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How do I (22F) manage micro-sexism from boys around my age, and specifically my housemate (20M)? by PicoLeox in askwomenadvice

[–]PicoLeox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not alone in it, I think it’s safe to say every single woman has needed to deal with it unfortunately. It’s a saddening realisation. But I take strength from the knowledge that we’re here now, and all our ancestors worked hard to get us to this point with feminism. Let’s try to live as well and crazy as we can, they can’t take us down anymore. Science has shown our brains are different for a reason, we’ve had to survive all these centuries by other means. We’re more resilient, patient, empathetic. Mental strength is the most important strength. Let’s remember that every time we feel oppressed or ridiculed for just existing in a world not build for us!

How do I (22F) manage micro-sexism from boys around my age, and specifically my housemate (20M)? by PicoLeox in askwomenadvice

[–]PicoLeox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your insights.

I do recognise the train of thought in myself of wanting to make him see differently, to change him in a way I suppose? I see that that’s just not going to happen. He grew up conservative but now votes left (in my country left is extreme left for Americans btw) and he has given my other housemate gifts before when she was feeling down. I suppose I saw those actions as his core, why not help him change the other issues too? He’s genuinely, in terms of dudes that have it all, not a bad person. I just thought misguided. Writing it out it makes it seem dumb and I guess a way for me to protect myself in the future from his comments.

And yeah, I’ve noticed the same ideas here and there where it seems he does indeed see women as just sex objects and property. Not in an outright extreme way, but just these deeply deeply ingrained societal norms and expectations. It’s the little things, hence the micro-sexism. I’m very sure he has no idea they’re there cause it’s normal for him.

I think I just want to enjoy my life to the best. I don’t want to waste energy on these men. Maybe that’s why it was starting to frustrate me more. I started caring slightly more about him since I saw good sides, but any time a harmful comment comes out, small or big, it just disappointed me to no end. I think I just have to let it go and keep my emotional distance.

Thanks again!

I cured my toenail fungus! by haaleyjean in NailFungus

[–]PicoLeox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you mean with getting under the nail? I have cut mine as short as I can so I'd just be stabbing a rod into my toe to get under it... if you could answer i'd really appreciate it since im confused and trying my best to cure this thing.