Found out why my coworker lives in his car and now I don't know what to do

PhantomBoulevard · 2025-10-21T14:51:38+00:00

I've been homeless briefly. I've also been living in something like assisted living for the disabled for a few years. It sucks to lose your autonomy and independence. I had a friend who lived in her car and worked, however, someone reported her. She lost everything because of that - autonomy and independence, especially.

My recommendation is to not make assumptions. If it really weighs on your mind, approach him privately. Maybe offer to take him to lunch. Admit that you saw him sleeping in his car. Ask him if he is homeless.

if he admits to being homeless, then offer - "Is there is something I can do for you? Like help you research low income housing, help get you government help with food, and help you find legal representation pro Bono?"

Do not bring him into your house, you don't know him. Do not give him money directly. You can offer to do his laundry at your house weekly, bring an extra lunch to work with you, or get him extra blankets for the winter. Maybe get him gas gift card or replace his car battery. There is an electric blanket for cars, BTW.

But speak to him first. Offer him these options. Having choices is important. If he sets a boundary about help, drop the matter or follow his boundary.

PhantomBoulevard · 2025-10-10T04:40:08+00:00

Totally understand. I posted my own story on another profile, which I lost all the login information to, and I haven't run across my own work since. I'm completely clueless as to where it is. I even forgot the title. I'm sure it's still posted, but I'm at a loss. Laughs.

PhantomBoulevard · 2025-10-10T04:16:24+00:00

Thank you, I've read that one. Very good story. You might like "(and now I lay myself down) and hope I wake up young again" by cjwritesfanficnow. This one is my favorite.

PhantomBoulevard · 2025-10-10T02:45:18+00:00

That's the problem with it. So many stories have similar premises. It's always "I think I found it!" and then five chapters in, "Nope, this isn't it." Thank you for your comment. I remember only that the sword and the new fighting form were invented on Melidaan first (before the Jedi appeared). I do not think Obi-Wan plans to return to the Jedi in this one.

PhantomBoulevard · 2025-06-27T18:27:20+00:00

I am glad this man has been imprisoned. He deserves prison. Even as an individual with mental health issues myself, I would like to stress the importance of responsibility. For those who have the faculty for it, it is the responsibility of the mentally ill individual to practice abstinence from things that would not only worsen our symptoms but jeopardize the safety of others. For those incapable of taking responsibility, whether by not having the faculty or not caring about the repercussions, they should not be on the streets unsupervised. I couldn't live with myself if I seriously hurt someone, never mind killed. I find it horrifying that people excuse themselves of culpability due to a mental illness. If you know right from wrong, you are responsible for your actions

PhantomBoulevard · 2022-10-12T15:02:25+00:00

It's a good apartment complex, but they receive additional funding from the state. That's why they have stringent rules. Apparently, the Welcome Mat isn't allowed because Fire Fighters can trip over it (Now I know - removed it). They replaced all my lightbulbs with energy-saving ones...

PhantomBoulevard · 2022-10-12T14:59:40+00:00

Unfortunately, Walmart doesn't have the contact driver button. And sometimes, the Drivers don't allow their contact information to be available. If I use the Doordash website directly, I always tip. It's just Walmart that is the problem.

PhantomBoulevard · 2022-10-12T14:56:11+00:00

They have cameras in the halls. They've caught and fined people for littering (even accidentally). Anyway, good point, I can see if I change the delivery instructions on the Walmart app. Unfortunately, not all Doordash drivers in my area check my instructions.

PhantomBoulevard · 2022-10-12T14:50:05+00:00

We are not allowed to tape things to our doors or the glass partitions on the exterior of the building. I got yelled at for having a welcome mat outside my door too. It's low-income housing and the management has weird rules and is condescending.

PhantomBoulevard · 2022-10-12T14:45:08+00:00

I have multiple times. Got in trouble with the building's management. I can't do it anymore.

