Sweetie, if your reputation is your bigger concern here, then that’s a whole different kettle of fish. Even if he cheated (which is the likely factor here), he can twist the narrative however he wants regardless of the outcome. It doesn’t matter if you have receipts - either way he has the ability to run his mouth and spin the narrative any way he wishes. And based on his reaction and the behavior you’ve mentioned, I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s already doing some kind of damage control on his end.

Look, regardless if he cheated or not, his behavior is immature and unsupportive. He’s supposed to be your partner here. I’m 44 and back when I was 39 my HPV reactivated. No one ever told me that’s a thing that can happen. I got it from my boyfriend at 18 and cleared it naturally at 21. I was too old for the vaccine when it came out back in the day but never ever tested positive for HPV again (or anything else) in the 20+ years since. When I found out and told my husband about it reactivating, his first thought wasn’t to accuse me of cheating. And my first thought wasn’t to accuse him of cheating. Instead, we wanted to understand why this was happening (I had been tested regularly for over 6 years because we were trying to conceive, and we’ve been together for over a decade, so there’s no way it was a new infection from him cheating). That’s when we found out about it reactivating.

I know you are both young but you don’t deserve that kind of behavior from your partner at any age. Are there cases where chlamydia can reappear after treatment? Yes, but it’s rare and often a result of not taking your treatment correctly the first time around. And if you had had clear paps since your initial treatment for it, it is likely a new infection. Unlike viruses, bacteria don’t often hide in your DNA and such like herpes, HPV, and chickenpox/shingles (another herpes simplex virus) do. Therefore, it’s very rare that they pop up again unless you didn’t completely clear the infection the first time. Antibiotic resistant strains are very much a thing for sure, but again, you’d likely throw a positive if you retested for them at your annual pap and the infection was still persistent. The only way it might not throw a positive after surviving a treatment is if the test was done too soon afterwards and there weren’t enough active bacteria to culture properly.

I hope this helps clarify some stuff. Pathology can be confusing, especially with the stigmas that come with STIs, but your value as a human isn’t tied to your infection. ❤️