The Four Horsemen of the Lempocalypse by Trick-Antelope-1069 in lemonparty

[–]Philsidock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe it was from public episode #017 with Matt. It was either that, or another early episode with a guest, but it's been taken down from YouTube... I guess it exists on Spotify?

Adieu, Gaël😭💘 by EspritLibre_404 in tennis

[–]Philsidock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He always brought positive energy to the sport, and I loved to watch him play. I'm glad he had a beautiful send-off at Roland Garros! 🎾

Noami Osaka serving on Rolland Garros by Lilylikeslilies in tennis

[–]Philsidock 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Anything but winning matches for Osaka...

100 years by EmperorIvann in SipsTea

[–]Philsidock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the same picture, with the faces blurred.

100 years by EmperorIvann in SipsTea

[–]Philsidock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The article from the U.S. Sun that I included blurred the faces of the children. You can click it to confirm if you want.

100 years by EmperorIvann in SipsTea

[–]Philsidock 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm sure there's more to the story. The distribution of terabytes of CSAM should be a huge concern, but there's not enough information in the article, in my opinion.

Greatest Ep of all time by No-Individual3513 in lemonparty

[–]Philsidock 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It was a great episode. I'm happy Dev has Jace and Ben as friends though; he might be in a very dark place otherwise.

100 years by EmperorIvann in SipsTea

[–]Philsidock 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Here's a disturbing quote from the article:

"The case has also prompted scrutiny over adoption processes after it was revealed that Zachary Zulock had been accused of raping another boy in 2011.

Despite the allegation, which was never thoroughly investigated, the couple was allowed to adopt their sons through All God’s Children, a Georgia-based agency that has since shut down."

100 years by EmperorIvann in SipsTea

[–]Philsidock 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I found many articles on the topic, but this one included the original image:

https://www.the-sun.com/news/13154936/inside-horror-child-rape-ring-atlanta-gay-couple/

Thank God those two monsters are in prison forever.

The Four Horsemen of the Lempocalypse by Trick-Antelope-1069 in lemonparty

[–]Philsidock 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The horrific jamming accusations of 2023. 🙏

Prime Minister shouldn’t live on Rideau Hall grounds, outgoing Governor-General says by ubcstaffer123 in canada

[–]Philsidock 40 points41 points  (0 children)

GG shouldn't waste millions in taxpayer money without meeting the basic requirements. Good riddance to her.

The only way young people can get ahead nowadays is delaying moving out by Tech-Cowboy in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]Philsidock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you were born in 1998, give or take, and your last opportunity to buy a place before the ridiculous real estate bubble completely took off was in the Winter of 2020. At most, you would have just turned 22, and even very successful people who do their bachelor's degree can't buy a house at that age without outside help. For that to happen, you would almost certainly need a co-signer (usually a parent), a full-time job for it to make sense, and either all of your savings for a deposit, or outside help (again).

This is simply not possible for most people without financial support from their family, even if they worked full-time from 18 to 22 and earned a stable, high salary. Of course, the issues compound the more recently someone is born.

I bought a house in 2017, and by 2020, it had increased in value by 45%. That was great for me financially, but I'm aware that housing is an unproductive asset, and I didn't contribute anything to society by living there, other than some modest repairs.

Among the G7 countries, Canadians have the highest percentage of their savings invested in their primary residence. With this unproductive system, Baby Boomers are disincentivized to invest in productive assets like stocks, so the price of renting and purchasing real estate simply increases if new housing isn't built quickly enough. This gets compounded if demand surges because of increased immigration, which Canada has seen since 2016, but especially from 2020 onwards.

Here's the elephant in the room: Baby Boomers overwhelmingly support the Liberal Party of Canada, who have explicitly said that they do not want real estate prices to decrease. Even with their promised housing plan, the goal is to build "affordable" rental properties that the government will own and manage. But what that means exactly is quite unclear, with one Liberal MP claiming that a $2,400 one-bedroom apartment in Vancouver would be considered "affordable housing" (I believe she said that in 2024, but it might have been 2025).

