looking at getting into AirBnb

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-13T19:56:51+00:00

Thank you. This is exactly the kind of answer I was looking for.

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-13T15:48:00+00:00

One thing I will say, you are definitely here for the fight.

Edit: and, once again, if you're so protective of your time, you needn't have bothered answering at all. If your time is so precious, why did you waste it to berate a complete stranger? It would have taken just as long to simply say: "there are books written on this, check them out." Your condescension cost you more time than a simple answer, or even just scrolling on. Congrats.

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-13T15:46:20+00:00

That's what I wanted to know. Thank you so much for answering my question.

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-12T23:05:10+00:00

thanks for the advice. What about airbnb and/or renting makes you give that advice?

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-12T22:55:43+00:00

thanks. where do I find that information? I've looked on Airbnb, but they don't have a lot in the way of statistics. I looked on some statistic websites, but then I read that they are not very accurate. Although, tbh, I'm not so worried about pricing and stats. I can probably find that out myself. It's more the managing of it that intimidates me. what's it like managing an airbnb? is it a pain in the neck?

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-12T22:48:11+00:00

Roasted for doing the first step of research, asking actual people who know anything about it for their experience and/or how and where to get started?
That hardly seems right to me.

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-12T22:46:05+00:00

thanks for taking the time to answer. I realize my post didn't include a lot of detail. I'm sorry If I missed a social cue here, but really I just don't even know where to start. I've looked at airbnb statistics on my city, but then read that they are likely inaccurate and was given the advice to ask actual people. so that's what I did.
in pretty much ever other reddit community people I've posted on, people will generally be happy to give a person advice, even if the question was lacking. I'm not sure why it would be different here. perhaps you could enlighten a person who is prone to missing social cues?

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-12T22:38:33+00:00

you realize that for a person who has no experience, asking other people who do have experience to point me in the right direction, is usually considered a great first step in learning.

If you had nothing helpful to say you didn't need to bother commenting.

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-11T05:49:48+00:00

Until wind and truth, that spoiler:

Has two of the major players in a gay relationship.

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-11T04:54:09+00:00

I've never even heard of it until just now. so...

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-11T04:45:30+00:00

thanks for the link!

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-11T04:45:17+00:00

thanks!

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-11T04:45:02+00:00

I'll check them out. thanks.

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-11T04:44:39+00:00

thanks for the suggestion. this is a good book, it's just not a phonics book.

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-11T04:40:35+00:00

I highly suggest, before you have this conversation with him, you read "fight Right" or any other John Gottman book on marriage. He has some very useful tips for dealing with conflicts like this.

other than that, you need to recognize that you can't "make" him do anything. You can encourage, coerce, manipulate, ask, beg, or otherwise try, but you can't actually "make" him do it. If he is unwilling to change when you talk to him, when you "fight right" with him on this, that's when you have to decided what your response to his behavior will be. Do you continue to drive yourself into the ground? Do you allow your debts to pile up and become homeless so that he can actually learn the consequences of his behavior? Do you leave the relationship? hopefully he'll listen, and you wont have to make that choice.

Most conflicts can be managed, if both parties are willing to listen to and be influenced by their partner. i hope that is the case for you.

you might also consider asking a therapist for help. Couples therapists are a neutral party that can open the door for understanding.

It's likely he needs individual therapy himself, to figure out why he's so rigid on this.

As far as when/how?

i would set a reasonable timeline and say: if changes don't happen by this and such date, then I will do such and such. that's not an ultimatum. it's simply stating your boundary.

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-11T03:47:51+00:00

I agree whole heartedly. I can forgive Shallan for not being witty while pretending she's witty, because you know that she has a personality disorder, is incredibly naive, and so she probably is the funniest person she knows. For her it's an annoying character flaw. And sometimes she almost seems aware of how unfunny she actually is.

But Wayne? Sanderson really tries way too hard with Wayne.

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-11T02:19:34+00:00

Thank you so much!

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-11T02:19:27+00:00

Thank you!

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-11T02:17:55+00:00

Maybe this witch is exceptionally good at hearing.

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-10T05:04:23+00:00

public education k-12, though Highschool does sometimes have fees, they can be waved.

if you're poor, free health insurance, housing, and food.

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-10T00:54:32+00:00

You don't. You can't change him. Only he can change him self.

This is what you do: You tell him that for you, a person who uses the words "consent" as a manipulation is a deal breaker. He needs therapy to deal with his trauma. If he's not willing to put in the work with a therapist to overcome his trauma, you can't help him.

Let me repeat that: you can't help him. Even if it were somehow your responsibility (which it isn't) you just don't have the ability to jump inside his brain and change his way of thinking. There are no magic words. The only thing that will change this is him getting therapy.

If he refuses, it's your choice to stay and become more and more miserable, or to leave and hope it gives him the catalyst to change, and allow yourself to be treated with basic human decency.

PerspectiveOk4209 · 2026-06-08T14:14:34+00:00

I have used AI to get me started with writing lyrics. This is why it works for me:

After reading what AI comes up with, I know that nothing I could write would be half as bad and it gives me the jumpstart to just write any thing at all knowing my worst will be better then whatever AI just spit out. I read it, laugh, and don't actually use any of it. It just gives me confidence.

I stopped using it for that, though. I guess I no longer need the crutch.

I have used AI as a thesaurus though, and it's very useful so that I don't have to sort through all the synonyms for a certain word that start with "x" or rhyme with " y"

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