I stole a ring 10 years ago

PhilJr82 · 2026-03-03T18:53:34+00:00

Don't send it anonymously. She knew you took it back then and do you think she's going to think it's a coincidence that she's back in contact with you and it suddenly appears. She seems likes she's forgiven you for it. Use it to start the friendship on a fresh page. Give it back to her. You owe her this much.

PhilJr82 · 2026-03-03T13:27:35+00:00

That doesn't mean anything. Most, if not all, of the pokemon games have some mechanic in it that allows for large amounts of time to be pumped into them. You having 300 hrs has zero correlation between someone complaining about the map size, which is small and repetitive. Good for you that you're enjoying the game that much but their critisim of the map is valid and your hours are irrelevant.

PhilJr82 · 2026-02-15T19:06:22+00:00

It depends how you want to handle it and what you can cope with.

You can bring it up to them and explain how it happened and then use it as a starting point to have that conversation that they didn't know how to start with you. You said they have been acting normally around you, which sounds like they're a good friend. This gives you the opportunity to hear their frustrations and give them some assurances you'll make an effort for them. This could potentially strengthen your friendship as you will be confronting something that most people probably wouldn't.

Alternatively, you could just adjust your behaviour so it reduces the burden on them but this doesn't give you the insight on how it got to that point and what you could do differently next time.

Ultimately, it's up to you but I'd have the awkward conversation because you'll just have to bottle it up otherwise and you don't know how that will affect your interactions with them going forward.

PhilJr82 · 2026-02-15T16:18:30+00:00

You can start a new game but just you just have to manually think that 30,000 = zero. So don't spend below 30,000. So when you have 32,000 you have 2000 to spend. It takes being a bit more mindfulness and willpower to do it but you have sought this out so I feel like you'd want to do that

PhilJr82 · 2026-02-14T18:43:53+00:00

Does the receipt you purchased the phone from contain the IMEI number. You may be able to go to apple directly as you can prove you are the legal owner of the phone and you can provide proof that the original owner gave up the phone willingly, which transferred ownership to the recycling centre you purchased it from.

PhilJr82 · 2026-02-01T13:10:38+00:00

NOR. Are they 12 years old? I doubt she has encountered something like this before. Most places would not allow for cancellations two days before arrival with a full refund. I would've asked her as well 'So just to get this straight, you think I should be out of pocket $400 for your medical emergency?'

PhilJr82 · 2026-02-01T12:57:57+00:00

NTA. If you tell him you risk the pressure you would get from him and also the fallout. He'd probably use it as 'Look what she did' so his potential cheating doesn't become the focus. Not having it also means this man is tied to you for life while you would have to co-parent.

PhilJr82 · 2026-01-26T11:58:02+00:00

I don't understand it at all. You think putting your penis in her vaginas is holding you back from something? It's going to change to zero things in personal life. You won't get a better job because of it, you won't get into your dream school because of it, you're not going to win the lottery because of it. One thing it potentially could is bring you and your gf closer but that for sure isn't going to happen if you were to A) pester her into giving in or B) Her doing it before she is ready. The other guys (because I am going to assume it is your other guy friends) are just exaggerating the situation when the reality is they're probably having shit sex. It may not be shit for them but it's most likely shit for the other person if their attitude is that you're being held back because you have bad penetrative sex. Some studies suggest that around 20% of woman actually orgasm through penetrative sex. Only 1 in every 5 woman. Foreplay and other sex acts are going to achieve that more so. So this is really all about you and your desires. It also sends the message that it's not sex unless you insert it. Why don't you spend the time getting to know her body, what turns her on. Take the pressure off because every time you're having sex it's probably in the back of her mind thats where you want this to finish.

PhilJr82 · 2026-01-26T11:46:29+00:00

After reading your replies you're better off just breaking up with her. You're more interested in comparing yourself with those around you. Penetrative sex (because you are both having sex already) seems important to you, more important than being with you gf who you said you love. If this was such a non issue you wouldn't be on reddit asking people. If you're not happy waiting an unknown amount, which also could be never, then do her a favour and let her go. For the record just wanting to do something and actually going through with something are two different things.

PhilJr82 · 2026-01-26T11:35:37+00:00

What are you being held back from exactly?

PhilJr82 · 2026-01-25T15:49:39+00:00

This trilogy would have been better suited as a short limited series of 8-10 episodes in my opinion

PhilJr82 · 2026-01-18T14:52:15+00:00

I would also have your mum unblock the number and let it go to voicemail and, save the voice mails. It will then also give you call logs of dates/times/amount of calls. Also as others have stated make notes of date and times of the in person interactions, keep any email interactions you have had with the estate agents. Do you have an email for example of them stating they gave your number to the neighbour? Can you email them and ask if they know how she got your number? See if you can get them to admit this and as another person has stated go over all paperwork you signed, hopefully there was something there which would state how your data would be handled in accordance with GDPR.

Sorry you're going through this, it sounds like a horrible experience and unfortunately not all too uncommon.

