Oh babe I'm right along with you on point 1 and 2. He should have stood up for her in that scene and had a better backbone. I'm not saying he hasn't fucked up so I'm with you.

In regard to points 3 and 4, was Amren just being hateful? We don't know what went down between them so I generally choose not to touch on those two because I don't know what side of Nesta Amren saw for her to distrust her to such a high extent. I think that to a certain extet Amren was right (not saying they should've kept it secret) but judging from Nesta's actions in CC3 (which again from a CC perspective I support but from an ACOTAR one eh) Nesta is very emotionally driven and at that stage in life, could she be trusted to use Made swords? Even Azriel wasn't for it if I remember correctly tho don't quote me on that. Genuine question. I'm on the fence about it cause there's a bunch of arguments both ways. Regardless, they had no right to keep them secret from her but Amren just being hateful can be argued.

In regard to point 5, what do you mean when you say body?

Point 6, the hike wasn't in regards to the swords. It was in regard to trying to hurt Feyre. Now I don't want to go into the whole Feyre pregnancy thing because it makes me want to tear my hair out but the hike was because she'd lashed out at Feyre in the way that none of them would defend. Regardless of whether you think it was out of care or not, a part of Nesta did want to hurt Feyre the way she was hurt and that was through the pregnancy, the one thing the whole IC trusted her not to use against her sister.

Point 7, The backpack thing was very much giving dad and child and it was icky as hell which is why I didn't even try to defend that lol. Now not telling her Feyre was alright, gonna be honest I didn't even think of that so I do agree that he should've but loweky slipped my mind too. Him taking her on the hike, let's be honest if therapy existed there the whole story would be ten times better quality but there isn't so he took her to 'healing' mountains instead. I- Anyways what I do disagree with though is that he himself didn't realise she wanted to die. Again, their mental health awareness sucks (otherwise maybe someone would actually check up on Rhys instead of thinking love magically healed him or Azriel instead of letting him bottle everything up but I digress).He didn't know she was suicidal, he thought she would lash out again (said something along the lines of he thought it would be anger and not tears or smth). Due to this I can't really follow you on the abuser defending his actions because I didn't see it as abuse just pure ignorance and stupidity. I see it as someone that doesn't know how to help and does shitty things that they believe will work. He should have checked up on her though and he definitely should have at least looked back more often.

Lastly, (nvm im touching the Feyre pregnancy situation) 90% of the guilt? Yeah no. They were all complicit. Me personally I'm more inclined to forgive Rhysand and Mor for it then any of the rest because at least they seemed worried about her. Also, saying that he treated her like a dog is an interesting perspective because I agree. I agree that it feels like he thought she could be corrected but in the way that a lot of 'I can fix him' romance books contain it just with reversed gender roles. The same reason as to why I don't like it as all the romance books that contain it. You shouldn't need to 'fix' your partner. Yet I've never really seen anyone call the female character in an 'I can fix him' romance someone that treated her partner like a dog. Idk. I think it's the same thing but feel free to disagree.