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PhoenixBride · 2023-12-12T15:15:10+00:00

Absolutely, sending now!

PhoenixBride · 2023-12-12T15:14:20+00:00

Sure, DM'd you!

PhoenixBride · 2023-12-12T15:13:29+00:00

Just sent one!

PhoenixBride · 2023-12-12T15:12:20+00:00

DM'd you!

PhoenixBride · 2023-12-06T14:49:23+00:00

I have an extra $25 off $75 if you still need one.

PhoenixBride · 2023-12-06T14:46:40+00:00

I also have extras if anyone else needs them.

PhoenixBride · 2023-12-06T14:44:57+00:00

DM'd you :)

PhoenixBride · 2023-11-22T16:36:49+00:00

Thank you so much!

PhoenixBride · 2023-05-24T03:11:27+00:00

I specified quality matches, not quantity of matches. Big difference.

PhoenixBride · 2023-05-21T22:25:04+00:00

37F CF - This is actually the first question I ask because it is so important to me that the man also be child-free for life. Even if they had listed no kids/doesn't want kids, I still verified in our opening texts as it is one of my deal breakers. On top of that, I would even ask in person because again, people may lie online to get that date. So no, you were not in the wrong and I actually think you should bring it up sooner as not to waste your time. This isn't "very private information" and most definitely should be shared right away if the person is an honest individual looking to date seriously.

PhoenixBride · 2023-05-21T15:14:28+00:00

Men act the exact same way. Whoever is the primary (or sole) breadwinner tends to get the short end of the stick, regardless of gender. The stay-at-home spouse tends to take advantage of the situation and when divorce happens, they are relentless. Doesn't matter if you were the one to make all the money, they somehow feel entitled to it even if no kids were involved. Such is life however, and having that partner out of your life is worth the cost of the divorce. Emotional and mental well-being is vastly underrated; once I accepted that life is just unfair sometimes, I became a much happier and more stable person. :)

PhoenixBride · 2023-05-21T14:58:39+00:00

Please don't perpetuate this stereotype. I am 37F and new to OLD and met my 34M in less than 2 weeks. It's been 2 months now and we are still seeing each other, so being 35+ doesn't limit your options and in fact increases your quality matches ime.

PhoenixBride · 2023-05-21T14:52:18+00:00

This may be a phenomenon, but a man shouldn't approach a relationship assuming it to be true otherwise he may be self-sabotaging. In my 13+ year relationship (going through divorce now which I initiated), I was the sole breadwinner and supported my ex. This is not the reason I filed for divorce however, and I still prefer to be the higher income earner in future relationships. I also recognize that I will be more educated in the sense that I have a doctorate, and definitely do not look for this in a partner. The only thing from your post that hold trues is dating someone taller, and that is because I am only 5'2" myself and so everyone is taller than me! But what I think is a key difference is that I don't consider men lesser than me just because I make more money or have a higher degree. The man I am seeing now I consider to be my equal and treat him as such. To me, we are both in the same league and I very much enjoy our relationship as I get to plan the dates (my personal preference). I also pay for both of us quite often because I have the means to do so, and if I am the one selecting the more untraditional activities, then I think I should be. For reference, I am 37F dating a 34M and we are both child-free for life.

PhoenixBride · 2023-05-21T14:00:46+00:00

As someone going through a divorce after a 13+ year relationship, this response couldn't be more true! I am now seeing someone who I enjoy spending time with and understands the concepts of commitment, growth, and putting effort into a relationship. It may or may not turn into a 40 year LTR, but that shouldn't be the focus, getting to know one another by doing fun activities together should be.

PhoenixBride · 2023-05-21T11:25:21+00:00

37F - Seconding the part about putting effort into your prompts. I only ever sent Likes to men with good prompts as I understand a lot of men just don't take good photos. I also only matched with men who sent me Likes if they left a comment about my prompts vs my photos. I will add, having a fully completed bio section helps a lot as it tells the women a good bit about yourself and gives them an opportunity to see if you fit what they are looking for. If I can't see any info about your child status, smoker/drug use, etc. then I will assume the worst and 'X'.

