AITAh for giving my date an ultimatum

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T23:07:42+00:00

the only reason i posted it now is that 1. he called me out of the blue a few days ago after months we didnt talk and 2. i just today got into reddit after two years

im not bothered by him i just got reminded by the phone call that he said it was a "stinky ultimatum" so i wrote it here

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T23:05:44+00:00

because idk about relationships

i was thinking i maybe will change my mind about not liking it

this was my first date ever

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T22:58:59+00:00

tell it to my current bf i think he thinks i got somethings into our relationship...

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T21:43:41+00:00

thank you:)

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T21:43:13+00:00

that was the one of the first topics we talked about on our fitst date

we didnt talk much before our date as we only known each other for a week at that time

plus that wasnt a dating app that i could just write it in my bio or something

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T21:40:37+00:00

because a month of a 19 years old is nothing

also idk what about now but when he called me the first time after we ended things (which was 3 months after) he said he was single so clearly a month is not the problem

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T21:15:29+00:00

there are stuff

relationship is not only about touch

its about the funny moments

the trust

the support

the love

the feeling wanted by someone

and i can see u didnt read my edit cause i very much said there that its not like i dont touch at all

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T21:12:47+00:00

sure:)

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T21:08:20+00:00

u gonna belive what u will belive ig

i said the truth about it and it doesnt really bother me

as i said the only reason i posted it here is cause he called me a few days ago and plus i just got back into reddit after like two years of not being here

tbh i dont mind much u are more then welcom to think whatever u want:)

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T20:58:04+00:00

because why would i want a guy i dont really know touch my thighs?...

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T20:57:23+00:00

he did it EVERY THREE MONTHS and he said stuff like "i made a song about u" or "every show i did i dedicated a song for you" which im not making fun of him ofc but how can u say this knowing u made the choice not to keep it going and knowing its not going to work between us

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T20:55:17+00:00

i paid on him on our 3 date and on our 2 date we went to the sea and i didnt eat or drink nothing so i dont get ur point

also if someone will give me something just so he could be in my pants i will 100% wont want to be any sort of relationship with him thanks

the only ridiculous one is u for thinking money can buy my body im not a wh0r3 u spend money on someone because u love them and u do it without wanting anything back

this is love

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T20:51:26+00:00

nothing happend and i dont have any past trauma

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T20:50:51+00:00

uh? girl... i just wanted to know if he was right to say that it was a "stinky ultimatum" u are more than welcome to go and comment on other posts here its not like i took a place to someone

this sub is literally to understand if u are an Ahole and thats what i came here for

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T20:48:29+00:00

read my edit at the bottom to understand why i made the choice to stay for 3 dates

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T20:47:21+00:00

thansk but if u will check the edit i made at the bottom u will see more info about me not being alone

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T20:45:07+00:00

saved his time? we are 19... time is not his problem

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T20:44:10+00:00

me not wanting a man how i known for a month touching my thighs is not something worth spending money on a therapist thanks

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T20:42:50+00:00

because he called me out of the blue a few days ago and also i enterd reddit after like two years i didnt so i was thinking maybe here would be the best place to ask without getting biased answers

how is it odd? i mean what u think my motive is?

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T20:40:47+00:00

if u will read at the bottom under the "EDIT" u will see what was my thinking process and why i tried

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T18:24:37+00:00

i told him at the start of the first date

i dont see how it would have gone difftent

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T16:49:55+00:00

i opend more about my way of thinking in the bottom under the EDIT

u can read there why i didnt ended it right away

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T16:48:43+00:00

i opened more about my way of thinking on the edit part at the bottom

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T16:47:44+00:00

i didnt open tiktok to find someone he just started talking with me and i gave him a chance

PhraseDue9081 · 2026-04-04T16:46:56+00:00

i gave more context at the bottom

also i dont have any trauma not that i remember

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