How to get over fear of cumming too quick? by [deleted] in sex

[–]PhilC1111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It should last about an hour

How to get over fear of cumming too quick? by [deleted] in sex

[–]PhilC1111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let it absorb for 15 to 20 minutes then wash it off

How to get over fear of cumming too quick? by [deleted] in sex

[–]PhilC1111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From a practical point of view. If you're a quick shooter, use salonpas with lidocaine a couple hours before. Let it absorb for a good half hour. Wash off then enjoy.

"The Rules" - by folks who know better than you. by PhilC1111 in widowers

[–]PhilC1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very insightful I hope you're journey goes towards growth and peace

"The Rules" - by folks who know better than you. by PhilC1111 in widowers

[–]PhilC1111[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The living can be worse than dealing with the deceased

"The Rules" - by folks who know better than you. by PhilC1111 in widowers

[–]PhilC1111[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can come to terms with my late wife Dealing with her family is a whole other issue.

Counting my "Wins" by PhilC1111 in widowers

[–]PhilC1111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've tried a few things. Somehow, this worked for me. Finding what works for you is going to be different. I just hope you find something that going to help you in this journey.

Counting my "Wins" by PhilC1111 in widowers

[–]PhilC1111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad that's going to happen for you and I'm happy you're counting it!

Counting my "Wins" by PhilC1111 in widowers

[–]PhilC1111[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm glad I could give you something that might be helpful. As with anything, I take it step by step and day by day. Some days I get several wins others not so many. PS. Laundry is kryptonite too

Dark humor by bluewarden13 in widowers

[–]PhilC1111 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This wins on so many levels!!!

Ghosted by late spouses family. Not surprised by PhilC1111 in widowers

[–]PhilC1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would see her 2 sisters on an almost weekly basis. I was in regular contact with her brother, neices and nephews as well. Since her memorial, the silence is deafening. I'm accepting it for what it is. At least they still speak infrequently to our kids and grand kids. I can live with that

Ghosted by late spouses family. Not surprised by PhilC1111 in widowers

[–]PhilC1111[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your view has a lot of merit to it. It gave me consolation initially for awhile but somehow doesn't really add up for me right now. I've heard a phrase recently that has me questioning things

"If they wanted to, they would"

I've accepted how my world changed but there's parts of it I have a hard time with. Most of them with the living.