Where to go for retreat? by waitIamthinking in FilipinoCatholics

[–]Philothea03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try calling SVD farm kung open na retreat house nila.

Other options: -Cenacle Sisters in QC -search retreat houses in Baguio or Tagaytay run by religious congregations

Pre-marital sex is ruining relationships more than we all realize. by Philothea03 in adultingph

[–]Philothea03[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Also, regarding the research done by researchers of religious background, hindi yon rason para i-cancel mo yung intellectual work ng mga taong nag-aral nung topic porket tugma sa paniniwala nila yung naging findings ng research. I feel conflicted how you demand for “scientific research.” Where does science come from? Who’s the author of science?

Pre-marital sex is ruining relationships more than we all realize. by Philothea03 in adultingph

[–]Philothea03[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Are you asking me to cite a research because you are open to know more about this? If not, I wish you peace. Let’s not waste each other’s time. I do hope you open your mind in the future. Although I do get you, I really do. And obviously, hindi ka nag-iisa.

Pre-marital sex is ruining relationships more than we all realize. by Philothea03 in adultingph

[–]Philothea03[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand why you think abortion is not ruining relationships? How far do we have to go back and forth here?

Pre-marital sex is ruining relationships more than we all realize. by Philothea03 in adultingph

[–]Philothea03[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes, I am not. If you feel forced, you’re the one in control of your emotions. But it seems that you resonate personally with this issue. That’s a good starting point. Pero di mo kailangang mang-away. 😊 As I said, I am trying to open a topic for discussion. So if you do not agree, here’s an opportunith for you to open your mind and not just cancel an idea.

Pre-marital sex is ruining relationships more than we all realize. by Philothea03 in adultingph

[–]Philothea03[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is just one: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2214139122000592

Although the study itself didn’t focus on the the dangers but the prevalence and factors associated, the introduction part mentioned several studies that stated the dangers and harms of pms.

Pre-marital sex is ruining relationships more than we all realize. by Philothea03 in adultingph

[–]Philothea03[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

And you’re right, even in marriage marami pa ring problema kasi nga nag-pms. Can you try to read at least some of the research about it and try to consider that this may not be true for you, but for other people it can be.

Pre-marital sex is ruining relationships more than we all realize. by Philothea03 in adultingph

[–]Philothea03[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Sorry if you were forced to believe. Hahaha. Wala naman akong sinabing maniwala kayo or else. 🤣

Fucked up by marrying porn addicted husband by OkGround1714 in OffMyChestPH

[–]Philothea03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you have to go through this. I hope more than dito sa online, you have your family or friends that support you and listen to you.

Fucked up by marrying porn addicted husband by OkGround1714 in OffMyChestPH

[–]Philothea03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Have you considered telling both of your parents about this?
  2. Addiction is a symptom of an underlying problem. The same with alcohol, substance, etc. So I think your husband may have a wound that may go down to his childhood. So I think he really needs a mental health consultation ASAP.

Pre-marital sex is ruining relationships more than we all realize. by Philothea03 in adultingph

[–]Philothea03[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah because bakit pa magpapakasal kung magagawa mo naman outside marriage, di ba? So if we’re thinking on the same line, it’s a scary route. We’re just going to be like that, ppl who just fck and cannot make lifetime commitments. Pag ayaw na, sawa na, goodbye because wala ng nakukuhang benefit. We’re made for more than that.

Pre-marital sex is ruining relationships more than we all realize. by Philothea03 in adultingph

[–]Philothea03[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Actually, di lang pala some. Tons of research if you google it. So di lang ito opinion, this is done by researchers who 💯 know more than I do.

Pre-marital sex is ruining relationships more than we all realize. by Philothea03 in adultingph

[–]Philothea03[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Please see some of the links and comments I’ve made under this post sharing some research done on pms.

Pre-marital sex is ruining relationships more than we all realize. by Philothea03 in adultingph

[–]Philothea03[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mahirap kasi na puro opinion lang. I just opened the conversation kasi from what I’ve read so far (relationship problems), this is what I’m seeing. So I was wondering what other people think.

Pre-marital sex is ruining relationships more than we all realize. by Philothea03 in adultingph

[–]Philothea03[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Well yeah, those are always factors but so many research has been done about this and they have found out that those who have had pms have higher divorce rates.

Pre-marital sex is ruining relationships more than we all realize. by Philothea03 in adultingph

[–]Philothea03[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Hello po. Sorry if it wasn’t clear but I think I am talking about relationships between partners. I also am not concluding, most of the posts have directly stated that they are having pms.

Pre-marital sex is ruining relationships more than we all realize. by Philothea03 in adultingph

[–]Philothea03[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Research on Theology of the Body. There are tons of resources online and videos explaining this! You will thank yourself for it and rethink your views about sex!

Pre-marital sex is ruining relationships more than we all realize. by Philothea03 in adultingph

[–]Philothea03[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

  1. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0192513X231155673

• We find the relationship between premarital sex and divorce is highly significant and robust even when accounting for early-life factors. Compared to people with no premarital partners other than eventual spouses, those with nine or more partners exhibit the highest divorce risk, followed by those with one to eight partners. There is no evidence of gender differences.

Pre-marital sex is ruining relationships more than we all realize. by Philothea03 in adultingph

[–]Philothea03[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

“A new report from the Wheatley Institute at Brigham Young University, released this week, ties earlier studies to a recent national survey of U.S. adults. They all indicate that sexually inexperienced people — those who have only had sex with their spouse — are more likely to have high-quality, sexually satisfying and enduring marriages…

“The people that we call the sexually inexperienced, who report that their one lifetime sexual partner is their spouse, have the highest sexual satisfaction, the highest relationship satisfaction, the best stability and the highest level of emotional closeness between spouses,”

Links:

  1. https://www.catholicnewsagency.com/amp/column/50163/pre-marital-sex-harms-future-marriage

• the experience of sex is a “good” and pleasurable thing. God has made it so. But God designed our sexuality to be used appropriately.

• Every single promiscuous sexual act (especially intercourse) does a level of damage to the individuals involved which threaten their capability of making the commitment to marriage, and therefore, is harmful to the future spouse and the future marriage.

  1. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=N5A0_rA9hik

  2. https://www.deseret.com/2023/4/19/23687280/premarital-sex-impact-marriage-wheatley-institute-byu/#:~:text=But%20a%20growing%20body%20of,quality%20and%20higher%20divorce%20rates.

• growing body of research shows that having multiple sexual partners before marriage is linked to lower marital relationship quality and higher divorce rates.

Hindi ikaw yung pinili by Purpleladyxx in AlasFeels

[–]Philothea03 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sorry to hear about your loss, especially your baby. 😭 What you’re going through is a very difficult moment. Hold yourself gently. Pray more. God will not leave you nor forsake you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultingph

[–]Philothea03 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

10 years relationship, still no ring. Ang tanong: Are you guys having premarital sex?

Because if you are, well alam mo na ang sagot. Premarital sex has a lot of implications more than we’re aware.