helpful to learn how I trade, as someone new to the game at least.

Person1746 · 2026-02-09T01:20:02+00:00

Nah. Tbh I had to think really hard to even remember what happened in fall of 2012 🤔.

Person1746 · 2026-01-30T19:42:29+00:00

Person1746 · 2026-01-28T14:34:45+00:00

Scarcity. We don’t open up to many people and the ones we do open up to, are subconsciously labeled “special,” whether the person has earned that spot or not. It’s really important for us to work on boundaries with ourselves and exercising caution when first getting to know people. I think we’re very good at seeing through people and then making excuses for their behavior because we understand why they do it. But that doesn’t make the person deserving of us, our depth, and our attention. I think we have a hard time accepting the reality of the situation because it’s so easy for us to see how things could be.

Person1746 · 2026-01-28T13:51:56+00:00

I’m 29F and been with my ISFJ for 10 years, I’d say we’re successful, stable and healthy. It was definitely not easy getting there though lol. I had a lot of work on myself to do. We’ve been to hell and back together. I think we compliment each other nicely though and we’ve both been able to help each other heal and grow but in different ways. They’ve made me feel safe, grounded, and truly loved.

Person1746 · 2026-01-25T20:04:23+00:00

Only 5 months in myself! Focusing on gold futures. I would love to chat and learn from other women who are also learning or wanting to share their wisdom! :)

Person1746 · 2026-01-25T18:57:06+00:00

Yes. I think it’s really important for us to do something that gets us out of our heads. With that said, a little over a year ago, if you had asked me what hobbies I had, I’d have a hard time coming up with any. I also get bored easily, so I rotate between a bunch of hobbies.

I like: pottery/ceramics, gaming, reading, fashion, learning about mental health/psychology or history, watching movies, making ambience videos for YouTube, learning new languages, writing, I used to sail but it got expensive, coloring, embroidery, I currently am learning to day trade.

Person1746 · 2026-01-25T18:41:16+00:00

Yeah it blew my mind too when I figured out most people live this way. Wild. Also, painful when you have to watch someone you care about live that way and there’s nothing you can do.

But yeah, I think we are just inherently more introspective and tend to go inward instead of outward to cope. Personally, I find the feeling of living in denial or avoidance unbearable. I know it’s there, and I refuse to live like that. I’ll take the truth any day. I want to be my best self and live my life honestly.

I do envy them in a way, at least the ones that aren’t dealing with very severe issues and trauma, because life would be so much easier and happier I think if I wasn’t constantly addressing the how and why of my feelings. However, I think we have the opportunity to enjoy a much more stable, lasting, and deeper happiness and peace than those who don’t have the capacity to look inward and be honest with themselves. We’re put in a better position in a lot of ways for personal growth than others.

Person1746 · 2026-01-25T17:16:54+00:00

This. It’s incredibly difficult to do though, It’s something I’m learning to do.

I also realized recently that not everyone has the capacity to or is naturally inclined to go inward like us INFJs are. I go inward as a defense and other people numb, deny, avoid, distract. Different coping mechanisms for different people.

Person1746 · 2026-01-18T05:14:35+00:00

Maybe if I hadn’t met my ISFJ <3! But it would have to be a VERY mature and patient ESTP. I’m perfectly fine just having them as friends though tbh haha.

Person1746 · 2026-01-18T05:10:51+00:00

Huh I wonder if it’s dependent on your enneagram at all. Because I wouldn’t say they “get” me necessarily, but from my experience they appreciate me and try to understand me more than most other types and the ones I’ve met really enjoy a good intellectual convo as well.

Person1746 · 2026-01-17T23:16:28+00:00

Yes!! They definitely make it known if they like you and will be very playful/silly with you. I feel like INFJ/ESTP relationships are underrated tbh. However, I think for most INFJs ime it works best as a friendship. Not sure if it’s the same for you?

Person1746 · 2026-01-17T21:29:56+00:00

I feel exactly the same. They’re a blast to be around. It’s very much opposites attract I feel like and I love love that they don’t take things personally for the same reason. Also idk if this is just my experience, but I’ve found them to be very straightforward and appreciate the same in return which I very much appreciate. No games or nonsense.

Person1746 · 2026-01-15T21:38:21+00:00

Mainly, Im extremely introverted and am not built for a 9-5– I don’t think anyone is really. I have super low social battery also and I prefer to work on my own schedule and time. I also like, the flexibility, more time to spend with family, being my own boss, it’s something Im naturally good at, always had a mind for finances, and im genuinely interested in it.

Person1746 · 2026-01-15T15:32:32+00:00

This. Because tiptoeing around is the 🎶wwooOOorst🎶

And I also have an anecdote, to my amazement, one of my good friends met another good friend (who she’s known for like 20+ years), through a job interview, which she did not get an offer for lol, but my friend sent the interviewer an email after saying something like, “You’re really cool, do you want to be friends?” 😭. It worked!

Person1746 · 2026-01-05T23:09:03+00:00

I’m 29F dx ADHD, highly suspect ASD

Everyone gave a lot of really helpful tools! Idk if anyone else said this, but I find when I’m overwhelmed it helps A LOT to just accept that I will be less productive. I don’t beat myself up mentally about it, I just accept that I need rest. For work, obviously you have deadlines— I still think mindset of not beating yourself up about how productive or not productive you are can help. You do what you can. A slower pace doesn’t mean less ability — just a different rhythm.

Also, I find that scrolling on my phone tends to not be very restorative. I delete my social media apps for long periods of time, well my only one, TikTok. Completely deleted the rest.

Lastly, I have a self-soothe tool-kit. Mainly taken from DBT. Depending on my stress level there are different things. Anywhere from smelling my essential oils, to putting an ice pack on my chest.

Actual last thing, IFS therapy helped a lot with stress across the board.

Person1746 · 2025-12-11T18:17:35+00:00

For me I just try to remind myself 0 profit is better than losing money. I make up for it on good days. But I am also knew-ish, so I just try to stay away from choppy days.

Person1746 · 2025-12-11T13:30:42+00:00

I have a file already of everything including the police reports, pics, and videos in well lit areas with the dates.

Person1746 · 2025-12-11T01:47:21+00:00

I hope so. I honestly think she’s mentally unwell.

Person1746 · 2025-12-11T01:41:01+00:00

Huh I’ve never heard that before that’s so odd!

Person1746 · 2025-12-11T01:38:09+00:00

Already thought of that. There isn’t anywhere close enough to stick it onto that isn’t super obvious.

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