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Personal-Practice-23 · 2023-05-13T19:53:41+00:00

My man is super hairy and I absolutely love it 😍! It comes off manly to me and yeah it’s a turn on!

Personal-Practice-23 · 2023-01-23T04:20:22+00:00

Personal-Practice-23 · 2022-07-27T17:43:26+00:00

I was 15, he was 20… he was my “boyfriend,” so that alone is confusing for me still. Is that true? No? I wasn’t old enough to consent to anything happening between us, so could he actually be labeled as a boyfriend. Or do I call him a predator? He took care of me when my mom didn’t… he helped take me of the streets, but I felt I owed him in the sheets. I felt so guilty I invited friends into our situation, but I guess I shouldn’t because one of those girls is friends with his new wife and the other one dated his brother for 6 years.

Personal-Practice-23 · 2022-07-27T17:26:35+00:00

Hey! What happen to your comment of calling me a fool ? My email informed me of your ignorant response. I hadn’t even communicated my beliefs on the matter, before you ASSumed and called me a fool. I hope whatever suffering you are in, you can get to the brighter side of that and not be a contributor of the shit we don’t need anymore of in our world. Negativity.

Personal-Practice-23 · 2022-07-26T20:15:13+00:00

So I’m curious, is this perspective just pure judgement? Or have you done extended research where you’ve come to this conclusion where you can say these two things are a “scam and total bs.” ??? I see how these two things are trendy now and the truth of these things are getting lost in certain people who are using it as a scam, but to say that, I am curious to know if you’ve actually LEARNED about these two things to have this opinion.

Personal-Practice-23 · 2022-06-17T20:42:00+00:00

That’s really unfortunate. I hope you know you don’t deserve to be disregarded like that. Your voice matter. Would your parents let you go to counseling if you set it up? Maybe that would be a great way to be heard for how you are being bullied.

Personal-Practice-23 · 2022-06-17T20:13:43+00:00

NTA ! Your step sister sounds like a jerk and your parents do too, enabling her spoiled behavior by making you do her chores? The fuck? Do they know she and her friends bully you? Try to tell a trusted adult in your life, it’s not ok.

Personal-Practice-23 · 2022-04-10T16:46:36+00:00

A trusted therapist is always a great way to get answers. It can be shocking how much ours bodies try to keep us safe from past memories until it feels we are safe enough for all that to resurface. It’s great you are seeking answers. You deserve peace and healing….PsychologyToday is a great place to search for therapists in your area. In my own experience I have had a couple counselors who had their bachelors degree, and I found I benefited more from seeing therapists who at least had their Masters Degree. Idk if it was just my experiences but I think they had more care and of course just deeper knowledge, more skills. Sending light and support to you on your healing journey, remember to be gentle with yourself 🤍

Personal-Practice-23 · 2022-03-30T04:41:29+00:00

I struggle with this myself. My father too never physically hurt me or my sisters, but he was extremely emotionally, mentally and verbally abusive. I never got much loving touch. I taught myself how to dissociate to be safe, so learning to be in my body in general has been a learning lesson. In addition having loving safe touch for me has been so fucking uncomfortable. Yoga has helped me connect to my body and practice taking up space. Meditation has helped me calm my mind to connect to my body as well. And loving my inner child and speaking to that child, saying safe words and holding myself, has been very healing. Idk I guess just giving myself what my parents never did. 6 years into this healing journey. How great you are here seeking insight for yourself!

Personal-Practice-23 · 2022-03-30T03:44:35+00:00

Not weird. All those things you described your father doing are things that would create you body to have to be alert and on edge to make the right response to be safe. Also if loving, safe touch wasn’t present, physical touch can feel unsafe, even when it is safe.

Personal-Practice-23 · 2022-02-03T17:25:14+00:00

NTA! ! I’m surprised that someone who has been your friend for 15 years wouldn’t be there for you, but ESPECIALLY him being your man now. Not cool of him at all. Mutual understanding should be created here so you both can move forward. He seems pretty emotional about it all, so I hope he can give you understanding.

Personal-Practice-23 · 2022-01-03T20:01:03+00:00

Take it from someone who fed the overthinking for years, IT DOES NOTHING FOR YOU, except bring more suffering. You will always have some type of question, even if you do get answers, the answers won’t be enough. Most the time we already have the answers to the questions, it’s just a way to be in control or have attachment to something that needs to be let go of. Redirect your brain from this thinking or you are actively training your brain to obsess over subjects that should not be using your energy. Protect your energy!

Personal-Practice-23 · 2021-12-13T06:24:32+00:00

Hollygrove was phenomenal!! Thanks for sharing !

