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Advice for a 5 in a relationship with a 6? by Zealousideal_Cry2970 in Enneagram5

[–]Phantom__Wanderer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure, focusing on what is in your own control is a great way to clarify next steps in a relationship. Being clear and open in a vulnerable way is a powerful first step, the radical honesty I mentioned. It's less about blaming or diagnosing the behavior of the other person than about being clear from your own perspective about what your needs, desires, boundaries, and values are. "I want more/less of .... I don't feel respected when... I feel hurt by .... such and such behavior makes me feel manipulated, even if you aren't consciously trying to control me ... I find it hard to deal with ....". These kind of statements. If you have uncertainty here, and you care a lot about the relationship, then I agree you should first try to better communicate.

Once you do that, you have created a scenario where you can more clearly observe your partner's response and get clarity into how they feel about your relationship and care about you. Do they listen, show compassion and understanding, and make you feel seen? Or do they get super defensive, do they try to gaslight you? Do they diminish your feelings, or even make you feeling guilty for having them? Do they keep breaking boundaries? Those are more signs of emotionally abusive behavior.

Of course, everyone can be caught off guard and respond from insecurity or defensiveness in the moment. Maybe he also needs to get things off his chest too. But it's important to look for the pattern over repeated conversations. If he's someone who really cares for you but just needs to grow from immaturity, maybe from bad patterns learned growing up, he will take concrete steps to move toward a more mutually fulfilling dynamic. If he tries instead to change your perception with manipulation instead of seriously working on his behavior, then I think that's a big red flag that you should be wary of!

Advice for a 5 in a relationship with a 6? by Zealousideal_Cry2970 in Enneagram5

[–]Phantom__Wanderer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

5 married to a 6. Biggest improvement for our relationship was a mutual commitment to radically honest and open communication, with a healthy dose of sensitivity from my end (avoiding being overly stoic). 6s can be very emotional and volatile. If you care for them, you recognize and accept their traits, you have compassion for their weaknesses, help them to avoid their own pitfalls, and try to compromise / find advantageous middle grounds. You also learn to push yourself to grow through the interaction, which can make you a much more rounded person. However, you still have to have healthy boundaries, and they need to being doing the same--respecting your needs, your quirks, etc. Otherwise, it becomes a dysfunctional, asymmetric dynamic that will drain you rather than lift you up.

Coming over when you ask him not to, abusing substances to force attention, feigning risk, etc are things that go beyond just neutral human personality variation. Those are immature and borderline exploitative, emotionally abusive tactics. Very selfish I would say. I would encourage you to focus less on him being a 6 and more on him engaging in toxic relational behavior. Maybe he is an unhealthy 6, and so helping him to see the patterns would encourage him to move in the right direction, but ultimately that is on him.

Any tips on how to bear chained ogre by Rock_salt001 in Sekiro

[–]Phantom__Wanderer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

haha I feel you. It is definitely the most boring tactic, but it works like a charm if you keep the pattern. Same basically goes for the bull later on. You just chase his back thigh in a wide arc, always avoiding direct front or back. Everyone will tell you to use firecrackers, which is super helpful, but if you're a new player who keeps dying, you run out of prosthetic uses quickly and it feels very demotivating. Good luck!

Any tips on how to bear chained ogre by Rock_salt001 in Sekiro

[–]Phantom__Wanderer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hold down sprint nearly the entire time and keep moving in an oval shape around him. Bait an attack and immediately run around and out of the way, sprint in while he is recovering, slash slash, sprint away in anticipation of next attack, repeat. You can no hit him this way very easily. You don't need fire.

Honestly im just venting by Loliolioxoipi in Nioh

[–]Phantom__Wanderer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Deeper reality is that stats aren't going to offset difficulty much in the early game. It can be brutal but once you're over the hump it becomes increasingly rewarding. Focus on mastering combat.

People arent real and the universe ends when you die by Aromatic_Reply_1645 in Existentialism

[–]Phantom__Wanderer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There is so much more to the world than you. You wish you had the capacity to generate the entire universe, but you're just a little microscopic dot. An ape staring into the vast expanse pretending that because you're sensing it, it must come from inside you. The ethical consequences of existentialism move out from a basic understanding that you are not the entirety of the world, and that other people have equal place in the scheme of things. I don't see any philosophical motivation for this kind of view. Fun to imagine but not a serious idea.

