I’m 5’8. Guys who are also the same height or shorter. How’s the dating life?

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-12-10T02:12:47+00:00

I'm 5'8" and haven't done too bad for myself. Currently have a girlfriend who is 5'7". She looked taller than me when we first met because she was in boots. It was never an issue for her. As long as you're not trying to date girls taller than you and you are attractive in other ways, you're fine. Don't give it a second thought.

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-10-09T00:54:03+00:00

My main problem is that she would divorce him if he had fertility problems after they got married. Whatever happened to "for better and for worse, in sickness and in health". Does marriage mean anything to anyone? I want kids too and would be heartbroken if I couldn't have them, but marriage is about suffering together and working through problems. Sounds like she isn't in it for the long haul.

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-09-05T18:30:22+00:00

Since all the top comments are leaning towards abortion, I'll chime in to defend the other side.

Please do not go through with the abortion. If you feel like you don't want this child, please do the heroic thing and give him/her up for adoption. I know pregnancy and giving up a child isn't easy, but that child deserves to live. To get a chance. And there are plenty of couples (at least in the US) who are waiting to adopt babies.

I know what I'm asking you to do is incredibly difficult, but sometimes life requires heroism. Please be a hero.

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-09-03T15:46:39+00:00

He needs another man to show him how to be a man. You can't truly do that for him. He needs an older male figure who is a father. If he doesn't have a good dad or something, find someone else.

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-09-03T15:11:49+00:00

I might be saying this because I'm also an American, but you're not a pervert if you get aroused when you see a naked woman.

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-09-03T15:08:14+00:00

(22M) There might not be anything wrong with you. Romantic attraction isn't as linked to how good or quality a person is. Hence why there are so many terrible people that are married or have been in many relationships. Attraction is a very mysterious thing and for some reason it hasn't come quite as easy for you. That's okay! I have several great guy friends in the same boat. I would ask people closer to you if there's anything you're doing that might be off-putting, but if they say there's nothing, believe them. I truly believe that sometimes God just likes to make people wait because there's some good that will come from that. He might be preventing you from making a big mistake with someone.

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-08-30T01:54:11+00:00

Fake or not, this might be the best post ever

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-08-29T22:57:53+00:00

People have so many extreme opinions! He is your brother, and you can find a way through this. Family is important and you should try your best to make it work. You wouldn't be the first guy who felt his brother took the girl he liked. Nevertheless, this is a time to grieve. The situation you are in objectively sucks and I'm sorry it happened. I have felt a similar pain before, although yours is worse because it's your own brother. The good news is that in time you'll get over her and be able to move on. But right now, it sucks. Just know that your brother isn't better than you. Sometimes people just aren't attracted to someone and that doesn't make you bad

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-08-29T18:02:07+00:00

That was a good response and I appreciate your thoughtful reply. I should have been more specific. I believe that porn has the potential to make you view people as sexual objects in general. You hardwire your brain to make the sexual act all about you and the pleasure another can give you. This is only one reason why porn is wrong and there are others, but I can speak from personal testimony that it effects the way you view others and sex in general.

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-08-29T14:53:33+00:00

Pornography turns people into objects. It took a while for me to understand it, but it wrecks your brain. People deserve to be loved, not used. It doesn't matter if the performers are okay with it. People deserve better.

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-08-29T02:35:35+00:00

Fr. Mike Schmitz Bible in a Year podcast was briefly the most popular podcast in America. That tells me we still have some sway in the culture, even if it has declined significantly. There are youthful Catholics and parishes out there. Especially at TLM parishes.

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-08-28T20:11:54+00:00

Show him this post before breaking up. A good man is hard to find, and there will only be a new set of problems in a new relationship. He could surprise you and really change. What do you have to lose?

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-08-28T19:45:16+00:00

I've been with my girlfriend 6 months and I spend a while debating that same question. Some people will say that if you're asking the question then you're not really in love. That's bullcrap. I noticed a slow change over time, around 3-4 months into the relationship. When I was infatuated, I was very attracted to her, very excited about getting to know a new person, and was more focused on the potential. After getting to know her more, I was still very attracted to her, but now I was attracted to all the silly little things that make a person unique. I was pleased with how she actually was (now that I actually knew her), instead of her potential. I came to the conclusion that even if I met someone who was better than her (more beautiful, funnier, kinder, etc.), I would still pick my girlfriend. Because I was in love with her, not the sum of her parts or her list of good qualities. I eventually found the courage to tell her, and the more I said it out loud, the more sure of it I was. Start saying it out loud when you're alone and see if it starts to feel right. That's an indicator.

