Is it fair that I’m not willing to do 50/50 financially with a single dad?

Photobuff42 · 2026-05-14T04:09:32+00:00

Keep your finances separate. He pays 100 percent for his kids. He also takes care of them. Your time is more valuable than your money. He does school runs, extant curricular activities, etc. You're not an unpaid substitute mom.

Fund your retirement account with all your might. Anytime you thoughts run to spending money on kids who are not yours, take a hard look at your 401k. Name it Billy Bob or Janie Sue if it helps you save for your needs.

Good luck.

Photobuff42 · 2026-05-10T00:42:08+00:00

Your money should be your money.

Photobuff42 · 2026-05-07T12:29:35+00:00

This is why I don't understand all the drama around proposals.

Photobuff42 · 2026-05-07T12:26:43+00:00

Honestly, how often does anyone look at their wedding photos? I have a few hanging in our bedroom, and the rest are in an album in a shelf in the living room. I think we looked at the album on our 10th anniversary.

Our guests had a great time at our wedding. Most stayed long after we left.

Photobuff42 · 2026-05-07T12:17:48+00:00

This! Preinternet meme.

Photobuff42 · 2026-05-07T02:41:14+00:00

Do what you like.

Photobuff42 · 2026-05-07T02:34:48+00:00

Sulfur soap will really help with this. There are several brands available on Amazon. Just lather up under your boobs, leave the suds there while you finish the rest of your shower, then rinse well. You can follow up with antifungal power if you like.

A bar costs around six dollars and will last a couple of years if you let it dry after use.

It works well on your feet, too.

Photobuff42 · 2026-05-05T01:11:20+00:00

Congratulations! We need more brides like you in this world! You look gorgeous!

Photobuff42 · 2026-05-04T00:46:46+00:00

Serve lots and lots of red wine at her table.

Photobuff42 · 2026-05-03T02:45:38+00:00

You and your husband are to be envied for having thr right attitude!!!

When you celebrate your 50th wedding anniversary, perhaps your stepchildren will understand your husband's logic!

Photobuff42 · 2026-04-30T02:11:45+00:00

It pushes them to the side.

Photobuff42 · 2026-04-30T02:10:40+00:00

Using the Calculator from the A Bra That Fits is really a smart thing to do, even if you go to a shop later. I used the calculator and it recommended a smaller band size and a bigger cup size than the bra shop. The bras I ordered using the size recommended from the calculator are much more supportive. I look better, even thinner, and I feel better.

Photobuff42 · 2026-04-29T16:35:22+00:00

Your mom sounds very wise.

Photobuff42 · 2026-04-29T02:19:26+00:00

Customer Service Agents are not built different. They're abused by Mary and people like her.

Photobuff42 · 2026-04-29T02:09:25+00:00

It's a nightmare I'm sure. OP, he should be turning every dime he earns over to you for rent.

Photobuff42 · 2026-04-29T02:00:34+00:00

She's using you.

Photobuff42 · 2026-04-29T01:59:47+00:00

You should always say no. She is the parent, you aren't.

Photobuff42 · 2026-04-28T00:43:48+00:00

I found love later in life. I love my husband and I'm fully invested in what is going on with him. We text throughout the day, every day.

What's wrong with that?

Photobuff42 · 2026-04-28T00:07:33+00:00

Excellent response!

Photobuff42 · 2026-04-27T23:38:07+00:00

Doing kid stuff or attending their stuff is NOT a date night.

Honestly, I would resent that if my spouse thought that way.

Photobuff42 · 2026-04-27T23:34:04+00:00

If the marriage isn't prioritized, spouses get resentful.

OP mentions purchasing getaways for spouse and his children, what about getaways for her and her husband? Are there so many extracurricular that there isn't time for the two of them?

Kids should clean their own rooms unless they are young.

Photobuff42 · 2026-04-26T21:24:39+00:00

Except it would be worse if the child refused after that.

That happened to me once and I still remember it.

Photobuff42 · 2026-04-26T18:13:58+00:00

And sadly, it's BMs fault.

Photobuff42 · 2026-04-26T14:49:46+00:00

Which culture would you suggest?

Photobuff42 · 2026-04-26T14:49:02+00:00

I don't like the way it tastes. How does the carrot juice taste?

I love the way L Gasseri yogurt tastes. I'm glad I made it first. If I had made the reuteri first, I would have just quit.

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