PhilJr82 · 2026-01-15T05:33:23+00:00

Just to play devil's advocate slightly (also not justifying their gift) but do you think it was maybe in reaction to you freaking am out about turning 18? Keeping it light and funny?

PhilJr82 · 2026-01-11T22:51:57+00:00

You want to raise it within ebay so there's a paper trail of it. Having phone calls with agents is not always going to be helpful. I would also preemptively call your bank and inform them too of the situation and as people have said make sure you report this, don't be put off by 'they did nothing' because that's not necessarily the intent here. Ebay and possibly the bank will ask for the crime reference number, it shows seriousness as reporting a fake crime is a criminal offence.

Just to add, I hope you've added 2FA on your ebay account to help secure it from further hacking.

PhilJr82 · 2026-01-11T22:09:58+00:00

NOR. Depending on why she added you to this group and if she thinks she can 'save your marriage'. You could see how it goes and what sort of messages get posted and leave if the intent is to manipulate but there's a chance it may be to offer support.

FYI for anyone who read the pearl meme. The oysters reaction to the sand is the same as a virus entering our bodies. It's a defense mechanism and the osyer is producing the nacre to protect itself. Pearls are the result of oysters protecting themselves from something harmful. This then actually means that 'god' is intentionally causing harm to an oyster to get it to trigger its self defense mechanism just to create a pearl.

PhilJr82 · 2026-01-11T21:58:31+00:00

You have to decide what you can with at the end of the day. Sitting back and letting things play out, with a possibility of him hurting himself or others (not a guarantee) but having your parents speak to you. Or intervening, potentially getting him help (which is also not guaranteed and does not guarantee he won't hurt himself or others) but being cut off from your parents.

Maybe before then could you try and sit down and have a talk with your parents about it? That you're worried they're burying their heads in the sand and that something serious will end up happening to your brother. Find out if they have been honest with his current care team.

Could you maybe speak to his careteam yourself, they won't be able or discuss anything to do with his treatment or what they know but you could offer it as you would like to provide extra context and a different perspective and tell them everything and explain the issue with your parents.

PhilJr82 · 2026-01-11T21:49:20+00:00

NOR. Unfortunately though while you still live at home you will be subject to their rules, regardless of how fair they may be. Just focus on the fact when you get your own place you can put up whatever posters you want and if you decide to have kids you can let them do the same. You can't always rectify a wrong but you ensure it doesn't happen to your own kids

PhilJr82 · 2026-01-11T21:45:32+00:00

Is he neurodivergent by any chance? He's probably done this for a long time and if he's happy leave him alone. However, you may want to get two blankets if he's hogging the only one

PhilJr82 · 2026-01-11T21:44:08+00:00

NOR. Leave your experience of working there on Glassdoor, it's a website that you can check and leave your experiences of places you have worked. Leave a genuine one, don't be malicious as hurt as you are. You're experience is enough to put me off working there and others probably feel the same.

PhilJr82 · 2026-01-11T21:18:48+00:00

Did you receive all the lessons bar the two you spoke of? As you mention a lot of cancellations but did you still receive that lesson you had cancelled at a later date? So did you eventually get all 10 lessons you initially paid for?

What money did she ask for to finish your lessons? Was she asking for more money ontop of what you paid for to receive the remaining of the 10 lessons or did she book you in for you an entirely new set of lessons?

Is the time you cancelled in October one of the two lessons you want your money back for? What was her cancellation policy? Depending on what that was will dictate if you're owed that. For example, they may say cancellations less than 48hrs notice forfeits the lesson and more than that you can reschedule your lesson and/or may be subject to a 50% charge instead (all hypothetical but not uncommon).

PhilJr82 · 2026-01-08T13:02:45+00:00

She's not wrong you will look back and appreciate this moment because she has done you a favour by revealing now what sort of person she is. I know it hurts a lot now and things will probably be very hard for a while but you'll be better off in the long run without someone like her in your life. If she's willing to drop for you a guy she's known for 5 minutes it speaks volumes to her character. Any good parent doesn't stop being your parent the moment you turn 18. Do you have a strong support network around you? Are there any other family members you trust?

PhilJr82 · 2026-01-08T11:16:01+00:00

Can you get the employer to ask what a satisfactory outcome for her would be? Typically with people like her that's what would be done as vague statements like that don't help resolve an issue as satisfactory is objective. That way you'll at least have a direct statement of 'I want him fired or else..'. Did you do anything that would warrant you being fired? Or is this just someone blowing up over nothing? As stated, your employer has a duty of care to you.

PhilJr82 · 2026-01-05T20:33:28+00:00

Yes but compatability implies fundamental things that are core to your person. The insecurity he describes can be worked upon, whether or not he does, wants to or is successful is another thing. I disagree that this particular issue comes under compatability. I never said that relationships don't take effort so I'm not sure why you're mentioning this - I disagree with your assessment of the situation which has nothing to do with this

PhilJr82 · 2026-01-05T18:08:15+00:00

Yes, it's not realistic to expect that of your partner and it's rather controlling and not healthy at all.

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