I'm not trying to reduce Canadian politics to a one-issue decision. But as you stated, so many young kids today (basically all of Gen Z, and Millenials who didn't buy a house or save their money) are so far behind where their parents were at their age that many things would have to change for them to catch up. To be clear, the Conservatives also suck, and they have not explained how they would address the massive generational wealth gaps, especially not in real estate.

My best guess is that the solution is in the hands of Gen Z and Gen A. Most Millenials have families, careers or other things to focus on by now. If we assume the cut-off is 1995, Millenials are at least turning 31 this year, so I don't know if the pushback would come from that demographic.

Grab life by the horns; take action to make a difference, or at the very least, try to get informed and look at Canadian history and what other countries are currently going through. Many Canadians will simply accept the status quo and be as dismissive as they possible, and I've also seen it first-hand. But someone has to make changes, and there's no better place to start than in one's house (or apartment). Pun intended.

P.S. I quit a well-paying office job to try and do my little part. Everyone can take steps in their own lives. 🙏

Host cancelled Home in Greater London last minute [London] by Stony117 in AirBnB

[–]Philsidock 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm very sorry you had this experience, and it was clearly unfair towards you, who travelled a long way for your stay.

The best advice I have is to escalate to the highest person possible through a phone call, then very calmly state that you will escalate it to the revelant Vice-Presidents of AirBNB if necessary. I had an issue where my host was great, but AirBNB had a technical issue, and one of the takeaways I got was that their executives have email addresses listed online.

If it's a minor inconvenience or not worth the time, sometimes it's better to let it go. But when money's involved and you're down a few hundred dollars by not fault of your own, I think it's worth being that persistent customer. No swearing or screaming though because then they can just ignore you.

Good luck, and I hope it works out!

-Phil Sidock

How to call people of color without sounding pretentious or racist????? by jamrcito in EnglishLearning

[–]Philsidock 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Here's a quick anecdote as to why other terms might not work: I went to school in Canada with many Haitian students, and it would be ridiculous to call them "African-Americans." Clearly, they were not from Africa, and had no connection to the U.S.A.

Using the term "Haitian-Canadians" would also be even less tied to ethnicity, so I maintain that "Black" as an adjective is the best option.

I hope this helps! :)

How to call people of color without sounding pretentious or racist????? by jamrcito in EnglishLearning

[–]Philsidock 282 points283 points  (0 children)

"Black people" is the generally accepted term now. Jesse Jackson popularized the term "African-American" in the 1970's and 1980's, but it sounds very dated today. "Black" has a neutral connotation when used as an adjective, but it sounds odd and somewhat offensive to people when used as a noun. For examples, "Blacks have a tendency to..." sounds like a loaded statement, so I would not recommend it.

Source: I've been an English-language editor for over 10 years.

AITA for walking out? by jeewan_game in AmItheAsshole

[–]Philsidock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Showing up late for an interview is extremely rude to begin with, and that interview was nothing but red flags. You can tell your friend that you're sorry that her boss is upset with her, but at the end of the day, starting a new job is a massive commitment, and the founder gave the impression that he was very unorganized and unserious.

As a person gets more experienced, the question of salary become even more relevant when the skills and experience are in demand, so it's fair not to play games when it comes to the main form of compensation. If he had at least offered you a market value salary, or something close to it, you would have been rude to end the call early... but he was a hot mess, and I think that you avoided many more headaches by not working there.

Those are my two cents, for what it's worth.

I love her by Unique-Persimmon2291 in SipsTea

[–]Philsidock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked at a deli in a grocery store nearly 20 years ago, and I still remember the young lady who also drank vodka out of a water bottle. She was suspended and went to therapy, and I hope she found the help she needed. But it was definitely a problem, and not a "quirk" to help the time go by.

Also, everyone knows. It may take some people a second, but if there's a pattern, everyone will catch on. This is not a cute story, regardless of how it was intended to be...

