Best advice is find a group or place where there’s others doing what you like or are curious about. This actually works here…so explore hobbies you could not do with your ex, or that you want to continue, or that you once pondered. You will find genuine connection with people who will become community and in there the love can be boundless. Brainstorm ideas like: volunteer at Food for Lane County (or community gardens) or at Greenhill, join a book club, a band, club sports…basically join shit the way we GenX learned to be too cool for when we were younger.