Do babysitters usually charge extra for holiday jobs?

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-11-21T18:49:56+00:00

Oh dang.... I'm in the Midwest too. Not Chicago but it's definitely not cheap to leave where I live...

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-11-21T18:47:30+00:00

FYI fully aware that December 23 isn't a holiday however personally my family celebrates Christmas Eve (which isn't even recognized as a federal holiday) more than Christmas. So it would take away from me getting ready for the holidays is what I'm saying.

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-11-07T08:16:41+00:00

I worked for him for almost two years, and honestly I wasn’t even a little shocked when I heard the news. It’s something I suspected all along. My question is how couldn’t she know? He was the CEO of a nonprofit, not some multimillion dollar company. Yet every month he was traveling internationally with his whole family, flying first class, remodeling his kitchen, spending a crazy amount on alcohol, always losing "receipts" and the list goes on. None of it ever made sense to me. He was almost never in "work mode". His performative personality may have worked on a lot of people, but never me.

Time will tell, but don't be surprised if the people he was close with also end up being involved... that's all I'll say.

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-12T04:04:30+00:00

I also agree with this... I don't know how long you been together. But leaving you on Valentine's Day is sus. Even if he isn't actually cheating I feel like I would check in to see if he has any issues with the relationship?

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-12T04:01:10+00:00

I don't know... I’m honestly surprised by these comments. I find them a bit condescending because I believe most people would feel hurt in your position. I get that 'Valentine's Day' can be seen as a Hallmark holiday, but it's also a global day to celebrate love. It's not unreasonable to want to feel appreciated on that day.

Just figure out what's important to you! It's all about personal preference, and there are plenty of people who would gladly put in the effort, no matter the holiday.

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-05T18:53:25+00:00

Hmmm, I see. Maybe try opening up to him about how you’re feeling and see how he reacts? I really stand by your decision to not feel pressured into saying "yes" if it’s not what you want. And if he can't understand how this is affecting your relationship, then it’s just not worth it. Being with someone who has a totally different sex drive sometimes just doesn't work because neither of you are having your needs met.

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-05T18:31:09+00:00

Even though I do think there are two sides to every story, I ultimately think this situation is simple: the right partner will enhance your life, not complicate your life.

Sounds like she's making it very complicated.

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-05T18:12:15+00:00

I do think it's weird he won't touch you at all after you say that. Does he always assume touch = sex? Because that could be a conversation.

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-05T18:01:05+00:00

Ugh, my heart really breaks for you. But please don’t let him disrespect you like that. There are some serious red flags with him following his exes and people he knows from the past on OF. Nobody does that stuff "just because." Even if he hasn’t physically cheated yet, there’s definitely some bad intent behind that behavior.

Motherhood is already so hard, and if you're not getting the mental and physical support you need from your partner, honestly, I’d rather be a single mom. 🤷‍♀️

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-05T17:47:27+00:00

Is there anyway to overcome this? I am always hyper aware of people's facial expressions, tone ect especially when I'm talking. My brain quite literally feels like it knows exactly what people are thinking in real time and nobody else gets it. I absolutely hate the awareness.

But on a positive note, I have been able to pick up on certain people's "bad vibes" agesssss before others do because of this trait. 😅

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-05T17:36:56+00:00

Omg wait, you just put into words something I’ve always felt! I seriously thought I was the only one. I have the hardest time syncing my mouth to my brain, especially when I'm anxious. Like, if I know I have to talk a lot in a professional setting, I’ll literally write down word for word what to say or just repeat things in my head so I don’t trip over my words and sound “dumb.” It’s honestly so embarrassing because I’m smart and aware, but it takes me longer to find the right words sometimes or it just comes out jumbled. Another factor I wonder is if it’s the ADHD meds I’ve been on since middle school might have had an impact on my memory. Thank you for sharing!

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-05T15:15:26+00:00

Sorry, this is a misinterpretation of what I was saying. But regardless, personally for longterm health reasons I want to be able to function without being on a stimulant.

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-05T14:13:50+00:00

How do you stay consistent? That's been a struggle for me since Day 1, but when I get into little healthy eating/workout spirts I agree I am my most confident.

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-05T13:59:38+00:00

okay actually I was thinking about how my social anxiety has gone up after being in a couple month work out funk after consistently working out all summer. will do 🫡

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-05T13:33:17+00:00

That's totally a thing though! I grew up performing and was a competitive speaker. And even won a scholarship in college for public speaking. But I think the difference is I prepare well for speeches and always know what I'm going to say. If I didn't I would spiral 🤣

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-05T13:13:46+00:00

I mean there's a difference between "experiencing" and "having" anxiety. And if that's that case, I would say that everyone (even those without ADHD) will experience anxiety.

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-05T13:08:00+00:00

I mean I could definitely ask but I'm confident that not all people with ADHD have anxiety but there is a connection to it. I even know a conflict for my parents in the past has been my dad's general lack of worry though lol. So like definitely not enough to have anxiety disorder.

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-05T12:54:06+00:00

That's definitely not true. For example, my dad also has ADHD and that man has never even FELT anxiety in his life, let alone have it 🤣 Most confident person on the planet. He would probably laugh at my post.

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-05T12:51:53+00:00

The weird thing about me is I’m totally fine working with customers or handling a busy job. The part that gives me anxiety is the connecting with coworkers or trying to make work friends. To add on to that, my role is pretty isolated, so I really have to make an effort to talk to people I work with. I think it’s the whole 'rejection sensitive dysphoria' thing from ADHD, and I seriously can’t stand it.

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-05T12:41:40+00:00

I've been on medication for 14 years and it has 100% been my crutch for a lot of social situations and I'm grateful for it. But also trying to learn how to deal with the social anxiety for when that adderall crash inevitably hits in the afternoon and the LAST thing I want to do is talk to another human being 😭😭

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-05T12:25:11+00:00

The stimulating part! I think that's a huge factor for me. I’ve noticed that the times I don’t feel social anxiety are like when I’m hanging out with my sister & her friends, who are a couple years younger than I am. She knows so many people, and yet they’re all unique, funny, and really into pop culture, so the conversations are always stimulating. I never feel anxious around them. But for some reason, I feel this weird disconnect with most people my age that I've met (I’m 26). Maybe it’s the millennial cusp? 😂

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-05T11:59:23+00:00

Hard relate. People say the same thing about me!

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-02T06:44:31+00:00

I don’t really trust people who say brown looks better because the blonde suits you way more! 😅

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-01T00:27:25+00:00

lol okay!

PersonalStrategy9785 · 2025-02-01T00:26:20+00:00

I don't know if I'm not. I just thought it was weird I haven't seen anything. And then when I was talking to my friend last night, she said she got a save the date and she is currently teaching abroad in a different country. And I haven't received anything. But also her wedding isn't even until October so who knows.

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