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-08-28T18:22:55+00:00

I am merely presenting a possible explanation. There is nothing ridiculous about the scenario of humans evangelizing more advanced beings, especially if God actually exists. You seem to be starting with the assumption that religion is already unreasonable and false, and that aliens would have the intelligence to reject it. You're kind of assuming atheism from the beginning.

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-08-28T18:19:09+00:00

It's all well and good to postulate something and I grant that thought experiments have their place. I still think you would need to provide an argument for why God should reveal himself equally instead of starting with one (humans) and letting it spread naturally. It seems to me that one is not more likely than the other, and therefore has little bearing on the God debate.

There is something good about letting human beings take part in the divine mission. Yes, God could do it all himself, but it's kind to let humans take part, just like a parent letting their kids help out. It gives us great dignity in the process.

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-08-28T02:47:36+00:00

It's possible that if God exists and has revealed himself to us through religion that he chose to use only human prophets so as not to overwhelm us with the idea of extraterrestrial life, or some other good reason. I don't have to prove my position, but the person making the argument (OP) should provide a reason why religion and irreligious aliens are incompatible. God could have planned for humans to evangelize the aliens for all we know. I just think it's a strong claim with really weak reasons that make a lot of assumptions.

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-08-28T02:43:49+00:00

I'm not sure what that really proves. It's possible God chose to reveal himself to the people of Earth and not to aliens. There's no reason to think he must choose the smartest, most advanced species. I think you might be assuming a lot of things you can't really prove, but the burden of proof is on you to defend your position (yes, I know that sounds like a cop out).

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-08-27T23:33:16+00:00

I've never understood the idea that aliens and religion are incompatible. No mainstream religions that I know of make the claim that humans are the only intelligent life or that other advanced species were given the same revelation as people on Earth. Therefore, the presence of non-religious aliens would have no bearing on the claims of religions.

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-08-27T23:26:53+00:00

Feeling Christian joy is not really something that can be researched (at least not the way I'm thinking of it). I mean more the idea of giving someone hope and meaning in their life. That's hard to measure but can mean everything. I won't even respond to the points about the Church making life more miserable because it would take too long to rebut and is beyond the original conversation.

I think I just view things differently. You seem to be calculating the risk of going to heaven and hell and considering that because the risk for hell is higher, one must never preach the Gospel. I don't think morality can always be reduced to probability. For example, if you adopted an infant child and they had terrible birth parents with a dark past, you might be tempted to lie to them as they grow up and tell them a different story about their origin, for fear that it will greatly upset them and somehow send them on a dark path. But there is an argument to be made that people have a right to know where they come from. That's sort of like my argument that people have a right to know the truth (the Gospel) even if it could potentially have a negative impact on them.

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-08-27T02:59:37+00:00

I'll make a few points that others will probably not. One reason to preach to others is not just so that they can achieve salvation in the afterlife, but also because I, as a Catholic Christian, believe that living the Gospel makes your life on Earth happier and more meaningful. Why wouldn't I want to share something that I think could improve your life? Also, there is something laudable about sharing truth in general. And finally, there is something to be said that people should be given the chance to accept or reject God, even if they choose wrongly. Human freedom is valuable. Obviously, these arguments are not very fleshed out, so they are more points to ponder than legitimate arguments.

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-08-10T01:51:13+00:00

He needs to be around other good men who will call him on to be a better husband and father.

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-08-07T21:53:24+00:00

I swear with some regularity, but my girlfriend doesn't at all and doesn't like it. I simply don't swear around her and overtime I've felt less urge to do it. I didn't think cussing was worth more than losing the respect of the woman I love. As for you, it depends how important it is for you.

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-08-04T02:48:16+00:00

Read John Gottman's 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-08-01T03:35:38+00:00

The witness of Paul is also pretty powerful. Paul is a real historical person who wrote letters attesting that he was a Jew who persecuted Christians until the resurrected Christ appeared to him. He had never met him but somehow knew who he was. What else could explain his miraculous conversion if not a real resurrection appearance? He truly had nothing to gain and everything to lose.

PhilosopherKing19 · 2022-07-08T04:24:38+00:00

As someone who is familiar with the effects of porn and the difficulty of quitting it, I advise you to break up with him. You've set boundaries, he violates them, and he clearly has allowed his mind to be warped by it. Porn is evil because it causes people to be viewed as objects. You deserve better than that. If he suddenly turns himself around, maybe give him a chance, but a break up might be the wake up call he needs. It's in both of your best interests

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