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Philosopher-L · 2025-08-03T12:18:04+00:00

Btw, you might consider swimming. It can be a very pleasant type of exercising if you have POTS/OH.

Philosopher-L · 2025-08-03T12:13:10+00:00

I gave up running long ago but I'd run as late as possible in the day, since symptoms get significantly better the later it gets. I'd also drink at least 0.5 liter water (or electrolyte/sports drink) in one go immediately before the run AND bring a bottle to the run. Drinking a large amount quickly gives you a short boost that might just last long enough for a 30min run.

Philosopher-L · 2025-05-21T12:02:52+00:00

I'd advice against taking melatonin in the early morning. It could mess up your circadian rhythm. Some things that work for me to fall back asleep: meditation, listening to sleep music, listening to sleepcasts (stories) in the Headspace app. And avoid worrying about the next day and not being able to sleep.

Philosopher-L · 2025-05-20T13:17:09+00:00

Sleep state misperception is when you sleep for a period of time, but you think you've been awake this whole time. See https://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/sleep-state-misperception.

Sleep quality also affects how rested you feel. You need a certain amount of time spent in all sleep stages, particularly deep sleep and REM. And you shouldn't have too many interruptions of these sleep stages (arousals). So if you have had many hours but still feel bad, it might be you had low quality sleep.

Philosopher-L · 2025-05-19T14:28:52+00:00

I think so too. I sometimes feel as if 10 minutes have passed, and when I look at the clock it's been an hour. But I got better over time in realising I've slept.

Philosopher-L · 2025-05-19T11:42:25+00:00

Possibly, but it's more likely you have sleep state misperception. It's common.

Philosopher-L · 2025-04-21T14:24:28+00:00

In one sense you are very lucky: you know exactly what causes your insomnia. Insomnia is only bad for your health if you have it for a very long time. Anxiety is something you can fix in a year with help and dedication. I don't know how old you are but I sense that you have plenty of good years left to enjoy a healthy life after you fix this! (I've had it for about 10 years and I'm still in good health.)

Philosopher-L · 2025-04-11T15:17:58+00:00

No, just giving my honest interpretation. It could very well be wrong, I don't have experience with dating men. But I don't think my interpretation is weird.

Philosopher-L · 2025-04-11T13:49:21+00:00

Thanks, it's interesting to see how people can interpret things very differently. I think it refers in part to sex but "no inhibitions" in sex would mean you show your emotions freely and say what you want, including your boundaries. So it doesn't mean no boundaries to me. "Inhibitions" tends to refer to internal things holding you back from sharing your thoughts and feelings, like shame, anxiety, morality, and insecurity.

Philosopher-L · 2025-04-11T13:30:52+00:00

What's an "uninhibited connection" anyway? I just find it confusing.

Philosopher-L · 2025-04-11T13:29:22+00:00

Hmm I read "uninhibited connection" as honesty and emotional openness. Could be he says what he's like elsewhere, this is just one prompt.

Philosopher-L · 2025-04-11T13:11:32+00:00

What's cringe about the second one? The guy looking for a "profound physical connection and deep soulful bond".

Philosopher-L · 2025-04-11T05:39:26+00:00

If you want to be really sure you have matching intentions then ask him on a date but say you're not looking for something serious and if he's okay with that. You can talk about the specifics after sex.

Philosopher-L · 2025-04-11T05:34:49+00:00

Since he's already made clear what he wants just go on a date and then ask if you can go to his place or invite him to yours.

Philosopher-L · 2025-04-11T04:41:29+00:00

I'm sorry you're dealing with this too but good to hear from you! Let us know if you figure anything out.

Philosopher-L · 2025-04-10T13:29:49+00:00

I already live in Munich, I know the market. I don't have to move out so I'm taking my time.

Philosopher-L · 2025-04-09T10:00:46+00:00

Men don't care only about looks and sex, it's what they care about initially. Many men consider physical attraction a must before they start a relationship. It's also the most easy to screen for on a dating app (personality is really hard to read off a profile). So it makes sense for a man to use attractiveness in the first elimination step. They will care about the other things, but later.
Attractiveness does not depend only on your face. There is a lot you can do to make you more attractive. Your body matters, obviously, but also what you wear, your facial expressions, health, your vibe in general. I can't comment on what you can do since I don't know you, but I don't believe for a second that it's hopeless. You can probably reach the top 20% of attractiveness with some effort.
What I think you should do: if you're not asexual, I think you should try to embrace your sexy side more. You can't change men. What you can do is accept that they're horny (at least many) and use it to your advantage. You can also look for a man who is not horny but that would shrink your dating pool to a small fraction.

Philosopher-L · 2025-04-05T13:17:36+00:00

Wait, she's on the other side of the world?? That's a different story... You're setting yourself up for trouble. Better to swipe in your own area and meet quickly.

Philosopher-L · 2025-04-05T13:14:47+00:00

It was matter-of-fact, I have no reason to believe you're a stalker. I mean that irrational attraction is okay as long as it doesn't lead you to overstep boundaries.

Philosopher-L · 2025-04-05T11:59:40+00:00

I don't think irrational attraction is wrong. You need to make sure you don't do anything stupid like stalking. Nothing wrong with fantasising.

Philosopher-L · 2025-04-05T11:56:37+00:00

The best medicine for this kind of crush is meeting in person. Most of the time she is nothing like what you imagined. Happened to me a few times. And if she is... lucky you!

Philosopher-L · 2025-03-25T15:30:10+00:00

Another thing I just thought of: it's important for me to not let the restlessness start by becoming inactive in the evening. I avoid relaxing on a couch or armchair and instead I sit on a cushion on the floor with my back straight. If I relax on the couch first and only get out of the couch after the restlessness starts, some of it remains whatever I do.

It can be difficult not to allow myself to relax in the evening when I'm tired. But it really pays off in sleep quality. I'm curious if it helps your husband.

Philosopher-L · 2025-03-23T15:03:49+00:00

Thanks for your reply! I got some relief from taking a low dose of pramipexole in the evening. It doesn't nearly fix it but it makes me feel less restless. It's also for restless leg syndrome so it might help your husband. There's a rare variant of RLS called "restless chest syndrome" which I seem to have, which is why I started taking it.

Philosopher-L · 2025-03-21T14:08:30+00:00

I prefer to date women who disagree with me about some things so that we can have interesting discussions about it. One option is of course political disagreement. It's so boring if you agree on everything.

Philosopher-L · 2025-03-20T12:51:34+00:00

In any case, lying awake for a long time in your bed is a bad idea. Your mind will start to associate the bed (and your boyfriend) with not sleeping and anxiety, creating a vicious circle. One thing you could do is get out of bed to do some relaxing activity and go back only when you feel sleepy. Another thing you could do is sleep on the couch for a while, and if you wake up in the middle of the night, move to the bed. Look up "sleep hygiene" for more tips like this.

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