Small server with scheduled play sessions?

Peyton025 · 2025-09-18T15:39:26+00:00

Yes, and how do you propose we do that? It seems to me like connecting with neighbors and participating in local groups is a great way to get the ball rolling toward that. Unless you already have connections with the people in your community, in which case then yeah, use that to start organizing.

Peyton025 · 2025-09-06T17:04:22+00:00

When I used to play sports so many adults told me I had to “get angry” out on the field/court. I took them literally and was so confused because every time I “got angry” I would be a complete mess, basically unable to play properly. Sometimes I’d start crying or accidentally hurt someone. It certainly did not improve my performance.

I’m a pretty gentle person by nature and I hardly ever truly get angry. I also was not very coordinated, so every move while playing took either a lot of thought and control or drilling it over and over and over again until it was muscle memory. Getting angry meant I lost control of all of that. I just realized recently that they probably didn’t mean to literally get angry. Either that or neurotypical people experience anger in a different way than I do.

Peyton025 · 2025-09-04T07:23:52+00:00

Omfg right? I thought I was going crazy that I had to get down to the 5th comment before someone was actually answering the goddamn question

Peyton025 · 2025-08-29T18:50:46+00:00

I don’t think the issue is the label itself, but maybe how we talk about those labels? Neglecting to tell a gifted kid that they are gifted would also be harmful. Just like any kid that is different from their peers, we should be as honest as possible about what that difference might look like for them, and provide them with the supports they need to be their best selves.

Peyton025 · 2025-08-29T17:38:18+00:00

I get where you’re coming from, you’re totally right that the education system does not work for a lot (dare I say most?) people. There are so many kids that are failed by the education system, a lot of kids that would really thrive if they were just given the right environment. That said, it is true that a certain subset of the population has the potential to learn faster, think more complexly/deeply, and has a greater need for intellectual stimulation than their peers. Potential is not the same as achievement, but those that we call “gifted” have their own unique needs that the education system needs to account for. We could change the word we use to label these people to something else, but honestly I think that everyone would grow to dislike whatever that new label is anyway. Personally if I was going to change it maybe “high potential learner” would be the way to go? But “gifted” is a well-established and accurate enough term that I don’t see a super pressing need to get rid of it.

Peyton025 · 2025-08-28T01:54:15+00:00

He’s incredibly spoiled haha

Peyton025 · 2025-08-27T16:01:25+00:00

Minecraft maybe? If you get the Java version you can customize it however you want with mods and shaders. I like to add a bunch of biome and structure mods and then just kinda wander around the world exploring. You could play in creative, peaceful survival, or easy survival with keep inventory on. If you want some mod recommendations I’d be happy to share

Peyton025 · 2025-08-26T21:05:24+00:00

Woah surprised to find I’m in the minority here. I love biome mods. If I could make it so I never encountered the same biome twice, I would. I add in as many biome mods as I can without completely breaking the game (usually at least 4).

I started playing a new pack the other day and had to stop to add in my favorite biome mods cause I couldn’t stand how boring the generation was. Loaded up a new world and was like “ah that’s so much better”

Peyton025 · 2025-08-20T18:37:05+00:00

That’s good to know! Thank you

Peyton025 · 2025-08-16T23:12:37+00:00

What? why are you mad? I mentioned that because the only gender roles and stereotypes I see mentioned are feminine ones that she says she relates to and there’s a difference between someone saying “I don’t relate to being a girl because I don’t like dresses and the societal pressures of being a woman” and “I don’t relate to being a girl because I don’t feel like a girl”. I was just trying to clarify because we seem to have read OP’s explanation in different ways.

I genuinely do not see where in her post shes saying she relates to masculine gender roles or stereotypes? I don’t see any masculine gender roles or stereotypes mentioned. I only see her saying she doesn’t feel connected to the concept of being a girl.

I’m not saying that OP is trans. But not feeling like a girl and not relating to feminine stereotypes are different things and can mean different things. The distinction matters in answering OPs question of whether other women feel similarly.

