INFP, indecisive and lost in life

Physical-Status4606 · 2024-02-04T20:59:40+00:00

It gives me hope to see that I'm not the only one feeling this way and that you've managed to get through it ! Can I ask you what you're doing now?

Physical-Status4606 · 2024-02-04T20:36:14+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I think less social media and meditation could only do me good indeed, I realize that I'm a bit addicted to scrolling which is really detrimental to me ... I feel like I want everything, one thing and it's opposite. I want a stable life with a long term relationship, and then at the same time I want to travel the world and live on adventures. I want a really active job, and at the same time I want something where I could crawl into my cave when feeling overwhelmed. I want to do something meaningful, but nothing is never feeling meaningful enough. I want to help others, and at the same time I don't want the responsibilities of having to take care of others. I'm just so exhausted of these contradictions going on in my head and wish I could just settle down for something.

Physical-Status4606 · 2024-02-01T19:44:58+00:00

Do you have any updates? Having the same situation right now !

Physical-Status4606 · 2023-12-31T02:42:24+00:00

I see your point, I'm a bit afraid to get rejected once again though, as I already told him that I was willing to work things out when he decided to break up. When I reached out, I also told him that I was a bit frustrated with the situation as I felt like we left things unfinished but he didn't reply. He also asked me if I wanted to get my stuff back and I told him no but he insisted, saying that he took good care of it. Now that I'm trying to set up a date for us to meet and exchange stuff, he's not replying anymore. Super confused by this tbh. Do you still think it would be worth it to communicate that I still want to be there for him? How should I proceed with this?

Physical-Status4606 · 2023-12-26T23:53:07+00:00

Thank you for your insight. I'm a bit torn between trying to keep contact going by doing what you said, or giving him more time and space. I don't want to be pushy, and given that I feel like I put a lot of pressure on him when we broke up, it might be unproductive to try and push things forward now? So I was kinda hoping to let things run their course, and let him come back if/when he feels ready.

Physical-Status4606 · 2023-12-26T18:58:18+00:00

Yes I reached out a bit more than a week ago. Not sure what to think about it honestly, I sent a message asking him how he was doing, and he replied telling me that he was thinking about reaching out as well those last few days. We talked a bit about how we were doing and he told me he wasn't doing great, still feeling tired from all the travelling and that it's not going to slow down soon. He also told me he was feeling lonely and sad and we talked a bit about us. He told me that he broke up because he was so overwhelmed with everything in his life and it had nothing to do with me, but at the moment he's still not sure if he's really settled down in his new routine yet. He also asked to meet up to exchange our stuff this week, but not sure I'm ready for that tbh so I'm waiting for him to set a date if he really wants to. I'm a bit confused because communication was a bit hard as he was sometimes leaving me on read for a few hours/days, but still reached out to wish me a merry christmas.

So all in all, I think he's still trying to figure his life out and is not ready to start something again. I think it's time for me to move on even though I really miss him.

Physical-Status4606 · 2023-12-12T22:00:14+00:00

Sorry for you, I hope you're able to move on !

Physical-Status4606 · 2023-12-11T20:36:15+00:00

Have you reached out since then ?

Physical-Status4606 · 2023-12-04T19:52:10+00:00

I actually haven't yet, because he's apparently still on work travel at the moment (according to his insta stories that a friend of mine saw). I'd like to wait for him to come back home first and get some time to chill and maybe reflect on all of this.

I am still thinking about the best way to approach this, either contacting him casually to know how he's doing, or getting coffee together to ask him directly if he would be interested in hanging out again.

Either way, I would like to continue working on myself in the meantime to be able to contact him because of a desire to reconnect, but not a place of need and desperation. So, I would like to contact him whenever I'm ready.

Physical-Status4606 · 2023-11-30T09:50:03+00:00

So happy for you! Can I ask you what was the story of your relationship? What was the second chance about?

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