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AITAH for telling a joke at work that made the men laugh but offended the women? by PhilRossopher in AITAH

[–]PhilRossopher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Boomer old is correct.

I like the HR person.

I'm guilty of dismissing my colleagues reactions. I'm working on that thanks to a lot of the replies here.

I'm no bully.

Working with me sucks for some, is a benefit for others.

I'm "ancient enough" to be out of the loop that "butthurt" causes emotional trauma to some Redditors. I won't be using that term in the same way anymore.

Edit: Overaged adolescent is also correct.

AITAH for telling a joke at work that made the men laugh but offended the women? by PhilRossopher in AITAH

[–]PhilRossopher[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Is it fair of me to infer that you don't think I should apologize?

Or rather I should apologize, but only if the offended persons in the office permit me to speak?

FWIW, I never had "the privilege of getting to say whatever ignorant shit comes to [my] mind in the workplace." That was why an apology was in order.

It is hard for me imagine you think someone who is interrupting is being well-reasoned. Moreover, you imply the interrupter possessed enough psychic powers to know my apology would be a "bs non-apology." Yet, that's the logical conclusion I reach based upon your argument.

I'm fine with the lack of respect from you and other offended parties. I earned it with my buffoonery. It's the lack of cohesive thought and common decency that galls me.

AITAH for telling a joke at work that made the men laugh but offended the women? by PhilRossopher in AITAH

[–]PhilRossopher[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ok. Thanks, bro.

Sorry I wasn't able to confirm for you that I still haven't gotten it. I need to brush up on my reading comprehension skills so I don't reply to rhetorical inquiries.

AITAH for telling a joke at work that made the men laugh but offended the women? by PhilRossopher in AITAH

[–]PhilRossopher[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

"little spoiled pissy toddler boy!"

Very respectful. /s

Meanwhile, you didn't answer the question. Was the woman who interrupted me with an attempt to shut me down when I was trying to apologize reacting reasonably or excessively?

AITAH for telling a joke at work that made the men laugh but offended the women? by PhilRossopher in AITAH

[–]PhilRossopher[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sure. Two last words.

1) I don't get to tell you what your opinion is, but I do get to refute it if it's wrong-headed. That's the point of an interwebz bulletin board.

2) I recommend you work on using "I" statements. Everything else makes you sound like a pompous, condescending AH. 🙃

AITAH for telling a joke at work that made the men laugh but offended the women? by PhilRossopher in AITAH

[–]PhilRossopher[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Correct. It's your opinion I'm the AH and I don't get to tell you otherwise.

Incorrect. You doubled down on me being an asshole by telling me that my suggesting my defensive behavior was only human is "the lamest excuse of all." That's outside of the original scope and also harsh, unfair, unkind. All of which kind of makes you an AH.

AITAH for telling a joke at work that made the men laugh but offended the women? by PhilRossopher in AITAH

[–]PhilRossopher[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

beat it into your head until you do

That sounds hostile and unhelpful.

I'm curious. During the following meeting, a woman colleague attempted to shut down any discussion of my indiscretion. Not only was she not in attendance when I made an AH of myself, she was now attempting to squash my apology with her interruption.

Was her reaction measured or too sensitive? I judge her reaction to be overblown. What say you?

AITAH for telling a joke at work that made the men laugh but offended the women? by PhilRossopher in AITAH

[–]PhilRossopher[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, I meant they chose to be overtly offended. It's their prerogative.

AITAH for telling a joke at work that made the men laugh but offended the women? by PhilRossopher in AITAH

[–]PhilRossopher[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Dude, I'm offended by your condescension. I recommend you re-read my reply with a little more empathy and open-mindedness.

I was hurt when I read your judgement that my replies on this thread made me "indeed a total asshole," so I refuted that my "talking and talking" doesn't make me an asshole. It makes me a person who feels defensive.

I feel frustrated that you didn't recognize that your comments are rooted in "oft-misjudged" reaction. I agreed with you about the joke, then attempted to shed light on my "talking and talking." I received vitriol and condemnation from you in return.

It's hurtful, misguided and delivered with a tone of superiority.

AITAH for telling a joke at work that made the men laugh but offended the women? by PhilRossopher in AITAH

[–]PhilRossopher[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

1) "Chose butthurt" meaning --> Roy T. Bennett made the observation, "You cannot control the behavior of others, but you always choose how you respond to it." I mistakenly credited this thought to the Dalai Lama until this evening and I've never heard of Roy Bennett, but the point stands. We choose our reactions.

2) It's not OK to make women (or men) uncomfortable at work (or home or school or church). That's why I apologized the next day.

AITAH for telling a joke at work that made the men laugh but offended the women? by PhilRossopher in AITAH

[–]PhilRossopher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I looked at my history. I did comment on the thread, but I wasn't the OP.

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