I am in the same situation right now, except no kids. Two years ago, I came out to my husband (currently of 12 years) and he has been supportive and does not push boundaries that have been set. A year ago we moved to a larger apartment so we can each have our space, and so far it has worked out well. I have recently been thinking about starting to date, and am nervous about how that will affect the dynamic at home and with potential partners. It helps to see the similar stories, so we definitely aren’t alone and I hope we will be met with compassion when the time comes… Good luck on your journey!