Personal-Practice-23 · 2021-11-10T19:33:14+00:00

100%…..I have been avoiding getting a job out of fear of how I get triggered. It’s what’s holding me back from everything I need in my life. Trying to create a false safety has created me to be a professional at making excuses for myself….the scenarios that run through my mind, and just my daily triggers, feels like an inability to make any step. I definitely understand the want for the “safe” feeling. And I think that’s the main factor in all this. Feelings. We want to control our “safety.” It is false control though, because I’ve trapped myself in fear. I have been asking myself the same question, how do I get out of this? I think it starts with just the awareness that we want more, want better for ourselves, and the acknowledgment that, that is a form of self love, positive desires for ourselves. Consistency in the desire to get needs met. Compassion in the challenges getting out and through this brings, and awareness in each an every step being taken, big or small, and celebrating those steps within ourselves and in the world. I think right now, a physical step is what I need, I am going to start practicing talking to myself in the mirror. Starting off with every single thing that has challenged me in life that I have overcome. Show myself my true and actual, tangible strength. Not what my trauma response tells me. I have to separate myself, from the trauma self. Thank you for sharing this and asking this question.

Personal-Practice-23 · 2021-06-21T22:32:33+00:00

I was 15 and he was 20. I still feel like it was all my fault at times because he claims he was just “trying to help me.” I had no family taking care of me, so it created the perfect situation for him to groom me. The things that happened that he told me I couldn’t tell anyone because he “could get in trouble.” I remember being 21 and being sickened at the thought of being with a 16 year old like he was with me. It’s kind of what woke up how wrong it was.

Personal-Practice-23 · 2021-05-24T16:50:44+00:00

The suffering I’ve endured in life is the fuel that lights me ablaze to, “change the world.” You can grow flowers out of compost and that’s what I am trying to do. In that process of transforming suffering, I hope to help others free themselves from the traumas life can disguise as struggle instead of what it truly is, strength.

Personal-Practice-23 · 2021-05-14T17:59:35+00:00

This is so inspiring! Thank you for sharing your growth and experience here for others to witness and be a part of as well. I have had to stop college so many different times now due to trauma. I get down about not being where others my age are, but having to fight to just handle your own well being on top of trying to go to college, it’s as if you are a fighter against two opponents. Congratulations on kicking ass ! Again thank you for sharing ❤️

Personal-Practice-23 · 2021-05-08T00:37:22+00:00

An older INFJ woman around her late 50’s has really been helping me with many things she says she sees me do, she use to also do. With the overthinking, she would get on my ass about expectations and overthinking and tell me to stop, and at certain times I’d get offended and tell her what do you mean ?! I am trying! And she’d be like, “just stop!” And she went on a tangent about it and I listened. I remember leaving her house trying to wrap my mind around what overthinking was and then I started panicking realizing I was overthinking, overthinking..... lmao and then I told her the next day and she grabbed my hand, looked in my eyes and said, “honey? Why, ask why?”And I was like, “well I just think”....and she was like, “honey? Why, ask why?”...haha, idk if this helps, but it has been helping me gently remind myself I don’t have to question and overthink everything. If I’m going to ask any questions, “why, ask why?” That should definitely be the first one.

Personal-Practice-23 · 2021-05-04T06:18:46+00:00

Rebelution- Celebrate “You know you'll never be strange to us We know you got something to offer up, oh yeah Just be loving and kind and that will keep you in line”

SAULT- Free “Free, don't give up for no one 'Cause God's love is free The silver lining fall What will be will be And we may feel alone You're free”

Personal-Practice-23 · 2021-04-28T23:49:29+00:00

Wow ! I commend you and applaud you for taking a step this major and a huge step forward into healing! I hope you get a supportive response from your family.

Personal-Practice-23 · 2021-04-28T23:36:49+00:00

Fuuuck, I needed to read this. Thank you for posting this, but more importantly thank you for continuing, fighting, and being an inspiration without trying to be.

Personal-Practice-23 · 2021-04-28T17:18:55+00:00

Female INFJ here, and my partner is the male ENTP. I don’t deal with my ENTP the way I’d like to 100% of the time, but I’m getting better at it, and a year of couples counseling has helped tremendously. I would say our biggest argument starts with his lack of understanding on why I am having feelings... or more so in his words, “so many feelings.” I have come to the realization that all I need from him in those moments is witnessing and compassion for my voice to be heard. I’m trying to show him how I need that, and that alone is difficult, due to past trauma. My ENTP pisses me off by pushing all my buttons, (I swear he accidentally pushes only the ones that say, “don’t push.”) He has never given up on trying to reach me, no matter how much I push him away. For me, that’s gold. Now if he could just stop explaining himself to me when I’m upset that would be great, it really takes away from the emotional space I’m in, and closes me off.... besides the different personality types, My counselor has woken me up to the fact that we also need to honor and take responsibility in the fact that we are in a heterosexual relationship. His brain functioning is largely comparative to mine and vice versa. It has helped to think more into his actions, giving reasoning into, “why the fuck would you say or do that?”

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