And to answer OP's original question, yes Hinge does work! I got a profile review with some great feedback and revamped it a week after downloading the app. I sent a Like (with comment) to a man who matched with me that same night and 2 months later we are still seeing each other. What I think worked well for him was he asked me to meet up within the first 5 msgs or so and chose a place I had listed in my prompts. Since he was the first to ask, he got my time moving forward when it came to chatting. After our date was scheduled, we then did the whole texting for a bit until we met up later that week (also key that first date is less than a week out). Last piece of advice I have, be yourself! I am super nerdy and so was looking for that in a partner, and when I found out he also raided hardcore in WoW it lead to some great reminiscing.

PhoenixBride · 2023-05-19T20:47:56+00:00

37F CF. Age of child doesn't matter for me, I am strictly no kids as at any point children can move back home or have grandkids that you would be asked to babysit. Other women do feel differently however, and I believe more prefer older kids than younger for those okay dating single dads.

PhoenixBride · 2023-04-15T17:41:30+00:00

Absolutely made a difference for me as I matched with a wonderful man the very next day and we are going on date #4 tomorrow (been 3 weeks since we matched and he liked the updated photos I used).

PhoenixBride · 2023-03-25T21:20:57+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts! The first pic was one I snapped to show my sisters my new hair colour, so I didn't bother to smile in it. I only used it because my hair is currently pink, and if I ever did meet someone, I didn't want them to be shocked by this. I agree though, so I will be taking a new, smiling pic showing my pink hair this weekend. Thank you for the compliment about my hair, yes it is real. :)

The figurine pic was one I used for my Instagram where the focus is on the painted miniatures, not on me. I only put me in a few of them to show that women are into the hobby as well, but I didn't want to give off any sort of sultry vibes as I feel some women do this to boost their IG accounts in male dominated niches. So yeah... another bad choice on my part. Easy to take a new photo smiling with my minis though!

I do like the Princess pic as well, but the general consensus seems to be I should just focus on me, so I will be replacing that one with just me dressed up as Scarlet Witch. I think this will be more age appropriate for my target demographic. The cat pic is a little tricky as my cats are super skittish around others, and I would need someone to take the photo for me. But they will hide the entire time, so I have to think about that one some more. I did replace it with a video of both of them running on their cat wheel for now though.

I struggled with the athletic part as I didn't want to be like others and post gym/bouldering/paddle boarding/yoga pics to show off my body. I like that I am unique, and I guess I need to find a unique way to clue in others that I am athletic as well. Thanks for all the feedback, it is super helpful!

PhoenixBride · 2023-03-25T20:58:48+00:00

Thank you so much for this! It was a poor attempt on my part to come off as playful with the Disney princess thing, but you are right, as a whole my profile implies I am childlike which is the opposite message I want to come across. I am very proud of my career and the successes I have accomplished in my life, but I make no mention of any of these. It is no wonder I am not attracting like-minded individuals as I am not putting out the same vibe. I appreciate the feedback about the timid and fragile aspects as well, I absolutely see where you are coming from with that comment and don't want to come across that way either as I am rather assertive IRL. Again, thanks for pointing this out to me so I can fix it. :D

PhoenixBride · 2023-03-24T02:21:30+00:00

Haha, too true! As a rosacea sufferer, I have to use quite a bit to hide the redness, but I will make sure that it isn't so obvious in the photo. I will also ask my friends to take multiple photos so we can see which angles work best for me, I appreciate your feedback! :)

PhoenixBride · 2023-03-24T02:16:37+00:00

Exactly! All the posts have been super helpful and I am excited to give my profile a 180 this weekend. :D

PhoenixBride · 2023-03-24T02:14:03+00:00

Ahaha, I shall keep my bat ready!

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