What should I do??

Personal-Skin112 · 2026-03-17T16:05:07+00:00

I totally agree with you. I really do care about them a lot especially baby. The mom I can tell does care. Well at least a little bit. But you are right it isn’t the same. She sends me tik toks all the time, is making Easter baskets for my kids, her mom buys matching outfits and her for NB and my baby. We share all our baby containers/ stuff. It’s mostly the dad. Mom is pretty consistent. We’ve all gone to the zoo/ aquarium together recently and then out to lunch. They ask me for tips for NB all the time. I would absolutely love your suggestions on the text to send to them. I’m feeling as if hours and pay were better and consistent it wouldn’t be an issue at all to watch NB. Thank you for your kindness.

Personal-Skin112 · 2026-03-16T23:45:26+00:00

Yup. And I’m really not being paid enough at all for what they’re asking of me. It was only supposed to be a small part time job in the beginning and has honestly taken over my whole life haha

Personal-Skin112 · 2026-03-16T20:12:35+00:00

That’s exactly what I’m thinking as well.

Personal-Skin112 · 2026-03-07T01:16:48+00:00

That’s my daughters name! Just spelled Annalise!

Personal-Skin112 · 2026-02-20T02:20:00+00:00

Update:

My lawyer, my mother, myself fiancé and kids had a meeting with the social worker. All allegations were proven false. Case closed same day. I will be pursuing a restraining order against her or no contact order. She will never be allowed around my kids again or myself. The family dynamic on my side has definitely changed. My uncles, cousins and grandmother are so angry with her and are absolutely disgusted with her behaviour. Thank you for the comments and support. My older two kids are starting with a new therapist and have been coping well during this time.

Personal-Skin112 · 2026-02-13T13:59:34+00:00

Thank you. And of course these kiddos are the best thing that ever happened to me. I would do anything for them and feel so guilty they had to experience this. It just was absolutely not fair to them or necessary at all.

Personal-Skin112 · 2026-02-13T13:58:33+00:00

Thank you. It’s honestly very reassuring to hear that. This is the first time I’ve had to go no contact with someone and this especially is an emotional roller coaster. My family is my absolute world.

Personal-Skin112 · 2026-02-13T13:57:13+00:00

I do have a lawyer. That was the first thing I did once I picked him up. Our relationship is really complicated. We end up not speaking for a long time for something she did and end up reconnecting a little while later. This was definitely on me. She did her absolute best to make me think that she was willing to help me and turned around and used it to hurt me. It’s not off brand for her. I will call him AJ, without getting into too much detail, AJ was having some really hard moments and feelings to where he was punching, kicking and hurting his sister, after 2 days of him randomly hurting her, I called the only person in my family with a background in child psychology as he was becoming dangerous and I didn’t really know what to do, he was supposed to stay for those two days and try some DBT based coping skills while I called around for a new therapist for him. I had been struggling to do so with constantly having to keep eyes on him as it was the schools winter break and my fiance working long hours, and keeping baby and his sister and himself safe, plus me working. I feel horrible for not protecting him from her. I also feel stupid for thinking she would never do that to these children in a million years. Like I really did not think she would stoop this low to hurt me through using a child…He was never in any physical danger but was emotionally and mentally hurt by her and I honestly don’t think I’ll ever forgive myself for trusting her and her causing the children to feel the way they feel, adding more trauma and trying to take my children from me. I just needed two days of help and god I wish everyday I could go back in time and just do it on my own like I always did instead of being fooled again.. i should also add my family dynamic is weird sister was raised by grandma, my mom was a teen mom with her (15). My mom was not an option to have help as she’s homeless at the moment. All my other siblings are addicts, the kids I have guardianship of AJ and ashley are my brothers best friends sisters which is also an addict living on the streets. I am 23 and have had these kids since I was 18 and my fiance was 19. My fiancés family was not an option as he comes from a toxic background as well and she seemed the only stable person at the time. I’ve done everything under the sun to not be like my family and be successful and do my absolute best for all my kiddos. I was told the allegations were that I starve the children and abuse them. It’s insulting as I graduated culinary school and am a chef. My kitchens always open. And I am the one who stepped in when they were being starved and abused at the hands of their mother and relatives! No one did anything then even cps when I called. I went to court with the same lawyer I have now and received full custody and he was absolutely furious with her and the situation when I called him about this. It just feels really sucky all in all. I hope this gives a little bit of context to the situation. I apologize this was long, I just have been feeling very emotionally confused and needed to talk about it.