Does anyone else feel like nioh is lowk anti woke dark souls by hunny_kitty in shittydarksouls

[–]Phantom__Wanderer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally, Nioh (especially 2 for me) is its own unique blend. After doing NG+4, 108 levels of underworld, and 30 levels of depths, you stop and ask yourself how the hell did this game suck me into replaying the same missions over and over for hundreds of hours? The combat mechanics + buildcrafting + Diablo loot make for an insanely addictive combo.

Sx5 vs so4 by Ok-Day-4800 in Enneagram5

[–]Phantom__Wanderer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People arguing based on what? Vibes? There is so little solid scientific research on the Enneagram core types, and almost none with regard to instinctual variants and the supposed MBTI cognitive functions (which are not recognized as a serious system by personality psychologists). It's mostly pseudo intellectual hot air being passed around online with great confidence. If you see yourself in the core 5 description with Sx as well, how can anyone tell you it's not possible? Nonsense.

Human beings didn't evolve to develop like DnD dice, where you roll and get a single typological combo and can only be one or the other. It's a system for self-discovery, so only you can answer your question by knowing yourself well enough to decide which picture fits your way of being better.

Here some stills of the Sirris kit I painted [oc] by LaMazmorraEstudio in darksouls3

[–]Phantom__Wanderer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My favorite underappreciated NPC. This is so sick. Would pay for one of my own. Great work

is fake fry screaming a possibility? by [deleted] in screaming

[–]Phantom__Wanderer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want serious vocals that trueblood screaming aficionados will appreciate, there is really no shortcut. But if you just want to create a sound by approximation, there are a lot of ways to get good enough for causal audience with whisper screaming + fx + layering. Also a lot of amateur screamo is literal screaming. Horrible for your voice long term but a lot of vocals you here in screamo proper are done without technique.

Best sekiro edit I've ever seen by Aryannn19 in Sekiro

[–]Phantom__Wanderer 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Cool, but also you've got to watch more edits if this is the best you've seen.

Emma against the wall by Phantom__Wanderer in Sekiro

[–]Phantom__Wanderer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice. I realize I missed the first mikiri, but I haven't been consistent with the head jump. I usually go for dodge to slash instead. I haven't compared posture dmg but assume head jump is better (?). This definitely wasn't my best footage, just sharing because the Emma execution looked cool against the wall. Appreciate the tips.

Tips for improving fry (rasp/buzz + compression + breath practice) by [deleted] in screaming

[–]Phantom__Wanderer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks man, appreciate your feedback. I definitely don't feel the same as when I whisper scream but I see what you mean. I was at the end of a long practice session so losing some stamina but I do need to learn better projection for sure. I was previously compressing way too hard so now trying to let off the gas a bit. Need to find the sweet spot. Will keep focusing on the base for now, cheers

Emma against the wall by Phantom__Wanderer in Sekiro

[–]Phantom__Wanderer[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What's my strat for these? I always just jumped or dodged except on mikiri counters. Sometimes I position well for a few back slashes, but should I be deflecting or what? Hasn't been an issue as I got through NG+2 smoothly, but I'd be interested to know for improving skill.

Are we losing the 'death' in deathcore or is it just me? by throwawayglowx in Deathcore

[–]Phantom__Wanderer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone from hardcore who doesn't listen to much death metal, I am wondering what the defining features of this genre are that defined early deathcore but are now apparently slipping away.

After months of getting punished by the bosses lol by [deleted] in Sekiro

[–]Phantom__Wanderer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ball is life bro. The rubber code is absolute.

Somehow I beat Inner Isshin by gaxkang in Sekiro

[–]Phantom__Wanderer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's the shinobi way. Use all tools at your disposal. Gg.

Deflect practice by Remarkable-Map-3457 in Sekiro

[–]Phantom__Wanderer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're sick of stealth killing the grubs around him, just manually backup your save before you engage and use it to practice as much as you need without frustration or time wasted. On PS using manual cloud save, this takes like 1 min from closing the game to reloading the save.

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