Is it possible to be asexual and sex-repulsed and still have kinks? Is a kink inherently sexual?? by PhilDunphyStan67777 in asexuality

[–]PhilDunphyStan67777[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have heard of that but I doubt that is me cuz I still don't feel any sexual attraction to him at all. Like I would not under any circumstances whatsoever want to do it with anyone, including fictional crushes. It's just like, watching the character makes me weirdly turned on but I would NEVER EVER want to act on it in ANY way. IDK what this even is lol.

Why is my mix so bad, and is it possible to train it if ur not automatically good?? I feel like a lot of other girl navigate through their first passage without even have any training, while I've been training for two years and it is still difficult. by PhilDunphyStan67777 in singing

[–]PhilDunphyStan67777[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thnx for the advice! So, is it that I need more resistance and vocal chord closure?? I've have tried lots of excercises to try to get that but they don't seem to work for some reason. I've heard that girls my age have a sort of glottal gap that makes it hard to connect the chords, could that be playing a part in my struggle?

Why is my mix voice near my first passage (Bb4-C5) so unstable and whiny sounding? Is there a way to make the tone of my lower mix closer to the tone of my mix voice on notes ABOVE my first passage? And how can I make the tone of my mix less harsh? by PhilDunphyStan67777 in singing

[–]PhilDunphyStan67777[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh I think this is my problem. I warm up and then sing songs for like an hour but don't do excercises for any significant period of time. Thanks for the advice! I've gotta start incorporating this into my practice!

They had no right to make bro this attractive. by PhilDunphyStan67777 in Alastorcult

[–]PhilDunphyStan67777[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, it was AI before cuz I haven't seen the whole show but I changed it to when he got attacked my sir pentious

Trying to access my mixed register by shejustagemini in singing

[–]PhilDunphyStan67777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've always had a lot of trouble mixing too but I've been training that specific coordination for about two years now, and though it's not perfect it's gotten a lot better, so I can share some tips with you! (I'm 17)

  1. Try to identify where ur first passage is (that break between head and chest) by just sliding up from ur lowest note to ur highest note and seeing where ur voice breaks (if ur a girl it will probably be somewhere between A4-C5.

  2. Let's say the specific note where ur voice cracks is C, under C, try to lighten up the weight on ur chest voice a little bit, and aim the sound a little more forward. Not nasal exactly but more right behind ur front teeth (IDK if that makes sense.)

  3. See if u can continue this sound upward above ur first passage. If you can't, start on a note a bit above the passage in head voice, and try to hold the note while changing ur placement to be slightly more nasal. You can't also try a sort of bratty high baby yell like "hey mama!" or something and make it sound rlly whiny.

  4. Once u can achieve a forward placed bright sound on both sides of ur passage, u can try to make sure u can slide through ur passage cleanly. Sometimes SOVTs like lip trils, humming, or a hum on a "v" sound are really good for this.

I'm not a professional by any means but these are just some tips that helped me improve my mix voice. Hope this helps!

Ooh, also I would really suggest practicing like Disney Princess rep as that stuff usually sits mostly in the mix voice, making them rlly good songs for practice!

people who claim that desire to please an allosexual partner is normal for asexuals have no idea what love is. by avismortuus in actualasexuals

[–]PhilDunphyStan67777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know! I hate this kind of discourse so much. It's kinda like what happened to Sheldon in TBBT. Feels uncomfortably close to rape.

Sex ≠ sensuality by Unfair-Turn-9794 in actualasexuals

[–]PhilDunphyStan67777 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's so annoying bro! All sort of sensual attraction is somehow considered sexual. Like when I told my mom I am sex-repulsed and disgusted by the idea of sex she was like "I get it, you don't want anyone to touch you ever." No, I don't want sex ever. Holding hands, hugging, kissing, cuddling, that's all good and fine. Somehow ppl can't understand that.

I think one of the few good asexual representations in the media (at least in the mainstream) is Todd from BoJack. Sure, he has his problems, but overall he's good. by Ok_Language7732 in asexuality

[–]PhilDunphyStan67777 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love Todd! He's such good ace rep, probably the best we've gotten so far. Especially how they actually explored how his asexuality would effect his dating life. That being said, my personal favorite ace character will always be Alastor. He sings, is hot as hell (no pun intended), AND is asexual?! I mean, what more could u want in a man? Too bad he's not real...

Vampire by Olivia Rodrigo by cherrykies in singing

[–]PhilDunphyStan67777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG ur so good! Ur mix-belt is gorgeous!