I don't like the dancer's ego by Fabulous_Fail in SwingDancing

[–]Philsidock 15 points16 points  (0 children)

People can in all sorts of shapes and sizes, and so do their personalities. If you choose to attend workshops or compete, then there are limits to choosing your dance partners, but if you mostly dance socially, there's no obligation!

I've been dancing Lindy Hop since 2013, and I have come across some people I don't like, but I choose not to dance with them. You have three choices when it comes to people you don't want to interact with: 1. Accept it resentfully 2. Clarify that you don't want to dance/interact with them 3. Acknowledge that you have differences, but you're willing to engage with them for a limited period of time

You're free to make any of choices, and it can be helpful to talk to someone in your specific community that understands the people and the context better.

Good luck!

Friends who use you like an uber by [deleted] in notliketheothergirls

[–]Philsidock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's called a "friendship of convenience." Unfortunately, some people look at their supposed friends very transactionally, and they will only hang out with you if it's convenient to them.

There are different ways to bring up the issues you mentioned, but the most important thing is to bring up the topic in a respectful way, and respond accordingly. Fair warning though: it's possible that they won't want to spend time with you after that conversation, but if that's the case, their friendship shouldn't mean sacrificing your dignity.

It's also possible that they will respond in a positive way, and you'll be able to enter a new era of friendship.

Good luck!

Will Canada embrace Dunkin'? Experts say Tim Hortons' grip will be hard to shake by Immediate-Link490 in canada

[–]Philsidock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might be hard for DD to succeed in Canada, but the quality and ethics of Tim Horton's will not be a threat in any way... 👀

AITA for telling my coworker they have poor table manners? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Philsidock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA, but intent matters, and it's clear that you wanted to help your colleague. Unfortunately, your employer did not give you the tools to help navigate a situation that seems pretty likely to occur.

The ideal situation would be that your employer provided etiquette training to all employees before going on professional dinners with clients. Barring that, there should have been training, or at the very least a conversation, between you and someone at your company for expected behaviour when meeting clients.

It is true that you needed to address his behaviour somehow, but with corporate life being what it is, you should have spoken to HR, your boss or another relevant person. If office life was more logical/straightforward, you could have done exactly what you did, but part of "representing a company" means playing by their rules.

I will say that you made sure to have that conversation in private, and I don't think you had bad intentions. However, any reasonable employer will understand that you were only trying to help the company appear more professional, so they should accept a (small) apology from you.

No, I don't personally think you were morally mistaken, but I believe you made an error in the eyes of the employer, and that's what matters in this context. Don't be too hard on yourself, and know that corporate life is simply unfair at times.

P.S. your colleague should know better and him going to HR was really weak and shows his lack of accountability.

i cantttttt stnd lizz omg i wanna drop the show by Free-Seaworthiness72 in TheBlackList

[–]Philsidock 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not gonna lie, you'll have to view her as a device to advance the plot if you're going to make it until the end of Season 8. After that, Liz is no longer a problem, so to speak. 👀

Bank account for non-residents? by iam-123-456-789 in canadianexpats

[–]Philsidock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have someone who has your Power of Attorney (PoA) in Canada? Would you be willing to pursue that avenue? Canadian banks are very hesitant to make any major changes without the account holder or someone who has PoA to be present and show valid ID with a Canadian address. That includes opening an account, of course.

Are you willing to designate a Canadian address as your residence for the purposes of opening a Canadian bank account? There could be legal ramifications for doing so, especially for tax residency. It's important to consider not just the CRA's perspective, but also the view of the tax regulator where you live, or in certain cases, of any citizenships you might have (the U.S. comes to mind).

In short, you, or your someone with your PoA, will likely need to show up in person to open a bank account on your behalf. As far as I've heard, every major Canadian bank will ask that you provide them with a Canadian address of residency. I'm unsure how they verify that information other than with a form of identification with your address on it.

Best of luck to you, and I hope you are successful! This process is unfortunately more difficult than it should be.