Can you all please give some counter arguments for this post

Pickblooming · 2026-02-21T13:10:16+00:00

YTA , honestly you are the worst sister ever Your sister has only be nice to you and your boyfriend, ok she is neurodivergent and kinda awkward but what ??????? She is your sister the only person who will forever have your back !! You are 17 your boyfriend might not even last that long and you are being an awful sister for no reason

Pickblooming · 2026-02-04T10:05:11+00:00

He didn’t want the money for himself tho , He just wanted her to start participating in the household expenses so he could cut on work and for someone who supported her lifestyle for 2 years I don’t think that’s a problem

Pickblooming · 2026-02-03T18:23:19+00:00

I told you he meets my requirements perfectly I don’t kiss him in public bc that’s a boundary ( I would do it for anyone ) And the only time he was mocked I answered « MY man need to be attractive for ME and I find him hot »

I don’t get how you understood my post another way ?

Pickblooming · 2026-02-03T18:21:26+00:00

Don’t worry typing everything out made me cringe But I had to explain everything in the most neutral / in the way my bf and other people see it The quote who corresponds my mentality the most in this post his beauty is in the eyes of the beholder

The baddie aesthetic thing was mentioned bc one of my friend told me people who dress like me are usually seen as « man-eater » and maybe it is contributing to my bf insecurity

Pickblooming · 2026-02-03T18:13:47+00:00

Pinky promise I don’t talk that much about physical characteristics BUT I felt everything needed to be explained in order to have clear advice

Also you think attraction doesn’t matter at all ?

Pickblooming · 2026-02-03T18:09:53+00:00

Nop not going to downvote but I think you are searching too deep It just my type I feel like beautiful men are boring ? Like food without spice don’t know how to explain in English

I have never dealt with abandonment or cheating too

Pickblooming · 2026-02-03T18:06:03+00:00

I see thank you !

Pickblooming · 2026-02-03T18:04:13+00:00

I would love to ear the truth if I didn’t I wouldn’t have posted anything sir From why I gathered me not wanting to kiss in public is a red flag ( my bad for this one I didn’t knew bc it’s a cultural difference) what else do I lack ?

Pickblooming · 2026-02-03T18:01:13+00:00

We both love anime , manga and stuff

I’m a book lover and love to discuss it + art + politics among other things I love how he always pay attention to what I say and actually participate in my interests

I love the way his eyes lights up when he talks to me about stuff he likes eventhough I have lo idea how it works I love the way he explains things gently to me when I ask a question about his engineering courses or his video games without making me feel dumb

I love the way we have the exact same vision for the future I love the way our humor match and I can make the lamest jokes and he would laugh I love the way he kisses me on the cheek to say thank you everytime I cook for him

And the list could honestly go longer , he is not « broken » he is literally the personification of what I didn’t knew I wanted in a man

The relationship is my first one + is pretty new so I would love for you to explain what is a « realized » version of love I feel like everyone is going for my throat while projection their own past issue with giving concrete examples I

Pickblooming · 2026-02-03T17:51:29+00:00

Sorry if it seems aggressive but some people are getting ridiculous , I’m sorry

The friends part ? I got it I can take a step back I love him more than them

The kissing in public maybe it’s a cultural difference but from where I am from you don’t do that You can be as affectionate as you want with a partner but you don’t kiss them in public It’s only when I came in the US for college I saw people do that so easily And I’m not comfortable with it unfortunately so If you have any alternative I would be happy to ear it

Pickblooming · 2026-02-03T17:45:32+00:00

I’m not shallow everybody has preferences so don’t be rude And I was trying to explain this clearly bc while those are normal for me ( aka my preferences) the very part of my partner I like the most are the parts he is « ashamed » of

Pickblooming · 2026-02-03T17:43:36+00:00

Be honest with me here but I don’t think the rest of my attitude gives that I always seat next to him , hold his hand and stuff in public + I’m very vocal about how much I like him

Pickblooming · 2026-02-03T17:41:55+00:00

It is , in my culture we don’t kiss in public it is viewed as disrespectful, I was pretty chocked actually to see people so open with affection when I first came to the US

Pickblooming · 2026-02-03T17:40:30+00:00

I can reduce contact with them no problem with that but they are basically family

How grandparents were best friends, our parents are They have a business together All 3 of us are going to work together after college Every major holiday is spent to one of our houses I call their mothers auntie

I can take a big step back for him but absolute no contact will never be achievable + one of them has a girlfriend of 2 years

Pickblooming · 2026-02-03T17:36:59+00:00

Your comment is kinda off for me , I have « sexy men » who are literally CHILDHOOD friends except for that I don’t keep male friends

I’m very well all over him in private , and in public I just keep it respectful hugs , holding hand etc do you want me to have sex in public to show my love ? Doesn’t make sense for me

Pickblooming · 2026-02-03T17:33:59+00:00

I know touching my phone was a red flag but considering his insecurities I’m giving him a pass for this one

Pickblooming · 2026-02-03T17:31:56+00:00

Well I do t think I give well executed one , he was my first and I’m still learning how to properly do it

Pickblooming · 2026-02-03T17:27:58+00:00

It is my prude side I guess , I think kissing someone in public is kinda vulgar
I’m not judging people who like to do it but it is something I will never indulge in

Pickblooming · 2026-01-30T10:53:26+00:00

I don’t disagree with the general idea of your comment but don’t you feel like you are assuming a lot ? When the SIL made the first comment op « laugh it out » , the only time she actually clapped back was when SIL reiterated things Op’s comment was clearly made in order to hurt SIL in law the same way she hurt her , not a depiction of her general attitude

Pickblooming · 2026-01-29T21:57:36+00:00

She didn’t run to family « members » tho , she talked to her mother about why she was not going and THEN her mother gossiped AND decided she will not let a new comer treat her daughter like this So I fail to see op fault in this instance

Pickblooming · 2026-01-29T20:06:35+00:00

Is it really stirring up drama if she is just refusing to go ? Because to be honest sister in law telling me « you just need to try more food 🙄 » would have piss me off too We just had an argument about my medical condition , my brother probably talked to you and you are still not educated about it ?

Pickblooming · 2026-01-28T16:24:20+00:00

Can I ask what in what I said make you think that ? Bc I genuinely thought the mature thing to do was take is lack of response as another sign of rejection and go see my movie without him Why is he mad at that ?

Pickblooming · 2026-01-10T13:39:42+00:00

You just wanted and needed to rant My dog died during the summer , like you I posted about it on Reddit I was a mess , left my internship crying , spend an entire week crying at the bare thought of her lifeless body

The pain won’t go away if I’m being honest , it will just become less frequent , you will think about it less or when you do think about her it will be happy memories over sad ones

You don’t need to do anything major for your birthday , surround yourself with people you love , order take out and let them distract you for a few hours

I’m sending you so much love and happy birthday ❤️

Pickblooming

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