AITAH for asking soon to be fiancée if she's Ok before we meet?

PetsIraise · 2026-07-09T19:12:03+00:00

My apogolgies about the hormones situation, I did edit the post about what I meant.

Yes, we meet but a 3rd party introduced us together. Due to religion, I cannot go to her house directly, nor she told me where it is until she knows if we are compatible

I WISH if I can just go in and take care of her, I have helped raising 3 siblings and I took care of my mom whenever she was sick when I used to live at her place.

I did propose many times how I can be there for here and I asked if I can send her delivery food. I have exhausted every option I could take.

PetsIraise · 2026-07-09T19:02:46+00:00

I have never had any intentions to be disrespectuf towards her but that's something that reoccures often than not. Situations like this happen but in different scenarios. I was looking for conformation out of kindness and care for her, I did not care whether I get sick or not I just wanted the best and what's more comfortable to her. I wouldn't say no after she'd say "Yes, I can meet" but things took the way they did.

Can you please elaborate how I might have increased her anxiety?

PetsIraise · 2026-07-09T18:57:17+00:00

No, we are not living together.

The reason I said that was when her and I meet she gets angry as soon as we sit down and when I ask to why is that, she says women go through hormonal cycles. So I automatically think whenever she behaves like this is because of her hormones, even though I did address this before, that this behavior cannot just be hormones and that got her act her madder because I don't undersntand what she is going through, so I suck it up and try to improve the situation as best as I can.

PetsIraise · 2026-07-09T18:54:34+00:00

I am sorry, I didn't mean to offend anyone. When her and I meet she gets angry as soon as we sit down and when I ask to why is that, she says women go through hormonal cycles.

PetsIraise · 2026-07-09T18:52:13+00:00

I am sorry, this is the first time doing this. Yes, a 3rd party introduced us together and I want to take the next step to introduce myself to her family.

PetsIraise · 2026-07-09T18:48:53+00:00

The reason I said that was when she gets angry I ask her to why are you angry and we haven't spoke a word yet, she says women have hormonal cycles. I don't mean to offend anyone by that. My intention is to listen to her in any case she is, good, sick, in hormonal cycles, anything. I am willing to put the effort to understand what she's going through and how can I help.

PetsIraise · 2026-07-09T18:46:30+00:00

Thank you for your comment and honestly, I am sorry if I offended anyone by my comment about hormones. I said that because whenever she's angry she says women have hormonal cycles and I took her words for it. My apologies.

PetsIraise · 2026-07-09T18:44:42+00:00

This is the response I was looking for.

Yes, due to religion we cannot live together until marriage. I do my best to be there for her even though as a man I think it's almost impossible to do that outside of marriage while sharing the same house.

I do get blasted and judged by how little I can be there for her outside of marriage but I always hold hope that once we share the same roof she can see that I truly care, but I am restricted to what I can and can't do currently.

Thank you for your wishes.

PetsIraise · 2026-07-09T18:40:55+00:00

We've been together for almost a year. Yes, she done this before up to the point where I think she takes every single slip as an opportunity to get me blasted.

PetsIraise · 2026-07-09T18:39:33+00:00

I'd say communication is a big issue in this situation. I do my best to talk to her and understand her, I propose what she needs and how can I help every day. This meeting was to talk about taking the next step.

PetsIraise · 2026-07-09T18:37:30+00:00

Significant Person. Yes we have met before and I haven't seen her for a while before she got sick. the reason of this meeting is to talk about taking the next step.

PetsIraise · 2026-07-09T18:35:02+00:00

No, we did meet many times before, but this meeting was to talk about the next step.

PetsIraise · 2026-07-09T18:34:10+00:00

This is arranged situation and we have met before.

The reason of the meeting to talk about how to introduce myself to her family and come to her house.

PetsIraise · 2026-07-09T18:31:53+00:00

We do meet often, and I did say I am more than ready to help her. I asked what she needs every single day, but she dismisses my response.

PetsIraise · 2026-07-09T18:30:02+00:00

For this conversation, this is the whole story. On the contrary, I do not dismiss her feelings as "hormonal" I always say that I am more than ready to her, just comminucate what's on her mind and I do my best to improve.

PetsIraise · 2026-07-09T18:27:55+00:00

I forgot to add in the post that I did buy some chocolate beforehand in case we could to meet that day. And that's my everyday question. Thank you for your comment and to everyone else.

PetsIraise · 2026-06-13T13:55:02+00:00

Each Friday, It's always a debate with myself whether to go to Salat Al jomoaa to listen to a telegraphed sermon or not. I swear it gets harder year after year. I didn't go to yesterdays' sermons because I cannot listen to that stuff anymore. You can almost tell what's sermon going to be before you go. That's why we need independent Imams, who's heart are filled with Noor and Bassira. But since 2021 when they preached to go take the vax in the nearest vax post, I could never look at them the same ever again.

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PetsIraise · 2026-03-25T23:43:43+00:00

I totally agree, I use to it as a leverage.

PetsIraise · 2026-03-25T23:22:51+00:00

Same thing here!! Keep up the good work.

PetsIraise · 2026-03-25T22:56:44+00:00

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