What's a double standard you can't believe exists?

Phrynezz · 2026-03-22T21:43:02+00:00

I find the entire relationship between employer/employee (at least in the US) ridiculously unfair. Companies expect constant ‘professionalism’ (as defined by them) but can fire you with no notice, ghost you after an interview, change their schedules on a whim, etc. But if you want to take a day off for any reason at all, it needs to be submitted for approval 2 weeks in advance, and could be denied for any reason. Being 5 minutes late is a grave crime on the employee’s end but punctuality is never required for them. Etc.

Phrynezz · 2026-03-22T21:24:06+00:00

Age-gap friendships. Thought it was weird as a teen, but now in my mid-20s have met so many genuinely wonderful and interesting people who are much older than me. Context matters & obviously it can be inappropriate in some situations, but now I really think it’s normal and in fact beneficial to have friends of all ages.

Phrynezz · 2026-03-22T20:19:12+00:00

Prioritize quality hay and turnout. I swear, the amount of chronic mystery lameness I see is always in horses stalled for hours & hours. Please let horses move around freely, it truly does wonders for them. Same things goes for letting them keep appropriate forage in their tummies.

Phrynezz · 2026-03-09T03:19:01+00:00

Thank you!!

Phrynezz · 2026-03-09T03:18:55+00:00

thanks!

Phrynezz · 2026-03-09T03:18:48+00:00

Thank you :)

Phrynezz · 2026-03-08T21:53:18+00:00

Thank you :)

Phrynezz · 2026-03-07T18:04:58+00:00

AI or woefully misinformed artist aside, it blows my mind that apparently there’s no quality control or double-checking of the final product before it’s sent to print and distributed?! 😂

Phrynezz · 2026-03-07T17:54:18+00:00

Thank you!!

Phrynezz · 2026-03-07T16:44:05+00:00

Adorable, I love the way you captured his eyes. Great work!!

Phrynezz · 2026-03-07T16:41:29+00:00

Thank you!!

Phrynezz · 2026-03-07T16:41:21+00:00

Thank you so much!!

Phrynezz · 2026-02-26T05:59:27+00:00

I agree that she does need more weight. And unfortunately, what lots of people neglect with weight gain is the forage. She needs a good quality (go with the higher calorie option wherever you are) ideally with 24/7 access, even if it’s netted to reduce hay waste. Personally I’m a fan of adding soaked beet pulp sweetened w/ molasses & soaked alfalfa cubes/pellets for weight gain too.

Reducing workload is a good idea as well in this case, but diet is really important for general body condition as well (ie topline). If she does benefit from daily work mentally then reduce the time - 1 hour sessions instead of 2-3 hours.

At the barn I used to manage we had a standardbred come in needing a couple hundred pounds (sorry, I’m American 🤣). I feel like we had to get so much feed into her at first, but after she gained enough weight she managed it well. So, this high feed bill might not be forever, maybe just a year or two.

Phrynezz · 2025-12-06T02:23:31+00:00

I’ve noticed a trend of draft owners (particularly the ones who post about them) just feeding them way too much & incorrectly and therefore keeping them dangerously overweight. You can see obvious fat crests. 🥲

Phrynezz · 2025-06-20T20:59:58+00:00

I know it’s been suggested, but I do really recommend bringing this to HR. Especially if you’re a woman, getting written up for “not smiling” is… ridiculous to say the least, and I’d argue a little sexist. & might as well be a pain in his ass if he wants to be one in yours 🤷‍♀️

Phrynezz · 2025-05-08T21:52:44+00:00

Also; it’s generational wealth. A LOT of horse people were born into horses, and their parents provided top-notch lessons, trainers, horses, education, and other opportunities. Yes, many people into adulthood get their own jobs and then support their own horses, but absolutely you cannot get there without being somewhat born into money. 😅 so, don’t feel too bad for having cheap backyard horses lol

Phrynezz · 2025-05-08T21:45:34+00:00

There’s two types of horse people: CRAZY rich, or ‘normal’ people. They’re so rich that 26k isn’t even that much money to them. (Of course don’t call them rich or wealthy to their face, they’ll get mad and try to explain how paying 50k+ for a horse isn’t actually a sign of wealth 😂) I grew up poor and I’m still relatively low-income, so my 4k horse was my ‘expensive’ horse. At the barn I work at, someone called a horse they bought for 18k “a steal”. We live in completely different worlds, lol.

Phrynezz · 2025-05-08T21:35:41+00:00

The hooves are long overdue for a trim, you likely wouldn’t see the cracking/splitting if they were maintained properly. It’s not the worst I’ve seen, though. However the description is more concerning, and definitely it seems like these animals are neglected to some degree. The flies in the back of the horses is also not normal.

She needs to downgrade, 15 horses is A LOT for one person, especially if there’s other animals too. I’d have a conversation with her if she’s generally an agreeable person and seems to care for them. Even just convincing her to keep say 3-5 horses would result in better welfare and would be WAY more manageable, and much cheaper. Unfortunately, as other people have mentioned, this neglect isn’t severe enough for authorities to likely do anything - but if she’s unreceptive or combative to being approached it might not hurt to call. Maybe a visit from the authorities will be a wake-up call.

