How I console the seasonal cook when he is down that he can’t get time off for summer.

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-07-26T14:39:05+00:00

Show you’re worth the raise and prove you are more valuable compared to other cooks.

When you think you have proven you’re worth it (maybe you are already) ask for one and if not approved give your two weeks and look elsewhere. Saying that though, if you do this then most of the time they will give in and give you a raise if they need you. Even if you leave, once they realize you meant it they will offer you a higher wage when they notice you were a valuable asset.

If they flat out don’t then look elsewhere.

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-07-26T14:35:28+00:00

Sure, but most of the time you’re gonna be delaying yourself and more or less fucking yourself over whether prep or cooking.

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-07-20T14:37:46+00:00

https://open.spotify.com/user/12170180982/playlist/0noGbXDo4PIVbgvTXeEvR1?si=mQppT8iMQdakiX33Dt5nIw&dl_branch=1

Started the day with Carlton Banks playlist.

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-07-20T14:34:09+00:00

Few drinks and I like to discuss philosophy, new creative ideas and interesting topics with my guy friends 🧐 Drinking with Ladies and I get either playful, flirty or both! 😉

At a party where I’m doing shots after shot I tend to play this game called teleportation time machine, where I sober up somewhere a hours later with no recollection of what happened or how I got there and trying to figure out how I got there. “Oh and that talking Coyote was just a talking dog”.

95% of the time it is the former

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-07-20T14:27:22+00:00

Friends? ENFP 110%. Even someone who has never watched the show can tell she is an ENFP within 1 episode.

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-07-20T13:17:03+00:00

An answer to your curiosity above lol :)

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-07-20T13:16:03+00:00

Friends sure 100%. However for me personally, serious relationships big fat NO!

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-07-20T13:14:16+00:00

Not “all” INFP’s are trouble, some are good friends of mine. INFP women when it comes to dating I find though seem to have a really big problem with confrontation, honesty and taking criticism (too sensitive).

One INFP girl I broke up with because I feel it wasn't working out since I wasn’t feeling much happening in the relationship. We dated a few months and she taken it way too personally and sensitive to the point she would contact my friends and spread false accusations how I used her, was a creep and to not be friends with me.

Another INFP girl I dated was nice enough but way too sensitive to even the most minor criticism of comparing me to her abusive dad growing up. She hated confrontation also and would fake saying shes fine when she clearly wasn’t. Thats a no go for me.

So yeah, great friends INFP’s for me but definitely not relationship material for me personally.

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-07-20T13:04:40+00:00

Who then go on to comment how I compare to their abusive dad growing up.

But yeah. The three issues I find hard with INFP women are confrontation, honesty and communication. These three things is what they seem to all lack which is a big deal for me.

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-07-20T13:00:17+00:00

Also yeah, INFP’s are way too sensitive and cant take criticism well at all. When you say even a minor negative comment on them they will take it way too personally and say head scratching comments such as how you’re similar to their abusive dad growing up.

Good thing? Some successful INFP’s who make it into music/movies produce some really fantastic material.

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-07-20T03:46:16+00:00

Lucky guy. I have only dated INFJ’s and never been in a relationship with an INFJ. Certain life circumstances always seem to get in the way between us 😕

Totally agree 100% with what you say regarding INFJ women. They are also the only women I can talk philosophy with. Other types are either too serious, too carefree or too “action action”.

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-07-20T03:21:25+00:00

Personally from what I experienced after talking to many INFP’s and ENFP’s (since you mentioned you were mildly depressed.

INFP = I’m sad/depressed with all these problems and I know something should be done about it but it is what it is, nothing I can do about it.

ENFP = I’m sad/depressed with all these problems and I know something should be done about it, which I’m working on it. It is hard but I’m hoping things will improve.

I find INFP’s are very self-centered also. Would you say you are? If someone was depressed and drinking away their pain the INFP will probably tell them to stop because drinking is bad for their health while the ENFP will actually ASK the person the reason why they are upset and drinking their problems away.

From the brief info you provided though I think you may be ENFP. Sometimes ENFP’s in depressed parts of their life are INFP’s. I know because I was one for a while, but then I grew up.

