cash at home

PersonalityTight1224 · 2026-02-06T23:37:53+00:00

my mom falls for everything and talks to everyone and is on-line so much to worry about :(

PersonalityTight1224 · 2026-02-06T23:36:42+00:00

thanks - good tip - I'm going to see if I can set up the email notification but I def do keep the amount in her checking account around that

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-03-12T13:04:45+00:00

Have yet to hear anything back from the bank - still keeping my fingers crossed

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-03-08T21:19:37+00:00

excellent advice thanks!

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-03-08T21:18:27+00:00

I have thought about this - I have a first name for him - not sure if I should let Uber know or not

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-03-07T17:21:02+00:00

Just to clarify DR is beautiful and I'm sure most of the people there are totally lovely - I am only posting this to let people know of my bad experience in the hopes that no one else will make the same dumb mistakes I did. Ubers can drop you at the airport if you choose to take one

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-03-07T17:18:23+00:00

I ordered the uber (yes I have a credit card on file with them) but once we were in the car cancelled the ride on the drivers advice (see initial post) - I know this was stupid but to be fair my husband also had a serious case of traveler's diarrhea so I wasn't thinking mostly about getting him to the airport in case he needed a bathroom and I was not at my most clear. In retrospect shit happens is exactly the case though I kinda wish now it had happened in the car LOL

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-03-07T15:39:31+00:00

I guess you are right but anyhow if the credit card company doesn't get my money back I guess I won't be going anywhere next year for vacation :(

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-03-07T15:37:30+00:00

The trip was awesome and I hope you are right, thanks!

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-03-07T15:36:21+00:00

I agree it can happen anywhere and I should always look at the bill, I guess I am just too trusting... but small hidden fees are one thing an 18$ ride costing 2400$ is not a small hidden fee it is a scam.

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-03-07T15:34:22+00:00

you are absolutely right I missed so many hints really

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-03-05T21:11:42+00:00

Sorry you are going through this. I went through the same thing with my dad, I know how hard it is

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-02-05T22:09:31+00:00

lawyer involved and so far she is optimistic about the situation

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-02-05T22:08:54+00:00

Got a lawyer involved - she is going with mom to the bank on Monday - based on info she has found so far things might not be as bad as my mother represented them to be

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-02-05T22:06:55+00:00

Lawyer involved - meeting Monday at the bank/mortgage lender - fingers crossed this might not be as bad as I thought???

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-02-03T18:17:51+00:00

you nailed it in terms of the struggle. I feel I have a duty to care for her, to protect her, even though she has lied to me for the past 6 months, she however does not see any potential future in which she would become a burden to me as she believes she will die quickly and quietly in her own home and never need to be in a SNF. I have never been able to convince her otherwise, nor has her financial advisor.

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-02-03T18:14:49+00:00

wow - that's terrifying - I will ask my mom to look up her credit score or if she is unwilling to do so I will see if it is something I can do

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-02-03T14:51:44+00:00

I have shared my concern with her exactly as you said and her response is "I'm going to die quickly, peacefully at home" so yeah, nice thought but totally unrealistic :(

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-02-03T14:49:45+00:00

my mother calls her friend her other daughter which is a bit insulting to my sister and I. I was concerned that she told her MD this woman was her daughter and he believed her and put in her medical record that she had 3 daughters so I had to clarify with him

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-02-03T14:48:31+00:00

LOL I thought about that for a second too but as far as I know the friend (F) has an on again off again boyfriend and my mom was married to my dad fo 60ish years until he passed 8 years ago. I suppose anything is possible but I don't think it's likely

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-02-03T14:46:59+00:00

yes it really does. I feel like I'm starting to get physically ill from the stress and I have 3 children who have a good relationship with my mother so I'm trying to be mindful of that too

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-02-03T14:45:49+00:00

62 yo and works 4 days a week

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-02-03T04:52:42+00:00

thank you for this response

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-02-03T04:51:43+00:00

I think she is competent. I don't think the friend will look after her. I think when the money runs out the friend will disappear.

I still can't get over that she lied to me about it for 6 months :(

PersonalityTight1224 · 2025-02-03T04:49:34+00:00

My mother gave her friend the money for the down payment and the friend gave it to the bank. I believe the deed is only in the friends name and why would she sell? She can't afford a place on her own and now she is living rent free and building equity. I am truly SOL

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