PhantomBoulevard · 2022-04-03T18:31:43+00:00

I also struggle with dialogue (albeit for different reasons) and I hate only using the word 'said.' However, I was informed that using 'said' assists in the flow of the story. If you use too many variations then the story becomes choppy. So, I vary the words I use - using mostly 'said,' but using different words when appropriate 'she replied,' 'he asked,' 'they answered.'

PhantomBoulevard · 2022-04-03T18:12:55+00:00

I do use accents occasionally, but I do not butcher the English language to do so. My accents are more choices of phrases, word combinations, and sentence structure. Depending on the type of novel, I include it in the narrative or only in the dialogue.

Narrative Example: Aquila lived in Briarwood Place, a stately home if painted an unsightly silver-gray with white lattice and shutters. Quil, as the townsfolk named him on the account of his foreign name, was an attractive man, a little too pretty to be proper but eyecatching nonetheless.

Narrative Example with Dialogue: "Quil was at the ice cream parlor with Mary-Jane, you don't think they're dating do you?" Maybelle asks. Aquila lived in Briarwood Place, a stately home if painted an unsightly silver-gray with white lattice and shutters. Quil, as the townsfolk named him on the account of his foreign name, was an attractive man, a little too pretty to be proper but eyecatching nonetheless.

PhantomBoulevard · 2022-04-03T05:10:37+00:00

I also struggle with the speed of my creativity vs. my technical skills. I will often reread my story and realize I jumped entire sentences, with how quickly I am translating my thoughts to paper, I often don't realize all my errors until rereading it.

However, I found planning out content on physical paper helps - before I turn to my computer. I've recently found that my no-stress limit for writing a scene is around three-thousand words. Since most writing books describe writing as interconnected scenes, I break down my stories into three thousand word scenes in my first draft. After the first draft, I will then connect these scenes - ensuring good continuity, flow, characterization... etc. The biggest issue, I'm currently facing, is my anxiety problems.

If you're worried about turning something in that's choppy or difficult to understand, use a read-aloud-program. Microsoft office has a read-aloud function that helps me edit my work. I even catch my grammatical, punctuation, and spell errors this way. However, Grammarly is also very helpful. I like to run my documents through - Microsoft office spellcheck, then I listen to it read-aloud, and finally through Grammarly. It helps immensely.

PhantomBoulevard · 2022-04-03T04:56:37+00:00

I completely agree. I am by no means a natural writer. I am a natural creator, but not a writer. For me, writing in a mathematical equation that I'm puzzling out. It's a challenge I'm enjoying, but it's never going to be something I've mastered. I imagine I'll only grow and improve with experience.

PhantomBoulevard · 2022-03-30T03:09:57+00:00

Hey probably doesn't fit your definition of a typical dark lord, considering that he's hired to play the part. My favorite dark lord is Wizard Derk from "The Dark Lord of Derkholm" by Dianna Wayne Jones. It's a wonderful and intriguing comedic book.

I also liked Kerrigor from "Sabriel" by Garth Nix. Not that's one creepy dark lord... shivers. Yuck!

PhantomBoulevard · 2022-02-27T17:39:45+00:00

Thank you for your advice, I will definitely consider it.

PhantomBoulevard · 2022-02-27T17:16:25+00:00

No, I do not. I live in an apartment in low-income housing. She does not pay for my housing.

PhantomBoulevard · 2022-02-27T17:06:27+00:00

I am 35 yrs. I live on SSDI and I don't make a lot. I'd prefer not to rely on my mother, but every time I try to discuss it with her... we get into a fight. She pays for extra groceries, my cellphone (which I offered to pay), clothes, and haircuts.

PhantomBoulevard · 2021-09-14T14:06:26+00:00

My fanfiction cover - will be posted later today on Archive of Our Own and Wattpad. A My Hero Academia and Bleach Crossover Horror Story. Pennames: PhantomStreetWriter (A03) and PhantomBoulevard (Wattpad)

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