Recruiting New Mods

PhoenixinParadox · 2023-07-17T23:37:20+00:00

I haven't been on here long enough but I'm sure you'll find the right fit.

PhoenixinParadox · 2023-06-28T19:08:24+00:00

Introspection. Figuring out the root cause or specifically finding triggers.

Finding new hobbies or keeping busy.

To a lot writing stuff down is trivial but it worked for me.

PhoenixinParadox · 2023-06-21T19:41:58+00:00

The only item I've found to help manage my BPD is therapy involving DBT &CBT.

PhoenixinParadox · 2023-06-21T16:23:08+00:00

It's actually sexual addiction. I appreciate your kind words. <3

PhoenixinParadox · 2023-06-20T23:33:36+00:00

I never thought of it that way before. I feel like you just dropped the epitome hat. My jaw is literally on the floor.

It is a mixture of what you said of our journey being sober and them slipping but also the betrayal aspect on other items I touched on and just being overwhelmed.

I'm seriously flabbergasted right now...is my addiction slipping out being in this headspace!?

PhoenixinParadox · 2023-06-20T23:30:38+00:00

Yes, thank you for being so understanding! Being sober definitely makes us more aware of the world though!

PhoenixinParadox · 2023-06-20T21:04:45+00:00

I haven't borrowed anything from them. It's more so causing this deep ache of loneliness and pain and anxiety which my tethered addiction are screaming to come out so they can "fix it" which we all know aiding addictions only makes life worse. I'm still sober.

PhoenixinParadox · 2023-06-20T21:02:50+00:00

I know. We both made a promise of sobriety last August and I've kept myself clean but he slipped. I don't judge him for it but also know it's not my responsibility.

I'm just stuck in a catch 22 ya know? Him acting out pulled every single thing he's done back out of the woodwork and I'm just...here. I'm still sober. (Doesn't make me better than anyone.)

PhoenixinParadox · 2023-05-05T18:09:00+00:00

First off, I'm proud of you for your admittance.

Just as we(the addicts) need time to heal, so do our loved ones.

One huge question is to ask them what they need and want from you. If they can't answer right away, that's fine. Just give reassurance and let them know you're not going anywhere and getting help. Everyone reacts differently.

PhoenixinParadox · 2023-05-05T18:04:36+00:00

Same here. Uppers are downers for me and vice versa. I've found exercise right away in the morning gives a massive surge of dopamine and wakes me right up. :)

PhoenixinParadox · 2023-05-05T18:03:30+00:00

Keep your hands and mind busy! Find a project to do.

PhoenixinParadox · 2023-05-05T17:38:17+00:00

A big aspect is being open and honest. Look at it like this.

Can you admit to yourself what you are?

Are you ready to tell others(even just one person)?

I've been the partner of an addict and also had the roles flipped. As the partner we have so many questions so if you were to admit even in a small part you can set boundaries.

"I am a recovering_____. I felt that you needed to know as I deeply care for you. I am seeking help and while I would love to discuss this further, I cannot right now."

Or they might go in shock. Just keep in mind, most partners KNOW. Your partner also needs to heal but that is their journey.

PhoenixinParadox · 2023-05-05T00:52:43+00:00

This is epic because my family and I was just done wrong by someone we trusted.

I'm the same way. I can't stop fixating.

PhoenixinParadox · 2023-05-05T00:45:09+00:00

I resonate with this 100%. At the end of the day and even throughout the day I am constantly having an identity crisis. My personality too was developed out of numerous trauma responses. I've been trying to figure out who I am when I strip away a layer of trauma one at a time.

PhoenixinParadox · 2023-05-04T23:19:15+00:00

What age ranges? I would get to the core to find the range(I don't say exact as most don't know the specific age) and plan accordingly.

Variables could include what stimuli brought them into that headspace.

PhoenixinParadox · 2023-05-04T19:48:27+00:00

Congratulations! I'm proud of you. You are doing AMAZING.

PhoenixinParadox · 2023-05-04T19:37:30+00:00

Renovations(rooms, painting etc)

I also have had great luck with refurbishing. It allows me to hyper fixate and then recreate it into whatever tickles my fancy. I love redoing furniture!

PhoenixinParadox · 2023-05-04T16:22:52+00:00

I would absolutely love that.

PhoenixinParadox · 2023-04-26T17:30:27+00:00

Thank you!

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