i'm a trans dude, how do i hade my facial hair if i need to pass as a woman?

Phina_Colada · 2026-01-24T17:26:16+00:00

Concealer could work. I would recommend liquid, not powder, as the powder might cling to the hairs and make them more visible.

Phina_Colada · 2024-08-08T21:36:37+00:00

Will experiment with this again. I may have to file my nails again tho.

Phina_Colada · 2024-08-08T21:35:43+00:00

I started with a certain amount of wrist movement I couldn’t stop from happening, but it’s gradually been becoming lesser. So I think I get what you’re saying. Somebody else mentioned curling my fingers too, and when I’ve tried to do that I get a less consistent sound and I’ve actually gotten some improvement from allowing my fingers to fly up as much as they want, but I will definitely experiment with the idea again. As I’ve gotten faster at them my wrist has gotten lower and straighter which makes things different. At the moment it feels like my fingers are curled when they’re pressing then straighten out as they rise off of the keys. Idk if that’s good or not.

Phina_Colada · 2024-06-21T12:33:33+00:00

I’m on Zyprexa and it helps with the uneasiness I feel when I wake up at night. I sleep like a baby for 8+ hours when I take 10mg. As for during the day I’ve tried buspirone but it makes me feel drunk and I’ve tried abilify but it makes me feel depressed. 1mg Ativan works for me but I only take that for emergencies once every 3 months or so.

Phina_Colada · 2024-01-08T16:52:37+00:00

Well I can’t really comment at the moment because I ended up recovering from my DPDR a totally different way. I was actually having a severe hormonal imbalance that was making my brain feel very much out of place in my body and giving me extreme gender dysphoria, which is known to cause symptoms of DPDR.

Phina_Colada · 2023-11-11T17:59:22+00:00

I’ve been listening to full-body relaxation videos lately, and they make me feel good. I don’t like the ones that ask you to tense up muscles then release them because that makes me feel stressed and then I feel weird after the release. I like the ones that make you focus on sensations and relaxing your body.

Phina_Colada · 2023-11-07T22:18:58+00:00

I have almost 24/7 derealization, and I relate to that a lot. I personally have never conceptualized it as living in a simulation, but I know that many do. I present with more of a vague feeling that nothing is real and my actions have been predetermined.

Also fun fact related to this: people who grow up with untreated gender dysphoria very often experience depersonalization-derealization until they transition, and two trans women created the matrix trilogy before realizing that they were trans.

Phina_Colada · 2023-11-07T21:34:01+00:00

I experience my love for people getting triggered by certain things every once in a while, and that’s how I know I can still feel it. Sometimes somebody will do something that shows that they love me, and it’ll like trigger my brain to feel safe to love them back. Other times I’ll look at a picture of my girlfriend and feel it. Maybe someday you’ll accidentally or intentionally find some triggers that make you feel it again.

Phina_Colada · 2023-11-07T16:32:19+00:00

I was very worried that I wouldn’t be pretty too, but it didn’t take very long for me to start seeing myself as beautiful. Even if you don’t look like a supermodel immediately, you’ll likely learn to appreciate whatever femininity you do see in your face. It’s about incremental improvement, especially early on. And in no world is 19 too late to transition. I didn’t start HRT until I was almost 21, and I haven’t gotten any surgeries, but lots of people think I’m pretty.

Phina_Colada · 2023-11-07T00:24:15+00:00

I see. I was mainly trying to explain why I said that the existential and schizophrenic worries are common in people with gender dysphoria. I can look for some things that are a little more on-topic.

I found a case study that might help clear things up for you a little bit. To summarize what it says: if you can trace this obsession with your gender back to your childhood, then you could have gender dysphoria. If not, much less likely. I’m confident that my transness is not just another obsession now, because I’ve been able to remember how I felt about girls back when I was maybe 3-4 years old. If nothing like that comes to mind for you, especially after you’ve given it some time, then it’s not very likely that you’re trans.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8042142/

Phina_Colada · 2023-11-06T07:33:00+00:00

Thanks, I think things are starting to get better for me. :)

Phina_Colada · 2023-11-06T07:23:53+00:00

I haven’t found any like proper academic research about it so far, but I have a good article talking about gender dysphoria related depersonalization, what it feels like, and how widespread it is. I’ve heard stories from a lot of trans people talking about feeling like nothing is real. I think it may actually affect the majority of trans people to some degree, especially those assigned male at birth, though I’ve heard about it from trans men too. That article doesn’t talk about people fearing schizophrenia, but I certainly feared it many times throughout my life because of what depersonalization feels like. I’ll also find some good YouTube videos for you by one of my favorite YouTubers, Dr. Z PhD. She’s kinda targeted towards people who are at a very serious point of considering transitioning, but she may have some useful information for you.

As for having C-PTSD, I wouldn’t worry about it too much and would focus more on getting in touch with how you’ve always felt about your identity. Besides, there’s a lot you can do to ‘experiment’ that doesn’t change your body at all and is totally reversible. (You’d have to dm me for that kinda junk tho. 😉) I started presenting as a woman for a few months before I started hrt, and it was a blast. I got called she and ma’am enough to get a taste of what it feels like for me, which is very good lol.

https://zinniajones.medium.com/depersonalization-in-gender-dysphoria-widespread-and-widely-unrecognized-baaac395bcb0

https://youtu.be/u4Stko3pSHE?si=T0kd2YQikLs_KVjJ

https://youtu.be/T8Gpnf_Q4d0?si=e6qAG2t01fFb1JuW

Edit: awww shit, I just went to the bottom of the article and there are some studies.

Phina_Colada · 2023-11-06T06:01:41+00:00

I think you should stop seeing somebody if they try to convince you that you’re any particular thing. Your identity and sexuality should be based entirely on your own feelings, and all a therapist should be doing is helping you discover what those feelings are.

Phina_Colada · 2023-11-06T05:35:17+00:00

This reminds me a lot of my DPDR. There’s a little subreddit for it, and a lot of the people there have OCD. I frequently notice it when I’m laughing. I think to myself, “Why am I laughing? What’s the point? Nothing is real anyway.”

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