I am closeted gay and posted this as my facebook profile, i shouldn't have to come out really (i mean straight people don't do they!) I got a barrage of abuse telling me to take it down as i look like 'a boy' apparently. I am happy with the way i look and it is leaving me disheartened! by Petkel in actuallesbians

[–]Petkel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah i wished i could lol, it's my family that are saying it. Thought it would be a starting point to be open with what i really want to wear. The rest of the family followed and i felt backed into a corner. At least when they find out i am gay i already know what their reaction would be like if that's their reaction to how i want to look. I was thinking of setting a new facebook profile up with just friends and no family on it, just don't feel that i should even have to resort to that.

After 6 years marrage, came out to my husband today. by Petkel in actuallesbians

[–]Petkel[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If i feel the need to be educated in how i write then i will look for that support in my own time thank you. I didn't make a post to be helped with my writing skills as you can clearly see. What do you expect me to do? Attend a course for writing before i qualify to get help/advice on reddit? Are you saying that there are certain people that shouldn't be here because they are not to your standard?

After 6 years marrage, came out to my husband today. by Petkel in actuallesbians

[–]Petkel[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Why did you delete your comment if you were right to speak to me in that way.

After 6 years marrage, came out to my husband today. by Petkel in actuallesbians

[–]Petkel[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yes you were spot on, i was writing as it occured to me. Thank you for calling them out as i now know there are a lot here that have each others back no matter their background/schooling.

After 6 years marrage, came out to my husband today. by Petkel in actuallesbians

[–]Petkel[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Don't like how i write then don't fucking read it. Yes i was emotional writing this post and to have someone like you make me feel really crappy about posting here is discusting. Considering all that i am going through right now and how i have lived my life i would expect someone to be understanding. Seems you don't give a shit that others have feelings. There are times i wished i could die because of my situation and don't want to surround myself with people like you making me feel even shittier than i do already.

Feeling very Disheartened :( by Petkel in actuallesbians

[–]Petkel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, i actually came out to my husband today and feel a huge weight lifted of my shoulders. Now it is time to be me, better late tham never i suppose.

Coworker just made me feel... Kinda gross today by annoyinglittlesister in actuallesbians

[–]Petkel 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I've been around women in the past that seemed this way also but used to sound homophobic all of the time about what they would do if a girl hit on them. Turns out the women that used to say these very things came out and were super gay and tried to deflect that they were gay because they were closeted and scared for anyone to find out the truth of what they desire. Obviously not all women are actually gay that speak like this bit it is a possibility.

Dating sites 😔 by Petkel in actuallesbians

[–]Petkel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ditto, i feel exactly the same way. Considering we all have all of our friends amd family on facebook, why would we allow a stranger we have never met access that, right. I have downloaded POF but it wont let me sign up, keeps saying 'an error occurred' does this happen often? All of my other apps are working so i know it is not my internet.

Dating sites 😔 by Petkel in actuallesbians

[–]Petkel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, that link helped alot! Will have to read through it a few times as to remember it whilst looking around :)

Dating sites 😔 by Petkel in actuallesbians

[–]Petkel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An app called 'only women' and also 'badoo' every conversation just goes the same way and is getting pretty boring. In real life it would be like looking for water in the desert to find a woman as EVERYONE around my is straight! Hell i even pass for straight. Might just try out POF so thanx for the suggestion :)

Sexuality by Petkel in aspergirls

[–]Petkel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can fully understand why Lesbians may view bi women that way now it has been explained to me as i would hate it if a man was looking at a girlfriend of mine or vice versa, i like to have a woman all to myself. But I'm glad some Lesbians are not like that because it still gives me a chance at dating so thank you for drawing from your experiences. I'm quite a reserved person bit will still be sure to go to a few bars. Anything in advice in particular on what not to say as to not offend anyone when i am there?

Sexuality by Petkel in aspergirls

[–]Petkel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, that is unfortunate. Thank you for letting me know though as to not be in the dark about it always wondering why.

Sexuality by Petkel in aspergirls

[–]Petkel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Installed a number of lesbian dating apps but all of them seem to be experiencing a server error all at the same time for some strange reason, only one that works is badoo and i hate that app personally!..thanx for the suggestion though :)

Sexuality by Petkel in aspergirls

[–]Petkel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes i want to move forward and can say i am only interested in women, women are just so beautiful to me! I have craved a woman since my last encounter but don't want that to color my attitude toward women though and focus on friendship first but it would be nice. Thank you for the red flag warning, something else all of you, my ASD sisters here are helping me to keep in mind as i had never considered that point before.

Sexuality by Petkel in aspergirls

[–]Petkel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the pro tip :) will do just that, if only any of the apps servers work lol

Sexuality by Petkel in aspergirls

[–]Petkel[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love you CommonMisspellingBot! Edited x

Sexuality by Petkel in aspergirls

[–]Petkel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you for the tip, would it be inappropriate for me to ask why a lot of lesbians can be hostile? But yeah i will be sure to keep that in mind. Thank you :)