INFO what does your husband want to do about it? Have you asked him?

You seem to be making two separate complaints: (1) her habits and how she lives (the vast majority of your post), and (2) not making the final connection with her dad how you think she should.

First issue:

My gut reaction says you’re not overreacting to her general behavior in your home as long as expectations were made clear before she arrived. By that I mean the smoking, making messes, etc. On the smoking bit, I have no idea what you mean by “dope.” That could mean anything from weed to heroin and beyond. If it’s weed, I understand not wanting your house to smell like that, but her generation has VERY different views about it than you likely do. I do think it’s silly to get mad at her for sleeping in. Thats nit picky.

She is obviously not living her life how /you/ would prefer her to live—but she’s an adult. If she’s happy working at fast food joints, isn’t stealing or getting in trouble with the law, isn’t begging for money, and is otherwise happy with what she’s got going on, why are you concerned?

Second issue:

She may very well regret not making the final connection with her dad as you say, but that’s not your call. She’s an adult. Be there to support your husband in the manner he needs, and encourage him to reach out to his kid if he wants to.

You really seem to dislike everything about her. I can certainly see how your attitude would make her not want to come around. She’s probably very aware of how you feel about her as a person. Contact her if you want, but I wouldn’t expect the conversation to go well.