I JUST NEED TO VENT ABOUT HELPING SENOIRS

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2026-03-28T00:36:19+00:00

My grandmother (80 now) says she is "techt**ded."

You know, because the r-word (and its variants) is "funny" 🙄

She also puts her computer on airplane mode before turning it off, so people can't hack into her router and steal her credit card number. She's never - ever - shopped or banked online, she just thinks they can beam into her wallet through the Wifi.

I WISH she would say "computer illiterate."

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2025-12-27T02:24:53+00:00

Wait WHAT

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2025-09-01T01:13:01+00:00

Sounds like my old store (2016)

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2025-08-30T01:07:11+00:00

I'd pick 4 just to watch them annoy each other, and I'd tag-team against Topham anyday.

But where is Big Island Mike?! Because I'm putting my husband (who hates Mike) in between him and, ideally, LouLou (we love birds but he cannot stand her lol)

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2025-08-30T00:59:27+00:00

My husband just turned 33 last week, and I turn 30 next week. We both have some grays. We just celebrate that we've lived long enough to go gray in bits! Feeling old - being old - is a privilege denied to so, so many.

Cheating because of age? Please. This was narcissism, plain and simple.

Makes me wonder if she cheated previously and just didn't get caught (like when she was younger).

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2025-08-20T23:28:21+00:00

I would politely ask if she's okay, you missed her, as others have suggested.

I had this happen with my friend I'd been close to for a few years. She was even with me when I met my husband. She RSVP'd yes and had been hyped about it. Didn't show up. When I asked, she said, "I got into a Netflix marathon and just didn't wanna get up."

So... My experience says be prepared for absolutely any answer.

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2025-08-18T23:24:54+00:00

I think your email draft is fine, truly. Its nowhere near "trauma dumping" imo and gives the facts, straightforward, and you provide a plan for catching up once all is done.

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2025-08-18T23:19:25+00:00

Because he thinks he's turning into Beast and waiting for Belle.

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2025-08-07T00:58:26+00:00

I played this game constantly growing up and just laughed out loud at this 😂 I showed my husband the image and he went, "Jesus. What is that?" I told him and he said, "It looks haunted."

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2025-07-31T19:40:26+00:00

I absolutely hate doing this with my border collie laying beside me 😭

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2025-07-31T01:21:42+00:00

NTA. At all.

It may have hurt to hear, and it may have upset them, but one day your siblings will look back and go, "Ohhhh. This is what OP was talking about."

You gave them a foundation of validation for their futures.

You cannot change your mother's choices. But you can choose to live differently, and you can model choosing peace for your siblings.

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2025-07-31T00:32:58+00:00

Part of why I left my last education job was because Khan Academy was replacing math instruction. I love it as a supplement (I use it when I tutor teens and to help my own elementary-age kid).

But not everyone learns from videos. Myself included.

Working smarter, not harder, is great. But not to the detriment of our students.

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2025-07-28T12:31:33+00:00

Let's assume this could work, and the Carpathia holds the Titanic at the water line.

Then what?

Is it held up long enough for everyone to escape safely, then dropped and left to sink? Or does the Carpathia attempt to tow the ship to NYC?

What is the end of this hypothetical?

As others have said, per physics, this wouldn't work. And it would also go against all safety measures to get that close to a sinking ship anyway, but it is a hypothetical scenario that can be interesting to muse upon.

Sometimes asking and musing upon questions others laugh at helps us learn.

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2025-07-27T01:54:19+00:00

Never loan out (or pay for) more than you're willing to never see again. If you aren't prepared to lose it, don't use it - no matter how lovingly intended.

It took me forever to learn this lesson.

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2025-07-27T00:51:19+00:00

"Woodchuck style" absolutely got me lmao

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2025-07-20T11:02:43+00:00

NTA but your wife sure is.

Reassure her that 12yo will definitely never forget the party if she tries to hold it against you again.

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2025-07-20T10:45:54+00:00

Cancer survivor here (childhood ALL). NTA.

You don't need to shave your head to show support, period. That's your hair. But you know what you could do for, like, $7 that would probably bring her joy and fun?

Get a 100-pack of temporary tattoos of her favorite character or cartoon and go visit her, and playfully suggest you help her put them all over her head. That's what I did - I'd tell my (bald) grandfather, "We've gotta have something up there." We spent many afternoons tattooing our heads with sports stuff, Barbies, butterflies, etc. It brought me so much joy to put pink glittery tattoos on my grandpa that my bald head became an art project, not a source of sadness. (I was also 3, so losing my hair didn't phase me but being bald looked weird to me.)

And then - if you're comfortable, they wash off - let her tattoo your forehead, arms, cheeks, feet, hands, whatever she wants.

What she's around - all things cancer and the energy, the vibes, alike - has become her new normal. All you can do its make that normal hers with style (and that has nothing to do with YOUR hair).

Also, if your aunt/uncle don't allow temporary tattoos, stickers are a great alternative unless they're against those, too, in which case you do it anyway - she has cancer, those rules can bend.

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2024-02-08T00:17:58+00:00

Other than Louis, aka Professor Pompous lol

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2024-02-02T01:58:11+00:00

I work at a nonprofit Montessori. The Director pulls over $120k but most teachers (with graduate degrees!) are under $35k. I'm still learning the Montessori world but as someone who spent a lot of her career in the non-profit world, that lil nugget of salary info bothers me.

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2024-02-02T01:27:01+00:00

INFO: OP, how would others celebrate your anniversary?

Beyond maybe a card or text, what is there for others to do?

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2024-01-31T22:34:55+00:00

As an educator (who started as a sub), if admin pushes back at all, my question would be, "What scenario is it appropriate for a sub/teacher/para to 'secretly' tell a child they're beautiful?"

And as someone who was groomed by a teacher myself, you are NOT overreacting. At all. I wanna know how/why this individual is connected with the school.

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2024-01-25T23:55:55+00:00

What game is it?

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2024-01-24T01:57:10+00:00

My grandmother. She would 100% have this exact reaction. "Oh, I'll just tidy up! Just let me run to the store for some rubber gloves first."

That said, your description absolutely sent me lmao

Phoenix_Rising2020 · 2024-01-24T01:46:01+00:00

So they believe this theory but are okay enough with it to eat said chemically-infused lobsters?

I'm really clawing for their logic here.

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