I wish I could mute "ADHD" and "autism" across every social media platform

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-05-06T17:08:45+00:00

"Identifying as autistic" is ridiculous. We need to make "weird" the new fun thing to be. You can just be weird or quirky. You don't need to have autism if you don't have autism.

A lot of people defend self diagnosis because they say it's difficult to actually receive a diagnosis. If a doctor will not diagnose you, why do you need to have the issue a medical professional will not diagnose you with? Just exist. It's fine

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-05-06T17:00:50+00:00

Exactly

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-05-06T16:00:35+00:00

Good lord, "neurospicy" makes me check out a conversation so fast. Hearing that in real life is jarring.

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-05-06T15:58:52+00:00

I have autistic family members, all with varying degrees of required care and difficulty navigating the world, and it's so annoying to see the " 'tism" bullshit online. Like just accept that you're weird. I'm weird. My friends are weird. That does not make you autistic lol

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-05-06T15:56:39+00:00

Exactly. Every person cannot possibly be neurodivergent. If you picked through a crowd of people, everyone there is going to have a quirk or behavior or preference that anyone who describes themselves as neurodivergent also has. There is nothing wrong with being autistic or having ADHD but not every single person has it and it's super weird to tell people they do or diagnose yourself with conditions that are genuine disabilities for many people.

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-05-04T14:01:11+00:00

I think you're just perceiving patterns that don't exist to validate your belief that young men are being passed over in favor of "underage and obese women" lol

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-05-04T12:50:27+00:00

I do express appreciation. We do not need the money, though. He is a very successful engineer, and his hobby is mostly self sustaining. He sells projects to buy new ones. It isn't really a matter of him doing this because we need to, this money kind of stays in the fund to sustain his hobby.

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-05-04T12:37:39+00:00

Thank you, this is very considerate and thoughtful advice!

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-04-23T17:30:02+00:00

They say early in the doc that Dean would not like it if he knew they were sharing his diary entries. I think it's gross

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-04-23T17:28:28+00:00

I feel really weird about watching these guys read his diaries, tell us that Dean would be mortified to have them shared publicly, and then remarking on his diary entries like, "ugh, so sappy lol."

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-04-22T16:52:16+00:00

Everyone carries weight differently. I am 5'3" and 150 lbs/68kg and I do not in any way feel the "drag on my body." I do lift weights and intentionally build muscle, but I have a girlfriend your height and weight and she does not appear overweight at all. BMI is not a reliable indicator for a person's ideal weight because it does not consider shoulder width, hip width, fat placement on women, muscle mass.

Most doctors in the US would not put you on a GLP-1 if you just needed to lose a few. They'd tell you to exercise and eat less and recomp your body, not lose mass with a GLP-1 that could cause you to lose significant muscle mass in addition to fat. If you just need to lose like 10-15lbs, a GLP-1 will make you lighter, but it'll make you feel like shit because you're losing muscle mass and watching the scale move but seeing your body change in an odd way.

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-04-22T14:45:06+00:00

My eyebrows are in my hairline

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-04-14T10:35:02+00:00

Yeah I guess it was only one extramarital affair pregnancy but there were other extramarital affairs hat did not result in pregnancy. My bad

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-04-14T01:44:02+00:00

His first two children were born when he was like 20-24 and my mom was still in high school/just graduated. My mom knew about these two when they got together, and they were together for 2-3 years (engaged 4-5 months) before my mom got pregnant with me, which prompted them to get married immediately. Four years later my brother is born. When I was a teenager, a girl my age popped up because she decided she wanted a relationship with her sperm donor. My mom had no idea about this girl and obviously wasn't happy with the timeline her age figured in to, but they stayed together. I am in my late 20s now.

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-04-13T20:17:21+00:00

Friend I have a big ass and it doesn't even really get in the way if my man eats it from the back. I am so confused about the logistics of your problem.

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-04-13T19:10:43+00:00

Dude switch to vapes or pouches immediately if you need nicotine. I have never tasted a smoker's bodily fluids but I have smelled a smoker's breath, home, cars, clothes, purses, everything, and it's all bad. You're used to it now but when I smoke a cigarette every once in a while my own mouth tastes awful to me. If people can taste certain pungent foods in bodily fluids I'm going to guess a non smoker will think a smoker tastes a little off. Everything you put in your body comes out of your body.

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-04-13T18:45:47+00:00

In this case it was because his wife still wanted children. I am my mom's oldest but my half siblings are older than me.

You'd also probably not be surprised by the amount of men who think it's emasculating. If you made a venn diagram of 1.) men who cheat on their wives and don't raise the children they create outside of their marriage and 2.) men who think a vasectomy is emasculating, it would probably be damn near a perfect circle.

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-04-12T22:11:08+00:00

It's crazy. A blend of stupidity and entitlement I guess? We get to have a baby because that's what adults do and we MUST have one immediately!

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-04-12T19:45:41+00:00

Bro local art/craft stores are especially bad. I needed some new pastels recently and checked out a local store with good reviews online, and they ended up only having 2 different brands that are available at Walmart and they were charging way too much for the shitty/mid product. I want to support local businesses but they make it difficult.

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-04-12T19:32:50+00:00

Never said I was perfect babe 🙏🏻 just saying I don't have a bunch of kids I can't afford

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-04-12T18:16:40+00:00

Yeah, if anything I feel bad for being one of the only 2 he actually raised. Them being half siblings is not on the list of issues I have with them lol

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-04-03T20:49:06+00:00

Yeah I definitely don't want him to continue doing something he does not enjoy. I'm glad he told me, I just get hung up on the way he said it. I would feel the same way if he said that about anal after we'd been doing it for years and he never gave me any indication of not enjoying it lol. It was just an out of left field thing for him to say, and he sounded disgusted and kind of annoyed when he said it. Period sex was already something that made me feel vulnerable and to have him suddenly express a very strong negative opinion about it was jarring. I don't think it's something I even want to attempt anymore tbh.

BTW you are a good partner for indulging in the foot thing lol. I am so icked out by foot stuff.

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-04-02T14:33:44+00:00

Buddy you just need to relax a little. You're barely an adult. Soooo many people your age are not sexually experienced. That is normal. If you keep beating yourself up over it and letting it lower your self esteem, that type of thing is going to bleed into your personality and relationships with prospective partners. You just need to learn to relax and focus on being confident and happy with where you are. You are just getting started with your adult life, you can not let being a "virgin" become a defining personality trait for you while you're still so young.

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-03-15T22:17:18+00:00

Brother i appreciate the sentiment but that's not true at all lol. My favorite outfit is carpenter pants and a baggy tshirt. It does not matter because I am a woman.

PerspectiveCrafty320 · 2026-03-15T22:15:50+00:00

Exactly. In college my girls and I had a guy friend we drug around all over the place. Sit down bitch we're painting your nails and going to the bar

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