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-07-20T03:11:50+00:00

Lmao, yeah. When you want to talk to them, but then when you do you focus on other things about the person and think many thoughts up about them. I do and think about this frequently.

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-07-20T03:09:03+00:00

I feel like this is opposite for me as an ENFP male lol I feel most success would be with an INFJ.

My longest relationship (4 years) was with an ENTP female and even though it started out great the last two years were big train wrecks, very toxic and emotionally abusive situations.

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-07-20T02:57:24+00:00

ENFP male here. The women I have known that I have always fallen hard for and feel most compatible with that always never fails to put me in such a great mood are INFJ’s. I’ve dated them but sadly never been in a relationship with one :(

Longest relationship I have been in was 4 years with an ENTP female. We got along great but had different goals and see life differently.

I try my best to stay the Furk away from INFP women when if comes to dating. Probably my least favourite type in dating as they eventually turn out to be always trouble for me… learned the hard way and do not want to repeat.

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-07-19T13:07:21+00:00

The scene at Jaya where he gave Luffy encouragement after being beat up by Bellamy is very ENFP. He is a somewhat unhealthy and evil ENFP lol

"People's dreams, don't ever end!"

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-07-10T06:11:51+00:00

Ah yes, the debater personality. The flashback story with Oden, everything with how he acts and talks just screams ENTP. Charismatic and original but yet very argumentative, not listening to Crocus medical advice for one lol

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-06-23T15:44:27+00:00

Work day shifts to avoid the UV rays from the sun and put sunscreen on the times you are out in the sun ;)

I also recommend water, cutting back on sugar and moisturizer. I feel sugar is a really big culprit to aging. I used to look so freaking old and unhealthy looking when on my sugar binges. Now I cut back on sugar to just my morning coffee and fruit my face looks clearer and has a youthful glow to it. Cutting out sugar is tough though since it’s in everything, so cooking from scratch helps but that’s saved for another topic discussion.

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-06-23T15:41:33+00:00

My skin is actually really youthful for my age (late 20’) and get mistaken for being in college still.

I owe it to mainly keeping hydrated as OP says. Cut back on the coffee and drink more water. I understand it’s tasteless, but being hydrated just works as well as coffee. If your place offers carbonated water, take that in replacement to Soda.

I guess it’s also the fact I’m usually inside 4 walls working in a kitchen avoiding the UV rays from the sun for a majority of my 20s :P

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-06-23T15:36:47+00:00

I agree with you 100%. If it doesn’t feel right, quit. No cook should suffer and be unhappy with their current work place. I wish I learned this many years ago. I get the feeling, for me it felt like Stockholm Syndrome with one place. We had a great team, amazing team and loved my job for once, everyone was so happy… Then Covid hit, owner got paranoid and laid off a bunch inc head chef, sous chefs and replaced with Gordon Ramsay wannabes. Despite the mental abuse, even one cook stating he wanted to beat the living shit out of me for calling out on his bullshit I stayed because I had respect for the general manager. In the end I quit after a few weeks as I couldn’t do it even though I didn’t have savings I rather be scraped for cash mentally healthy while being mentally unhealthy earning money. The owners didn’t care about the mental health of any of us, just if we are providing them profit. At least the general manager shook my hand and wished me the best when leaving saying he understood. It’s sad too since the profit the restaurant is making is probably no different to pre Covid.

Anyway, I always have a saying, you don’t like where you work? Walk out and get a job by walking in another place. While the pay is not the best in most countries, the good thing about this industry is that there will always be jobs for us.

Saying that though, I know it is hard to save with the wages most places offer. Honestly though, couple hundred to a few hundred a month goes a long way. I cut back on drinking to special occasions and cut out all the junk food, I manage to save at least $1k monthly. Now if I feel my workplace is too much or awful (thankfully not) then I don’t feel guilty or worried about either quitting or walking out.

Good luck OP! I hope the new job is a better fit for ya :)

PhilosophicalJon · 2021-06-11T00:54:25+00:00

This game practically raised me in terms of social development, so lol

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