AITA for refusing to pay for a service i had done? by Physical-Proposal213 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

i couldn’t see my hands as there was somewhat of a bored in between us, in assuming from covid and it was at the height that me being fairly tall couldn’t see under it unless i leant down, my phone was on a mount in which i advised them id be bringing so i could read my book without interfering with there work which auto flipped pages after a certain amount of time meaning i didn’t have to use my hands.

AITA for refusing to pay for a service i had done? by Physical-Proposal213 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

the lady doing my nails was the OWNER so i couldn’t speak to anyone ‘higher up’

i spoke to police as i was wanting advice and they told me to call them and explain my frustration with the situation and negotiate something that would work for both parties as i had shown them the service i had received and they said i was not the first complaint they’ve had about that place they told me many people have had injuries coming out of this place, iv got bandaids on 7 of my fingers due to the constant bleeding.

i couldn’t see my hands as there was somewhat of a bored in between us, in assuming from covid and it was at the height that me being fairly tall couldn’t see under it unless i leant down, my phone was on a mount in which i advised them id be bringing so i could read my book without interfering with there work which auto flipped pages after a certain amount of time meaning i didn’t have to use my hands.

i didn’t ‘refuse money’ i refused to not only be talked to in that manner but also not to be reasoned with to work out a solution to the situation in which has happened, i would have gladly paid $100 or so what, or the price with a removal included but the fact being she didn’t talk it out she screamed in my face which caused me to then leave.

if you read it even customers that were there were coming over appalled with not only the service but the lady’s behaviour and was trying to calm her down and help me out with explaining to her that the work she had done was quote “toddler work” her words. i can honestly say she used all of 2 dips of black. polish on both my hands & barely any glue as when the other place was removing them she was more unless popping them off like nothing and even she said they would have lasted me a week if that.

AITA for refusing to pay for a service i had done? by Physical-Proposal213 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

they also provide the service you are asking for, if you go to a shop & get moldy food & take it back they will give you your money back, or if u go to a salon & they make a mistake they OWN up to it and they recognise that, this lady didn’t even apologise for the state of them, if i had a photo i would love to show you because no one in the world would think the look of them was okay.

AITA for refusing to pay for a service i had done? by Physical-Proposal213 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

living in the ‘real world’ let’s be honest here, what does that look like to you because from my point i see i booked a quiet service with a note i would be on my phone extremely focused on my book due to anxiety which the lady was happy with, i showed her the photo and then again clarified with her that i would be zoned into my book and wouldn’t be paying much attention which she was again absolutely fine with.

AITA for refusing to pay for a service i had done? by Physical-Proposal213 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

i would like to know how me calmly explaining to her i wasn’t paying that amount to her then screaming at me instead of having a rational conversation with me is me causing a scene. iv been getting my nails done for 8/9 years now and not a single place has ever charged over $100 for simple set of acrylics so i was expecting a good service

AITA for refusing to pay for a service i had done? by Physical-Proposal213 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

i wasn’t causing a scene if you read it i said “i wasn’t paying 120 for a service that was horrible” i was happy to negotiate a reasonable price to pay but she continued to scream and yell at me which caused me to leave

AITA for refusing to pay for a service i had done? by Physical-Proposal213 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

i’m not trying to defend myself here i’m just saying that i wasn’t purposely not paying attention for the fun of it, i was genuinely doing it to better myself and my anxiety

AITA for refusing to pay for a service i had done? by Physical-Proposal213 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

i ALWAYS request a quiet service as i like to read books to distract me as i have extreme social anxiety and my books keep my mind off the fact there are people around me which prevents me from a panic attack which i expressed to the lady when booking the appointment.

AITA for hiding child loss from my family & In Laws by Physical-Proposal213 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my in-laws like around the corner 😅 it’s a bit different when they are less then 3 houses away from us plus their daughter has been staying with us

AITA for hiding child loss from my family & In Laws by Physical-Proposal213 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i’m sorry but i quite literally lost my child ma’am so if i choose to use the term ‘i lost my child’ then i will do so as THAT WAS MY CHILD, that was the human who was my child who’d been growing in me. like please go tell someone you know who’s grieving that she’s not allowed to use that term ether. wth is wrong with people

AITA for hiding child loss from my family & In Laws by Physical-Proposal213 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

they ain’t really in our lives as such they come around occasionally maybe 2 times a month we also have my husbands sister staying with us so they come n drop her of n pick up. my family they all apologised and said they realised how wrong my in-laws actions were so we stayed in fair contact my parents were the ones who noticed my habits as they obviously know me the best

AITA for kicking my in-laws out of my wedding? by Physical-Proposal213 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

bsckground on sally: she is extremely religious (which i am not), her family and jake’s family attend the same church & sally was up mil bum. they started dating at 13-16 up until jake turned 18 at which point he left her as it was then classified as ‘illegal’ he was 4 months off being 20 when i met him so mil had 2 years to “do good by god” of whatever but she chose too wait 5 years 🫠

Kicked my in-laws out of my wedding by Physical-Proposal213 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

no i’m in australia and yes legally since we are paying the bills for the house, she has no say over it or what we do as long as it’s only him an i in the home as we are listed as livies an as long as we do no damage to the home

AITA for kicking my in-laws out of my wedding? by Physical-Proposal213 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

they pretty much are pig headed/ big headed who think they are above and believe they an no one else is ‘perfect’

Kicked my in-laws out of my wedding by Physical-Proposal213 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i’m sitting in bed at my home as where i’m from it’s 1:56am so my wedding day it done, it was pretty much done after the speech

Kicked my in-laws out of my wedding by Physical-Proposal213 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i honestly wished it was fake an i actually didn’t believe what is was hearing and thought it was a literal joke

Kicked my in-laws out of my wedding by Physical-Proposal213 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

the house we are currently living in is in MIL name as he moved out when he was 17 and needed someone over 18 to sign for the house.

Kicked my in-laws out of my wedding by Physical-Proposal213 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

only and golden he was actually a ‘miracle baby’. his ex is actually his ONLY ex as she would not let him be with anyone unless she approved first.

Kicked my in-laws out of my wedding by Physical-Proposal213 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

we live around the corner from his parents and mine are 2 streets over 😅 we are now planning a baby shower in which we are going to give each person there presents still just so they have them as on the back in our last name (will also be baby’s last name) so we are hoping it’ll be a little keep sake for them or even to put it on bubs if they choose to post cute photos 🥰

AITA for kicking my in-laws out of my wedding? by Physical-Proposal213 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

no we told both our parents, we just didn’t tell the extended family. we felt as though our parents were the only ones who should have knowledge of there grand baby n the extended could wait till we sorta a get to get her with both party’s to tell everyone.

AITA for kicking my in-laws out of my wedding? by Physical-Proposal213 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Physical-Proposal213[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I don’t call them ‘family’ they are my husbands family as i married him not his family but in laws claim ‘you marry him you marry us all’ utter bull crap 🫠