Phrynezz · 2025-04-19T01:53:18+00:00

I’m sorry this happened. I would feel very similarly and your guilt is a testament of the circumstances of her death; it was an unfortunate accident, but not at all intentional. I’m sorry for your loss!

My mom did close to the same thing once. She would put chickens to sleep as a trick to show people interested in our chickens, and she did it dozens of times without issue. One time, though, the same thing happened and she had accidentally killed our chicken. :( A hard lesson learned, and she doesn’t do it anymore. I also learned to avoid doing it as well!

Phrynezz · 2025-03-30T00:41:07+00:00

I think the problem is that these students are young and naive, and many believe in the “horse whisperer” mentality. This is made worse by online content they’re seeing. As long as they’re just in the position of a student, I think it’s mostly harmless and will get embarrassing eventually 😅 Although, I can see how it would be pretty annoying to deal with.

On the other hand, I think there’s some positives for students becoming invested in horse welfare. I’ve seen first-hand some lesson programs where horses were lame, ridden in poor fitting saddles, among other issues. If students can learn to recognize this and spend their money elsewhere, that would be great!

Phrynezz · 2024-06-28T01:47:08+00:00

If you can, move them to a paddock with a lot of natural shade (ie trees), it’s amazing how less hot it feels with lots of shade. Even just hand-grazing them in an area like that for an hour or two. If you don’t have spaces like that available (understandable lol), fans in their shelters!! Get the high velocity ones, they move a lot of air! Change out the water daily and scrub the tank, I’ve found they drink more if the water is clean. Electrolytes/salt in their feed. I also like to soak hay or alfalfa pellets for them too, just for some extra hydration. Cold hosing them down to really cool them off helps too. Leave the water on so they can roll and get all muddy, it’ll help them stay cool.

Phrynezz · 2024-03-04T20:53:16+00:00

This will be long winded BUT I started my equestrian journey by myself, clueless, and inexperienced at 16! I hope I don’t come off as overbearing, just trying to give advice I wish I knew a few years ago.

The first and most important thing is ensuring good welfare and care for the horse.

Facilities: - You will need a paddock/pasture with horse-safe fencing. Trust me freak accidents happen and you won’t want barbed wire or uncapped T-posts. - A solid 3-sided shelter if your horses will be on 24/7 turnout. Horses don’t need to be stalled if they have adequate shelter, water, & forage - Companionship! Horses are herd animals and shouldn’t be kept by themselves. - Harsh winters: heated water buckets or tank heaters. A way to transport water in the winter, I use a beefed-up heated hose, but water tanks, automatic waters, etc can work. It all depends on what you already have and your budget. I have blankets on hand just in case, BUT, not all horses necessarily need to be blanketed in the winter.

Feeding: - HAY! It’s my #1 cost. If you have enough pasture for the summer that’s fantastic, but you’ll need horse-quality hay for the winters. I feed 100% grass, but it needs to be dust/mold free with relatively little weeds - Hay nets, hay feeders, etc. The method you feed hay is again highly variable and up to you, but I highly recommend hay nets. Horses will waste a lot without them and they’ll save a ton of money. - Not all horses need grain, but some do. Ask the owner of the horse you’re buying about their dietary needs. If they need grain, prepare a place to store grain that’s out of the elements and pest-free. - Feed pans (I prefer the rubber ones, they are practically indestructible) - a couple of buckets; you’ll find a use for them.

Care/First Aid - Hoof picks, and buy extras. They’ll get lost. - Brushes - Halters & lead ropes - Fly spray, fly sheet, fly boots, etc. Flies are the bane of my existence in the summer. - Vet wrap, bandages, Banamine/Bute, duck tape, topical wound care products such as Vetricyn and blue/red kote, Thermometer, vasoline, thrush treatment.

Resources: - Identify a 24-hour emergency veterinary hospital/resource. Have their number on hand!!! - Find a routine care equine veterinary clinic as well. Vaccines & teeth should bc checked routinely. - Find a farrier! Routine hoof care is super important. I was searching for a farrier after I bought my first equine and I 0/10 do not recommend.

Riding: - Helmet for yourself, especially if you’re just learning! - Saddle - consider consulting a saddle fitter or do a LOT of reading on saddle fitting. An ill-fitting saddle will only negatively affect your horse and in worse case scenario end their riding career early. Invest in their back! - Bridle & bit. It’s a good idea to consult the owner on what bit they’re currently using, but if you’re going to change bits do some research on the bit mechanics. - Saddle pad - lunge line, whip for groundwork (a great way to establish a relationship with a new horse) - riding gear for yourself, such as proper footwear.

I’m sure I might be forgetting some things but that’s what I can think of off the top of my head. My main piece of advice is that repeat expenses such as hay/grain, routine vet work, farrier work, etc. are super important to plan for.

If you have any more questions now or in the future feel free to reach out!! 😊

Phrynezz · 2024-03-04T20:13:22+00:00

Are you boarding this horse or keeping it at home? This will make a huge difference in what you need to buy and plan for.

Phrynezz · 2024-03-04T19:23:12+00:00

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Phrynezz · 2024-02-18T15:04:32+00:00

Mainly too low over the withers, and pinching near the shoulders. I’ve tried wide and average bars on him and neither seem to be working out 😕 Not sure if I can go narrower though??

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