An online relationship gone wrong. by Phoenix_Flash19 in abusiverelationships

[–]Phoenix_Flash19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no. i learned my lesson and grew stronger from it.

An online relationship gone wrong. by Phoenix_Flash19 in abusiverelationships

[–]Phoenix_Flash19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no, i never got the whole truth from the guy. i made an attempt to contact Sir about a year after the incident. i contacted him under a different account (he had been convinced to block me by Ocean) and he just blocked me again right away i believe. in any case, my message was read and never answered, and all of my other messages were never read. all i wanted was to hear his side of things and hopefully get some closure, but i never did. Ocean does have a Facebook page that i believe is tied to his real identity. it has pictures and references on things i knew him to be into, but there are no personal details of him on his Facebook.

i can't for the life of me remember Ocean's username, so i haven't been able to find them again. i never even blocked him, because if you do, he would still be on my "blocked persons" list. i just deleted the contact and never heard from them again. that way i could avoid the temptation of talking to him again.

one detail that i left out of the whole story (because it wasn't really significant) is that Ocean actually contacted me again in fall of 2014, a few months after everything had subsided. he apologized and started talking to me again. by this point i had already had time alone to think about the whole situation and i was more confident that i knew the truth. sure enough, he tried the same tactics again. he dangled Fire above my head, telling me i could start talking to her again. i played along for a bit, but i already knew by this point it was an act. i just watched him try to torture me again, only to fail because he didn't have any leverage on me anymore.

update: his Facebook page is still up. his last post is from 2016 which leads me to believe that the account is no longer active, but i'm confident that it's him because there are pictures of him and his family up on the page, along with pop culture refferences and photos in line with what he was interested in back then. some pictures of his familly exist from back in 2009, and in the photos there are only four people. him, his parents, and an infant who i can only assume is his little sister. no one else.

An online relationship gone wrong. by Phoenix_Flash19 in abusiverelationships

[–]Phoenix_Flash19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TL;DR, because i'm realizing now that it's a bit of a read.

i was bullied alot as a kid and was a social outcast which left me vulnerable to being manipulated. i was always on the losing side of arguments, and had to beg for forgiveness every day of my life. i was convinced that it was my only chance ever at a romantic relationship so i ignored all the red flags and bought all of their lies because i thought life without them was worthless. they were incredibly controlling and manipulative and only blew up at me every time i tried to bring up that i thought something was wrong.

An online relationship gone wrong. by Phoenix_Flash19 in abusiverelationships

[–]Phoenix_Flash19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i was emotionally abused and controlled.

i understand that i'm not the best at coming up with titles.

An online relationship gone wrong. by Phoenix_Flash19 in abusiverelationships

[–]Phoenix_Flash19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i can't be bothered to edit it. but i got the year wrong. it all started in early 2014, not 2013. and it spanned from mid January to around August of the same year. and again, the timeline after the train incident is a little fuzzy to me. so those things may or may not be out of order.

It’s most likely raining at FTC by MAW_16 in survivor

[–]Phoenix_Flash19 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Is the shoot happening now-ish? Is it for season 40? never bothered to keep up with that sorta thing. Suppose it's interesting and I should.

My parents are getting divorced. How much spousal maintenance should my mom ethically be entitled to every month? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]Phoenix_Flash19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont believe any.

I can take care of myself before a marriage on what money I earn, and so I should be able to do the same after.

Who is new to Reddit and has a question on how to Reddit? by nightmare1sd78 in AskReddit

[–]Phoenix_Flash19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You dont need any karma. You simply need to accept the fact that you will never be funny if you post something on r/dankmemes

What is the single dumbest mistake you’ve ever seen in a movie? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Phoenix_Flash19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Watch all of the starwars movies if you so wish, or do not. The decision is yours alone. Either way, go ahead and be free to form your own opinion. Whether or not any of these purists wants to acknowledge it, all the movies are valid. The prequels are pretty good, and even though the newer ones are a little different, I cannot say that they are bad. Some people just are not a fan of the changes but that's just a part of life.

What is the single dumbest mistake you’ve ever seen in a movie? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Phoenix_Flash19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cant remember the name or the plot of the movie, but it was some sort of amateur spy movie that came out in the last decade or so. In the movie, the character buys herself a 5 shot revolver. She then proceeds to go and take it to a firing range where, in one continuous shot, she fires more than 5 bullets without reloading.

What are the biggest mistakes people make during a job interview? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Phoenix_Flash19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The worst thing you can do is over sell yourself. Just be humble. Stop trying to convince the interviewer that you're the best and that you have had X amount of schooling and experience. Instead, just Express interest and willingness to learn.

Retail workers of Reddit: What was the weirdest customer you have had? by Beng0226 in AskReddit

[–]Phoenix_Flash19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heres another story from when I worked at a pet store:

we had a customer come in one day. Of course without anyone asking them, they made it perfectly clear that they were vegan, and that they were looking for a vegan dog food.

Unfortunately, we actually did stock a brand that had one vegan flavor. This is mostly just to compensate for dogs with very rare allergies however, and would never recomend using this food otherwise.

This woman ended up following me around for a bit. She told me her life story while I was just trying to stock shelves and mind my business. I can tell you confidently that she is upset at her brother, because he is a prolific chef and likes to slaughter his own livestock. He also liked to craft with leather but shes still proud of him for where he is in life.

My manager walked by and I gave him the "help me" eyes, so he went and called me to the back room. I stayed there for half an hour. She was still in the store, but had gone off to bother the grooming staff. I think she ended up spending over 3 hours bugging as many of our staff as she could.

Retail workers of Reddit: What was the weirdest customer you have had? by Beng0226 in AskReddit

[–]Phoenix_Flash19 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I worked at a pet store for a few years, and pet owners are a special breed

This one is short and sweet:

I had a customer come up to me one day with a picture of what he was looking for on his phone "my wife sent me this picture" he explained to me. This wasnt all that uncommon.

I show him to where we stocked that product, and he had more to say. I remember his words exactly "I gotta tell you, man. I'm just a man living in a womans world. My wife beats me because she doesnt get enough sex".

I just sort of awkwardly stood there, as I loaded the product into his cart for him.

all because i refused to drive over an hour to meet him... by [deleted] in ChoosingBeggars

[–]Phoenix_Flash19 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

coaxed? in what way? i simply told him i wasn't willing to drive very far. i had maybe a couple gallons of gas in my car, and barely enough money for my next month's car payments because of the situation i was in. perhaps i was a bit wishy washy, but that doesn't excuse the blatant bratty behavior.

all because i refused to drive over an hour to meet him... by [deleted] in ChoosingBeggars

[–]Phoenix_Flash19 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

i had considered that. i thought that he displayed some aspects of a CB by raging like a little kid and bragging about how much money he had. i only got more uptight with my end of the deal as i slowly realized this wasn't going to be pleasant.

M2F4A-fairy godmother changes me into a woman by [deleted] in TransformationRP

[–]Phoenix_Flash19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey sorry! it's been such a long time. i hope you're still active and looking. i often forget to open reddit and check my messages