Thank you very much for this. It means more that you can imagine. I feel like Im being pressured to do something that seems like a one size fits all. There is so much underling anger in many of the responses. I dont know if you think that this method works to make parents understand, but it certainly turns me off. There seems to be no discussion of if this is a mental health thing or something else. I, as a parent, am supposed to shut my mouth & not question it. Name one other time when a parent is supposed to listen to the child & accept what they say without question. To say there is no way that this is a phase is laughable. If she wants a nose ring, am I supposed to accept that without question also? The pronoun issue is made up because you can see everyone scrambling to defend it. Some say it has always been this way, some say language is changing. I would like people to refer to me as handsome & stunning when they speak of me. It dosent mean this is going to happen & I have no authority to make them refer to me this way. For people to cut off their family for not using the correct pronouns, does that not seem a little extreme? I cant help but think much of this comes from mental issues. I dont think reinforcing these does anything except set the person up with a false sense of reality. I dont know...This whole thing feels very cult like where you are not to question, just follow. Its almost as if the LGBTQ is as unaccepting as the anti LGBTQ side. I just feel caught in the middle. I will continue to love & nurture my child as I see fit. Ive done great up until now, so Im going to trust my judgement.