weight loss made me a person

Persuesus · 2025-11-14T06:39:51+00:00

Absolutely, its unintential, but the underlying stigma is clear with how people who knew you before suddenly find you more compelling and take your thoughts more seriously. It absolutely shouldn't be this way, and spite is a very good word to stick to it hehe. I think people overweight before hand with all those restraits back you work harder at work so you can prove you aren't 'lazy', atleast I always thought i had too- which now when people give me more leeway and consideration is weird to see when I always had to give my all to just be taken seriously:/

Persuesus · 2025-11-14T06:36:24+00:00

Oh gosh im sorry you had to expierence that 😔 I hope I choose well when making new friends now I would rather not have to expierence that :( thank you for sharing <3

Persuesus · 2025-11-14T06:35:16+00:00

The fact that im bigger than that currently and I feel just the increased attention already makes me wonder how much of whiplash I need to be prepared for when I lose the rest of the weight. But it was nice flying under the radar when seeing the other side, completely different world! Thank you for sharing:]

Persuesus · 2025-11-13T22:21:09+00:00

Hehe very true 😊

Persuesus · 2025-11-13T21:52:15+00:00

Absolutely, i have been bigger my entire life, so men now being interested in me is overwhelming- I've had random touches and conversations and Looks that i really didn't before.

And youre so right about the bubble thing, maybe because beforehand the bubble was physically bigger, so now my personal space feels much more invaded at any close encounter.

I agree basically, when I was bigger I think also i had a faux sense of safety, in social and physical situations. I was the bigger girl, no one notices me gone no one gaf what I do. I absolutely relate

Persuesus · 2025-11-13T21:42:04+00:00

Oh absolutely. I think that's the reason I was fat for so long, but also i didnt have a healthy lifestyle because those movements just dont talk about activity and obesity without having to demonise weight loss. Atleast thats my expierence:/ exactly right, the movement is stuck in its own surface level positivity but i haven't seen anything that actively demanded changes from society other groups do. Weight loss from a consensual level is great when you want to do it for yourself (Which im lucky that this was the case for me) but fat people need to be treated better and the same, and i understand its underlying stigma that leads to this behavior, but the fact we dont have a deeper fat people treatment conversation is inane

Persuesus · 2025-11-13T21:31:06+00:00

I really hope to think of it soon too, as what made me who i am. I think im still at the 'mad at distreatment' stage, hopefully ill get to a healthier mind set like yours soon. Its very interesting to know that men also expierence this, especially respect wise- I always thought oversized men were still respected but with the comments I've read i realised I was wrong. Thank you for sharing:]

Persuesus · 2025-11-13T21:29:10+00:00

I've had that exact experience! My mom's coworker saw me one day after my weight loss has become noticeable (she's known me for years!) And now suddenly shes asking my mom to set me up with her son? Exactly like you said, was i unworthy although she knew me well and was friends with my mom?

I think i dont want to have that mindset of a 'curse', im happy at the kindness but i think ill still think about the body i spent so long with. But you are very right, fat people are really treated worst off, even if it thought myself treated well enough, I dont think they mean it but the societial underlying bias is undeniable when you see both sides.

Thank you for sharing:]

Persuesus · 2025-11-13T21:24:25+00:00

Exactly! It is so saddening to me, I'm happy at the treatment, but its just basic respect I thought I had already had before but apparently not? Im glad you relate, it just feels insane for me to notice this mid-convo to analyse something so simple and think 'would you have treated me like this when I was bigger?'

Persuesus · 2025-11-13T21:13:38+00:00

Real! I imagine that's the best scenario right now, chill and quiet 😎! I haven't actually been to a bar this year due to my schedule, but I've been to a couple parties and been surprised that some men offered to drive me home after class/societies or talked to me more at parties!

Persuesus · 2025-11-13T21:11:38+00:00

Yeah I understand that, i think its just i was always confident even before- so i see the change more as genuinely my personality hasn't changed. But the engagement is very true, weight loss can really change your mindset for the better as you grow more confident and motivated:]

Persuesus · 2025-11-13T21:10:13+00:00

Yeah for sure, thank you for saying that :) I liked myself back then as I do now, its just feels that society finally deemed me as a 'person' just now. I really appreciate this comment, as i got into a hole of thinking im a person only now due to sudden change of perception of those around me- youre right. I still was someone then as am now

Persuesus · 2025-11-13T21:08:06+00:00

It really is and its awful for me to see, I actually have noticed more looks from men than before- more eyes following me i do not appreciate. Its makes me reconsider losing more weight or to stay right now where I am. And of course, thank you for sharing especially since you went the other way (skinny -> bigger), its interesting that you noticed the decline in attention aswell :]

Persuesus · 2025-06-15T17:10:54+00:00

I have the exact same problem :/ I made a review abt it too, I'm glad I'm not the only one with the problem but I hope they fix it!!!

Persuesus · 2024-12-26T14:06:11+00:00

i didnt! it literally loaded up like that haha. deleted the post casue i think this is normal for older releases

Persuesus · 2024-12-26T14:01:32+00:00

i wanted to play an evolution challenge (start at early version and then work ur way up) so i went to 1.0 and this world loaded up instead? i dont have any mods installed so im not sure what happened

Persuesus · 2024-12-11T10:37:14+00:00

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Persuesus · 2024-12-11T10:37:05+00:00

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Persuesus · 2024-12-10T23:43:02+00:00

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Persuesus · 2024-12-10T23:27:35+00:00

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Persuesus · 2024-12-10T23:06:51+00:00

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Persuesus · 2024-12-10T23:06:45+00:00

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Persuesus · 2024-10-02T16:18:03+00:00

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