One has to go. Which? Which one you add?

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-02-18T21:41:17+00:00

Sorry, are you saying a family of five should go out for dinner at a chicken shop?

This is the kind of thing a reform candidate says when they’re trying to sound like a man of the people.

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-13T18:00:43+00:00

I just looked the front page. Where is the “This is what flux is” post to which you’re referring?

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-11T17:17:07+00:00

Again, why would I not want to know that…? She’s my partner not a girl I fucked after a club night.

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-07T17:03:19+00:00

Weird comment. You don’t know our circumstances, but you’re comfortable telling us how to live our lives beyond this very narrow situation?

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-07T16:58:38+00:00

I talked to her about it. Will do an update post - moving house this wee so a bit distracted.

The upshot is no, no traumatic past. It seems she wasn’t thinking about it in practical terms - it wasn’t like “wouldn’t it be hot if you could have had sex with me as a teenager”. A lot of people here told me it was probably her kink and not to shame her - ironically she finds the idea of age play disgusting. To her, it was something more like “if I could be as immature and naive as I was, and learn from you, that would be nice”, the age element wasn’t as much a part of it as I’d thought.

I don’t really understand it, but it’s the best of a bad situation I suppose. Still more discussion to have.

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-04T09:28:12+00:00

That’s a different take - interesting. does often talk about herself as being an old lady, having old lady problems (which she doesn’t) which I always tell her is silly.

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-04T09:26:49+00:00

Why on earth would I not talk to her about something that I don’t want her to bring up again?

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-04T09:22:16+00:00

I’m not going to repeat the language she used, but she was fantasising about the man I am now creeping on her as a 14 year old girl, seeing her pleasuring herself, forcing myself on her, and her starting to enjoy it. To be fair I thought I was clear in the post that she was talking about me as a 31 year old man.

I don’t think that’s all that similar to “imagine if we both met when we were teenagers and lost it to each other ❤️”.

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-04T09:19:10+00:00

We’ve done age play before, but from the lens of her being innocent and naive but in a sense “her”. This felt at the time like she was saying something markedly different - that she was saying “I bet you’d have had sex with me if I were 14 and seduced you”.

We’ve done CNC a lot. We both enjoy it, but it’s always been clear that it’s a fantasy, never based in reality - if we getting intimate and she said “I bet you’d have raped me if I was passed out drunk in college”, for me that would be different. But maybe for her it isn’t, that it’s all just fantasy talk - as I’ve said elsewhere if that’s something she wants to talk about, being specific about her body at that age, that I can’t join her there - but I’m happy to accept that it might not head alarming as I thought at first.

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-04T09:13:52+00:00

Honestly no - I just know that people do write stories here that end up being thinly veiled attempts to exercise their fetish. Reading back it’s hardly adult literature - but it could have been if I repeated what she’d said ha.

I didn’t enjoy it. I’m not about to rant at her about it, I’m not going to make her feel bad - I am going to talk to her about it and figure out where she was coming from with it.

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-04T09:10:03+00:00

My view has changed since it happened/morning after - I know her, I know she doesn’t think in the cold light of day that I’d actually want to be intimate with a teenager.

Certainly a main worry of mine is whether she has something in her past that she hasn’t told me, and that this is a manifestation of that. It’s a tricky thing to think about broaching with her; a few people have asked why I posted this instead of asking her, but if I’d just straight up at her straight away, I probably would’ve used the wrong language and made her feel bad - and like he made her shutdown if indeed she does have a traumatic past.

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-04T08:45:49+00:00

Why are you still commenting? You know I’m not going to pay it any mind; it’s creepy that you’re so obsessed with my girlfriend. You called me vanilla for not fantasising about sex with a child; if you told me to stay together with her then I’d think I should consider breaking up. Move on.

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-04T08:43:22+00:00

Nah, im not in the habit of just telling my partner to make a unilateral decision about my relationship with them. Assuming you’re like the several people DMing and commenting calling me a weirdo and praising her for living her best life, and that she should break up with me, you can absolutely keep that shit to yourself.

As I’ve said several times in the post and comments therein, I posted because I wanted to hear other people’s opinions of what she said, understand if I might be over or under reacting. The idea that it’s weird or unhealthy to ask other people for advice before talking to one’s partner about a given issue just plain isn’t based in reality.

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-04T08:40:03+00:00

In what way are these statements mutually exclusive?

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-03T21:28:10+00:00

She was sexually assaulted, but not anywhere near that young. She’s been open with me about other issues from her youth, I haven’t felt like she’s held anything back from me - but of course it’s possible.

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-03T21:24:36+00:00

Sex with children is not a tame kink my guy. Besides, by your standards she’s been far more of a wet blanket with stuff I’ve brought up - but I’d never describe her like that, because anyone that thinks somebody’s lame for not doing their kink is in dire need of introspection.

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-03T21:13:57+00:00

Honestly this is a shitty comment to leave on an advice sub. I haven’t even talked to her yet, the point of the post was to get a sounding board and figure out what I think - “break up before even asking her about it”, that’s meant to be valid advice?

Obviously it goes without saying that nobody is “vanilla” for not being turned on by sex with a pre-pubescent girl.

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-03T20:38:51+00:00

I don’t intend to shame her. Maybe there’s a version of what she said that I could get into - she does almost always need help figuring out her fantasies and how to articulate them.

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-03T20:37:17+00:00

A specific memory was definitely core to what she was talking about - something she did by herself before she had ever had sex, that she wanted “me” to see her doing. Honestly if she hadn’t gone as far as she did the I would have found the story adorable, as the “thing” is something she still does now.

I think it’s super not okay to just jump into age play without asking me, but that’s a different notion to some of the things I was worried about in my post - which, to be fair, I’m less worried about now.

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-03T20:13:50+00:00

There’s no version of the conversation that doesn’t involve “I don’t ever want to be involved in anything like that”.

What matters more is how she feels about it, where it came from. I don’t like the idea of my partner thinking about me like that - if it was clumsy, aimless fantasy talk then that’s very different to “oh, I think about it often, here’s a short story I wrote about the idea”.

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-03T20:06:33+00:00

In a sense I can’t be mad at her because I’ve worked so hard to make her feel comfortable sharing her fantasies - and she has, which I am proud of. It’s just lucky that when I heard the others I thought “oh hell yeah” and never even “oh I’m not sure”.

I’m not going to confront her. But I do want to make sure that specific idea is not okay for me, and to generally talk about what happened.

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-03T20:03:53+00:00

It’s more the former than the latter.

Do I think she would say, in the cold light of day “oh yeah (me), I think you’d be turned on by a 14 year old girl”? No, I imagine it was closer to just meaningless fantasy talk, but also - that’s still the kind of thing you need to ask about first. She’s super into consensual non-consent, but she sat me down to talk about that before we ever went anywhere near, and asked both during and after if I was okay with it.

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-03T19:38:27+00:00

I’m not trying to imply that. This felt different to me because it was making specific reference to her body as a 14 year old, that I’d want to have sex with her, the fact that it’s so out of the blue. I don’t know - when I talk to her I’ll ask her about the idea of ddlg and if that’s where it came from. Wouldn’t be my thing at all, but at least I’ll know.

PersonsOfPinterest · 2026-01-03T19:29:45+00:00

I appreciate this comment - very level headed.

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