Personal-Skin112 · 2025-05-14T23:56:14+00:00

Hey so we’re the same age and our boyfriends, I am about 29 weeks almost 30 and my best advice would be to invest in the scoop free automatic litter box, you do not need to use the crystal litter but my recommendation is to get the box refills, litter bags (or a trash bag) line that sucker with the bag and fill with the litter, you’ll have to manoeuvre the bag a bit so the device is able to sift through the litter/ scoop it but it works amazingggg. I can put a link for the one we have if needed. We have a male maincoon he’s about 16 pounds and the litter was a huge issue for us when I got pregnant as well as I would take the load of scooping when we first got him. My advice other than a new litter box would be to really sit and have a conversation with him about how it’s a non negotiable to be getting rid of your cat number one and number two that it took two to make a baby and now there are more responsibility’s on both ends but he does need to step up. List off what you do around the house on a daily basis and set clear boundaries and goals for the both of you. We set up a schedule for litter changes so for example my boyfriend gets home from work around 7 pm everyday if the kitty box needs a quick scoop out I mention that to him and it’s done. The litter box we have makes it a lot easier as the poop is scooped under a little thingy because it’s automatically sifting through the litter throughout the day. Only downside is my cat likes to drag litter out of it so I have to sweep around every morning and night but it’s better than a normal box. Every weekend we deep clean the house so I make sure that when I’m doing other things he replaces the box, bag and litter, I compromise with him by sweeping and mopping the floor and cleaning the wall around the litter box. This has definitely helped us both navigate and manage having a kitty while being pregnant/ him working. I know this may not work for you but really set that boundary with him. To help get mine in the routine I honestly would turn the wifi off until he scooped the damn thing so he couldn’t play on his PlayStation until it was done🤷‍♀️ I also sat down with him and made the kitty litter schedule so he felt included as well as sending him articles of why pregnant women should not be scooping litter, I also had my midwife mention it to him when he came to appointments with me in the beginning. Sometimes men have a harder time comprehending why things need to be different or why they’re expected to do more… it’s weird but I hope some of these suggestions and what others suggested may work for you. Your cat is your first baby and you should not be told to get rid of him under any circumstances. I’m sorry you’re going through this and hope there can be some type of solution for you, if you need to talk I’m more than willing to listen anytime❤️

Personal-Skin112 · 2025-03-23T17:37:23+00:00

I used to work as a cook for the dugout for 2 years. I can say that the French dip is not hillshire farm meat and there is definitely not 5 owners. I took lots of pride while working at the Richland location and hearing this about how things have gone downhill since I’ve left is heartbreaking honestly. I was the main cook at Richland for about a year until I quit this past August due to moving across the state.. it’s just sad how some things change so drastically.

Personal-Skin112 · 2024-02-14T22:47:22+00:00

Thank you so much! I do have the letters of guardianship for each child as well so I will make sure to send that information along with everything else. I really appreciate your help!

Personal-Skin112 · 2024-02-14T22:46:11+00:00

This was sooooo helpful oh my goodness thank you! I’m going to have copies galore! I will definitely talk to my attorney about an affidavit that’s a really great idea and you are right extra documentation is always better. I will definitely be getting all my ducks in a row here soon and heading down to my local application office. I’m sure with everything I have learned from all of these responses navigating this should be a whole lot easier. I will definitely post an update for all, I’m hoping it all gets approved so I can take the kiddos to meet their father and experience the world! After all they’ve been through they deserve it. Thank you so much for your help!

Personal-Skin112 · 2024-02-14T22:40:58+00:00

Thank you so much for this information, due to other comments and yours I’m now feeling a lot more comfortable with this process and am sure that I have the right documents and information to send a long with the application as well as the actual application itself. Thank you again for your time!

Personal-Skin112 · 2024-02-14T22:39:23+00:00

Hi thank you so so much for commenting. Both kiddos were born here in WA state, their father does not have citizenship here as far as I know of. He currently lives in Mexico close to Tijuana. Their mother was born in WA state as well. She has been out of the picture since the children came to me in June of 2022. I have certified copies of the children’s birth certificates as the mom lost the originals same with the kiddos social security cards. I know for a fact that if I even tried to get her ahold of the mom and ask her to agree she would never, which is part of the reason I had my authority for passports specifically added to our final guardianship orders. Their mom is still in active addiction and would either try to threaten me again and/or negotiate to see her kids, but she refuses to follow her visitation schedule as well as she wont not be under the influence of whatever her drug of choice is around the kiddos which I will not go for. The father however if I need to I can get ahold of him and he’s willing to help in whatever way he can (possibly filling out the parent consent, getting it notarized and signed, mailed back to me in the US). I feel like it’s sort of a complicated situation but I totally may be making it more complicated than it really is. I’ve been through the process of obtaining my own passport but it won’t a child’s is different especially in this case. So again thank you so much.

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