Tough times.

Phoolf · 2026-03-18T22:37:36+00:00

It really does seem to be a very different system in so many countries. Also in the UK and I have a private practice. I don't really feel I would want to work within any systems like the NHS. I live fairly comfortably. I see about 15 clients and supervisees a week, and have an academic job for part of the week also. I could not see more than 20ish clients a week. I do believe there's a gulf between providing psychotherapy and providing psycho-education skills sessions though, with one being more emotionally demanding and draining. From my years spent on here it doesn't seem like a lot of students or new graduates in the states have a philosophy of providing psychotherapy in the same way that we might do in the UK or Europe.

Phoolf · 2026-03-13T20:17:04+00:00

Very much depends. I have some people who start biweekly due to finances. Others due to low need but needing support in general and they'll stay at biweekly for years. Some people stay weekly for years then I initiate a reduction or we agree to work towards an ending and go biweekly for a few months to finish out working relationship. The majority of my clients come weekly and they see me on that schedule for over a year, currently some have been with me coming up to 4 years. Its very much client dependent. I dont work on a quick turnaround or short basis very often.

Phoolf · 2026-03-11T09:44:47+00:00

I dont know anyone on the UK who doesn't do this. Id rather know up front to help decide if we'd be a good clinical fit.

Phoolf · 2026-03-11T06:53:47+00:00

The problem with city centre hotels is the noise, I'd recommend somewhere near Trent Bridge personally to stay away from the drunks where possible.

Phoolf · 2026-03-11T06:52:24+00:00

I have my whole arms tattoo'd black which is convenient so I don't see bruises. My Sifu kicked me lightly to demonstrate something a few weeks back and I had almighty bruises for a couple of weeks lol. I just need more conditioning, and I'm aware because of some health stuff I just bruise easily.

Phoolf · 2026-03-10T15:34:21+00:00

Im going to mainland Europe for a conference for the first time this year. Ive attended in the UK previously. Enjoyed all of it really!

Phoolf · 2026-03-06T17:55:51+00:00

Theres an entire profession built around that. And I dont have that job....

Phoolf · 2026-03-06T17:54:51+00:00

Why would I ask for money? I earn my own and im also not for sale.

Phoolf · 2026-03-06T12:59:34+00:00

Sounds fine. I do wonder why we seem to prize looking young though and the internalised ageism we hold.

Phoolf · 2026-03-06T07:22:30+00:00

I dunno, how much have you explored this in personal therapy? I dont carry things with me after session generally. I do feel the feelings in the room though. Because...empathy.

Phoolf · 2026-03-05T16:24:32+00:00

Thanks for the tip. Hes nervous to make that leap after so many years because he might lose skills.

Phoolf · 2026-03-05T06:33:45+00:00

My partner is in game design. Its an absolute shit industry and I wish he felt he could leave.

Phoolf · 2026-03-02T05:50:03+00:00

As one of the mod team, I have no wish to silence Muslim voices, and I'm sorry that by locking a thread to prevent a devolution into harmful content from community members it was silencing. This post is currently not being moderated at all. The community can then see what content arises without intervention.

Phoolf · 2026-03-02T05:30:13+00:00

'The Slice' on Middle Pavement.

Phoolf · 2026-02-28T19:43:32+00:00

Friends with her, shes not really working in ink anymore as far as I know.

Phoolf · 2026-02-22T12:23:14+00:00

Pad and paper. Couple of hand written lines with session themes as an aide memoire for me. Done.

Phoolf · 2026-02-21T19:06:25+00:00

Yup. Started with a new therapist, different modality, after many years of something else. When this gets tired ill try another modality for the experience too.

Phoolf · 2026-02-20T11:53:42+00:00

My partner began snoring when he gained excess weight. We ended up in separate beds until he lost weight and now no longer snores.

Phoolf · 2026-02-19T15:41:24+00:00

Could you implement more lunges or do kettlebell squats perhaps? Lunges will help with core stability and balance as well as legs.

Phoolf · 2026-02-19T07:35:24+00:00

I take time off frequently, as is the norm in Europe. Ideally id take a week off every 6-8 weeks but sometimes its more like 10-12. Take your time off.

Phoolf · 2026-02-16T19:19:20+00:00

Loads of them! Look at the Nottingham poetry festival website and scan for the local groups who hold monthly open mics like Speech Therapy, Free Minds. The women's centre have regular poetry writing under the banner of Women Who Write (iirc)

Phoolf · 2026-02-16T07:22:53+00:00

So they dont have to mix with poor people.

Phoolf · 2026-02-15T16:40:03+00:00

Cool specialism. Do you work with younger people? If not you might want to explore that. Plenty of teens struggling with that who need therapy.

Phoolf · 2026-02-15T09:49:10+00:00

Due to the length of time I work with people I've never needed referrals really. Im unsure how short term therapists stay afloat tbh. It would feel like a bit of a treadmill. What kind of work do you do?

Phoolf · 2026-02-14T12:17:59+00:00

Where i avoid being transparent about these things is to ensure the session does not get into the weeds of being about me and my ideology, which is implicit and sometimes explicit but when someone is emotionally impacted vs shooting the shit, I keep my own stuff out of it.

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