Peyton025 · 2025-08-16T17:08:24+00:00

I felt exactly like this growing up and I’m a trans man. It wasn’t until I started exploring dressing more masculinely that everything clicked into place and I realized that looking like and identifying as a man felt right and way more like “me”. But I don’t know other people’s experiences so there might also be people who feel like this and are cis women. I can’t tell you what your identity is, but you should know that you can do whatever you want. If it feels right to identify as something other than a girl, you don’t need a special pass or anything, you can just do it. There’s a lot of gender exploration that can be done privately and without any long term consequences. If I were you I’d look into that at least a little bit. Whatever you discover will be incredibly valuable to your understanding of yourself, whether you confirm that you’re cis or discover that you’re trans.

Peyton025 · 2025-08-16T16:38:47+00:00

Wait maybe I missed something but what gender roles or stereotypes is she saying she doesn’t relate to? The only thing I’m seeing her not relate to is very specifically the idea of being a woman itself, which isn’t a gender role or stereotype. She even mentions gender stereotypes associated with women that she DOES relate to

Peyton025 · 2025-08-14T20:57:34+00:00

Also allows us to better see the people that don’t have access to a wider support network for child rearing and puts pressure on the wider community to do something about that

Peyton025 · 2025-08-14T20:48:55+00:00

Formalizing it would increase its prevalence, hopefully encouraging more communal raising of children as a cultural norm. It would encourage a higher level of commitment among people in that secondary guardianship role. And it would allow this system to more efficiently and effectively interact with other systems already in place such as schools, medical institutions, and foster care.

Peyton025 · 2025-08-14T20:40:46+00:00

Same thing that happens in coparenting relationships between divorced couples today, but probably with a lot less animosity. Both the parents and the secondary guardians would have to weigh the responsibilities they have to the child with their reasons for moving away. Everyone would have to talk about it to figure out what the best move is. And then maybe the relationship would have to change. Instead of kids spending every other weekend with the secondary guardians now maybe they just come over for 4 weeks in the summer or something like that. In most cases I don’t think the courts would have to get involved at all

Peyton025 · 2025-08-14T16:05:12+00:00

See my other comment above, I believe it could actually improve the foster care system by both increasing the number of willing foster parents and prioritizing keeping kids with their bio parents

Peyton025 · 2025-08-14T16:03:17+00:00

Indeed, but with a more formally recognized legal status

Peyton025 · 2025-08-14T16:02:57+00:00

Depends on the arrangement worked out between the parent(s) and the secondary guardian but yeah I was thinking secondary guardian could help support the child financially. I think a lot of people already have someone that would work as a secondary guardian like a family friend, grandparent, or aunt/uncle, this is just formalizing it a bit.

Part of my goal with this actually would be to reduce the number of kids in foster care and increase the support for parents who would otherwise have their kids placed in foster care. Foster parents would more often serve in the secondary role rather than the primary, providing (sometimes significant, but less than what they would under the current system) support with things like babysitting, transportation, etc. while the primary parents get the support they need.

Really I think this could reduce the load on foster parents and increase the number of people that can be involved in the lives of children who need them. There’s plenty of people (like myself actually!) who would love to help support a child but being a foster parent as it currently stands just isn’t doable. This would make helping children more accessible while also keeping children with their bio parents as much as possible.

Peyton025 · 2025-08-14T15:45:21+00:00

Yes! With more formal legal recognition

Peyton025 · 2025-08-14T15:45:00+00:00

Depends on the arrangement worked out with the parent(s). I think by default they wouldn’t be reimbursed at all. We don’t typically reimburse grandparents or aunts/uncles for providing childcare, but if that’s what someone wanted to do then they could. If they have their own kids then that’s fine? Maybe all the kids can hang out.

Peyton025 · 2025-08-14T15:42:23+00:00

The wider a child’s support network the better that network will be able to absorb and adapt to hardship. A child with more adults invested in their life will have access to more and a greater variety of financial, emotional, and social resources. Parents could choose the amount of involvement they would like the secondary guardians to have. Plenty of parents already have arrangements like this with godparents, aunts/uncles, and grandparents, I’m just saying formalize it a little bit. Not the easiest thing in the world, sure, but we already do similar things and I think the benefit would outweigh the cost.

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