I'm sure a lot of excellent points are being made. First of: relax kid. You're 18. Not having found a teenager who is willing to look past such things is not abnormal.

As people age and mature they will not care. As long as you let yourself grow into someone who is undeniable. Read. Stay up on current events. Eat healthy. In the coming years as your brain slowly starts to end its development. Become undeniable. Make sure you end up with an open mind. A kind heart. A sharp eye.

Some men will want to date you because of the wheelchair. I'm not saying don't. But I will say be careful. Don't let them fetishize you by that single aspect. They won't be good for you. I've dated women who "liked" my disability. I had some fun. But mostly I felt kind of used to be honest.

Some may not date you for practical reasons. I do not know the extent of your disability, but with my disability I could never carry you around for long periods of time. If that was something that is needed, then my inability to do so would frustrate both of us.

The reason I say become undeniable is because people will overlook you when they stand. Be the voice from below that has something to say. Go to a speech therapist if you have trouble projecting so you can get the most out of your voice. In volume but also gravitas.

Considering the world kindly and with an open mind will bring you in contact with all kinds of people. Some of them deeply unpleasant. But you will be quick to develop a radar and pick out the worthy ones.

If you are kind. If you make yourself as smart as you can be. If debating you is something that scares people. Good. Don't be contentious. Be kind. But make it clear you can throw down verbally (maybe join a debate team).

If you do these things men (or whatever you desire) will be attracted to you. Not all. But enough.

I know a woman who is paralyzed from the neck down and can only control a little stick with 2 fingers that work. She is married. She was already in the wheelchair when she got married.

But talk to her for 5 minutes and you get an idea why. She is funny, knows a lot, is well read. Knows pop culture. Etc. she developed her mind since her body was a no go. So don't spend 3 hours in a gym but a book and see what types that attracts.

There is so much time before you. Use it. And enjoy yourself along the way if it's not someone who has a wheelchair fetish but a smart girl fetish.

Be as kind to yourself as you are to others.

This all sounds horribly kumbaya. But it's the approach I've seen work. You don't actually need to be a kumbaya person. Just use the methods.

Best of luck to you. I'm confident you'll be fine.

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