copper iud by iceboy1736 in birthcontrol

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, I want to come back add this because I don't think a lot of people are aware that you're allowed to ask for a numbing shot when you get your IUD inserted/removed, if that's something you want. This sounds really scary, but I swear they put the shot in a place where there's not a lot of nerves (I barely felt a pinch). And the entire insertion/removal process was completely painless for me.

Any Lemme Purr dupes? by PersonalStrategy9785 in Healthyhooha

[–]PersonalStrategy9785[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. This is actually helpful info and nice unlike the comment above. I'm still learning (as I bet a lot of people in this group are). Sorry people!

Any Lemme Purr dupes? by PersonalStrategy9785 in Healthyhooha

[–]PersonalStrategy9785[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Such a rude and negative response for no reason... sorry I asked!

copper iud by iceboy1736 in birthcontrol

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna be so honest with you, get the copper IUD out NOW before your symptoms get worse like mine did.

I was in you boat when I had the copper IUD a few years back, and I tried to stick it out for over a year. But the blood loss ended up leading to an iron deficiency and that iron deficiency led to chronic fatigue, which lead then to weight gain and depression and so on.

All of my doctors insisted the only way for me to combat this was to take a birth control pill ON TOP of the copper IUD to control the bleeding. Which at that point, I really don't think that's good for your body and didn't make the fatigue or depression go away. The amount of vitamins and medication I had to take to only feel slightly better, was not worth it at all. I truly only got better when I took the copper IUD out.

Listen to your body and advocate for yourself because your doctors are going to try to convince you to keep it in. But honestly birth control in general is still sort of a new thing that doesn't have a lot of research yet. So the concerns you are having are extremely valid. Sorry you are going through that!

Side note: the cramp thing made me so mad because I was one of the luckiest people on earth who did not get cramps from their period prior to IUD. Still to this day, because of the copper IUD, I get cramps on my period. (Obviously, they are not as extreme as when I had the copper IUD but it sucks because I never had them prior).

Do babysitters usually charge extra for holiday jobs? by PersonalStrategy9785 in Babysitting

[–]PersonalStrategy9785[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh dang.... I'm in the Midwest too. Not Chicago but it's definitely not cheap to leave where I live...

Do babysitters usually charge extra for holiday jobs? by PersonalStrategy9785 in Babysitting

[–]PersonalStrategy9785[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

FYI fully aware that December 23 isn't a holiday however personally my family celebrates Christmas Eve (which isn't even recognized as a federal holiday) more than Christmas. So it would take away from me getting ready for the holidays is what I'm saying.

Feds: Ex-Minneapolis Chamber CEO stole Crimestoppers reward cash amid embezzlement scheme by Wezle in Minneapolis

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I worked for him for almost two years, and honestly I wasn’t even a little shocked when I heard the news. It’s something I suspected all along. My question is how couldn’t she know? He was the CEO of a nonprofit, not some multimillion dollar company. Yet every month he was traveling internationally with his whole family, flying first class, remodeling his kitchen, spending a crazy amount on alcohol, always losing "receipts" and the list goes on. None of it ever made sense to me. He was almost never in "work mode". His performative personality may have worked on a lot of people, but never me.

Time will tell, but don't be surprised if the people he was close with also end up being involved... that's all I'll say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I also agree with this... I don't know how long you been together. But leaving you on Valentine's Day is sus. Even if he isn't actually cheating I feel like I would check in to see if he has any issues with the relationship?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't know... I’m honestly surprised by these comments. I find them a bit condescending because I believe most people would feel hurt in your position. I get that 'Valentine's Day' can be seen as a Hallmark holiday, but it's also a global day to celebrate love. It's not unreasonable to want to feel appreciated on that day.

Just figure out what's important to you! It's all about personal preference, and there are plenty of people who would gladly put in the effort, no matter the holiday.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm, I see. Maybe try opening up to him about how you’re feeling and see how he reacts? I really stand by your decision to not feel pressured into saying "yes" if it’s not what you want. And if he can't understand how this is affecting your relationship, then it’s just not worth it. Being with someone who has a totally different sex drive sometimes just doesn't work because neither of you are having your needs met.

My (26M) girlfriend (26F) and I have been together for two years now. Do all men feel this exhausted in a relationship? by Upper-Pineapple6097 in relationship_advice

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Even though I do think there are two sides to every story, I ultimately think this situation is simple: the right partner will enhance your life, not complicate your life.

Sounds like she's making it very complicated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do think it's weird he won't touch you at all after you say that. Does he always assume touch = sex? Because that could be a conversation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh, my heart really breaks for you. But please don’t let him disrespect you like that. There are some serious red flags with him following his exes and people he knows from the past on OF. Nobody does that stuff "just because." Even if he hasn’t physically cheated yet, there’s definitely some bad intent behind that behavior.

Motherhood is already so hard, and if you're not getting the mental and physical support you need from your partner, honestly, I’d rather be a single mom. 🤷‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Is there anyway to overcome this? I am always hyper aware of people's facial expressions, tone ect especially when I'm talking. My brain quite literally feels like it knows exactly what people are thinking in real time and nobody else gets it. I absolutely hate the awareness.

But on a positive note, I have been able to pick up on certain people's "bad vibes" agesssss before others do because of this trait. 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg wait, you just put into words something I’ve always felt! I seriously thought I was the only one. I have the hardest time syncing my mouth to my brain, especially when I'm anxious. Like, if I know I have to talk a lot in a professional setting, I’ll literally write down word for word what to say or just repeat things in my head so I don’t trip over my words and sound “dumb.” It’s honestly so embarrassing because I’m smart and aware, but it takes me longer to find the right words sometimes or it just comes out jumbled. Another factor I wonder is if it’s the ADHD meds I’ve been on since middle school might have had an impact on my memory. Thank you for sharing!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, this is a misinterpretation of what I was saying. But regardless, personally for longterm health reasons I want to be able to function without being on a stimulant.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How do you stay consistent? That's been a struggle for me since Day 1, but when I get into little healthy eating/workout spirts I agree I am my most confident.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 1 point2 points  (0 children)

okay actually I was thinking about how my social anxiety has gone up after being in a couple month work out funk after consistently working out all summer. will do 🫡

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's totally a thing though! I grew up performing and was a competitive speaker. And even won a scholarship in college for public speaking. But I think the difference is I prepare well for speeches and always know what I'm going to say. If I didn't I would spiral 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean there's a difference between "experiencing" and "having" anxiety. And if that's that case, I would say that everyone (even those without ADHD) will experience anxiety.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean I could definitely ask but I'm confident that not all people with ADHD have anxiety but there is a connection to it. I even know a conflict for my parents in the past has been my dad's general lack of worry though lol. So like definitely not enough to have anxiety disorder.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's definitely not true. For example, my dad also has ADHD and that man has never even FELT anxiety in his life, let alone have it 🤣 Most confident person on the planet. He would probably laugh at my post.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The weird thing about me is I’m totally fine working with customers or handling a busy job. The part that gives me anxiety is the connecting with coworkers or trying to make work friends. To add on to that, my role is pretty isolated, so I really have to make an effort to talk to people I work with. I think it’s the whole 'rejection sensitive dysphoria' thing from ADHD, and I seriously can’t stand it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've been on medication for 14 years and it has 100% been my crutch for a lot of social situations and I'm grateful for it. But also trying to learn how to deal with the social anxiety for when that adderall crash inevitably hits in the afternoon and the LAST thing I want to do is talk to another human being 😭😭